How Long Does The Pain Last? Options

[Magellansmommy]

I just recently lost my baby suddenly! His name was Magellan. He was only 8, to be 9 next month! How long does the pain last?? It's almost more than I can bear. He was my angel, my best friend. I miss him sooooo much! I will be getting his ashes back next week. I want him to be home with me. I always promised him we would be together and we will. In this life and the after. Any advice from anyone who has been through this??

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[Jomoose]

HI i'm so sorry to hear about your little Magellan, he looks like a real cutie!! It has only been a week since i lost my cat Rumpton, so i often ask myself the same question that you asked. I seem to have had up days and bad days, at the moment i seem to be in denial and just carrying on with the things in life that you have to do, like going to work and cooking, but it all seems so pointless and my life feels empty. Whenever i think about him i just want to break down and have a good cry. I think there are some other good posts from people who have experienced their loss longer ago that are a help to read.

Hang in there though, i find it helps me to look at some photos and remember the happy times we had together.

Take care

[PHIL LONNE]

I'M VERY SORRY FOR EVERYONE WHO SUFFERS LOSS. IT'S BEEN 3 MONTHS NOW AND IT'S STILL PAINFUL. THEY SAY 10% LASTS WITH YOU FOREVER. I THINK THEY'RE RIGHT. LIKE YOUR PARENTS, OR OTHER GREAT PETS OF PAST. BUT 10% IS'NT REALLY PAIN , TEARS ETC . MORE OF THE BITTER SWEET NATURE AND LIVABLE.

[lewcynt]

Im so sorry about Magellan. He looks so sweet!! Its been 9 weeks now since my cat Odin passed on. And like you with Magellan, he went very sudden. Please know that the pain will lessen into beautiful, loving memories of what the two of you once shared. But it will take time. You should perhaps read Steph's posting about their Journey through Grief. It pretty much sums up what we all have went through. It saddens me when I see new members on the board. It means that somebody lost someone very special to them. This is a wonderful forum to come to for help or just a shoulder to cry on.

Take Care,
Cynthia

[Angie]

Dear Magallan's Mommy,

I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mini schnauzer of 9 1/2 years September 4th, 2005. It has been devasting in so many ways. There is a hole in my heart and in my arms. Please just allow yourself all the time you need to grieve. It is truly a member of your family.
This sight has been everything to me and it really helps that so many understand.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Just keep getting up every day and put one foot in front of the other. That is all you can do. Allow yourself all the tears that you have and stay on this site. I promise it will help.

Take care.
Maggie's Mom
Angie

[Fiona]

Dear Macgellans mummy
So sorry to hear of your loss -belive youme when I say that alal the people here really DO understand what you're gingthough. THis forum has been a lifeline tome over the past 10 weeks since I lost my wee tinkie to a speeding car. i really understand that this is the most awful time in your life - the pain is so ray and stabbing. I still mis s my baby sooooomuch - not a day goes past without me sheddinga tear and thinking about im - I'd give anything tohave him back./ But the pain si now not quite so raw - I am still grieving but my new puppy helps to distract me - he cant replace Sgith and never will but he makes me laugh when I never thought I'd laugh ever again.
My thoughts are with you
Much hugs
Fiona

[Magellansmommy]

Thank you so much all for your kind words. It has been so hard this week. I still break down whenever I see pictures of him or see his empty bed. I miss him SO much and can only wish he is having the time of his life waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge. He loved to lay in the sun and warm his belly....I bet he is doing that as well as romping around with all the other dogs and even cats...he loved cats! He loved everyone and everything! He was so loveable and had such a BIG heart!!! I will always feel a hole in my heart for him and will think of nothing but fond memories & great times with him!

Jennifer
Magellan's Mommy

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[Luna]

Hi,

I just lost my cat Theodore two nights ago on September 20th to Chronic Renal Failure. The grief is incredible. He was with me for 13 years. I miss him so much. I also know too that the pain will lessen in time. The reason I know this is that I lost my father six weeks ago. The same week he died, Theo was diagnosed. Over the six weeks, I've been grieving for my dad heavily and looking after Theo at the same time. Theo was a real comfort to me. I felt that I was starting to climb out of the grief for my dad and then Theo took his turn for the worst. So I'm back in the grief, and I'm processing: crying, sleeping, talking with family and friends. Make sure you've got the support people around you. It will take time and it's different for everyone. But you will get through. The pain will lessen in time but you'll never forget the joy your animal gave to you.

Joy
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[Duelie]

It's been almost 5 years since I lost the love of my life, a Rottweiler named Duelie. It is now 3:30 am in S. California and I had a dream about him which woke me up. This is not the first time this has happened. I have other pets in my life (most lived to be very old, I still miss them too.) But the loss of Duelie was and still is just as painful for me as it was holding him in my arms while he died almost five years ago.

Some of my friends and family think it is something I should be over by now. The only person who truly understood my pain was my pastor. I looked this early morning for a new outlet for my pain and found this website.

One person said to me two weeks after he died "Aren't you over that now?" . That horribe person and his mean words still go though my mind.

So I guess I too am looking for people who understand the pain of loosing a furry family member.
I have read all the posts and I am sure I have found a place to express my loss along with the rest of the members here. I feel the pain too and would never underestimate the sorrow we feel.
Thank you,
Ann

[luv_my_catz]

Dear Magellans Mom- For me the pain lasts forever but changes is size and shape and form and location - moving deeper within my heart. I find that it infinitely changes my soul , and empowers my spirit to better love - to embrace the healing light of Grace and the joy ~ to discover the Hope that comes in each new day ~ Some days are more difficult than others - and sorrows overwhelm ~ yet when the darkness clears ~ the love is still there burning bright giving me the courage to stay ~ to risk ~ to find another rainbow ~ May you find yours

[samhaincat]

What a sweet dog, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how much it all hurts.
I don't know if the pain of losing them ever really goes away, it hasn't for me, but it does get bearable because in time you focus on the wonderful moments you shared and those happy memories make you smile. You still miss them dreadfully but life moves on and drags you with it. I lost my boy Zody over 2 years ago and I don't think a day goes by when he doesn't cross my mind at least once. Usually because I'll think of something funny he did, or I'll think of a fond memory I have. I just lost my two girl within 5 weeks of each other and I miss them dreadfully, my sweetie Nymph just went this morning. The pain is still very raw at this point but I know in time I'll focus on the wonderful memories of a shared lifetime.
I hate that they don't live as long as we do.
Some people say 'I'm never getting a pet again because I don't want to go through that pain again.' but to me if you think about it rationally, you have a lifetime of love and that time at the end as excrutiatingly painful as it is, is short in comparision to all the love and joy you share with them over the time you have them. The love doesn't die, it's all still there, just send it out to the universe to your lost loved ones and let the return of their love wash over you and bring you some comfort.
This is a wonderful forum and are all brothers and sisters sharing our pain and empathy.

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[Magellansmommy]

I picked up his ashes on Friday...how difficult that was!!!! It will be a week tomorrow!! I miss him so much everyday. I am still waiting for him to come home so I can take him to the park, play with him, and sleep on the bed with me. How he used to cuddle! I will always hold a special place in my heart for him and as he waits at the Rainbow Bridge for me having a grand ole time, I can dream of the day we will see each other again!!!

Jennifer

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