An Upset That Brought Tears Back, Missing Abby Options

[Abby's Mommy]

I do not wish to share this post.

[Stitch]

You will be glad to know its NOT just wishful thinking on your part. Xian has been gone 6 weeks now, and I still hear/see/smell him in the apartment.

He's been seen playing with his brothers and sisters, chasing them around the apartment. His energy I've seen parked in front of my refridgerator (he was the BEST mouser sor such a laid back baby!!)

My son has smelled him, as have I and my husband, countless times in the apartment.

You aren't crazy, but I wonder if this guy has ever owned a furbaby, because if he ever has, he wouldn't act so thoughtlessly.

Stitch

[Norah'sMom]

Abby's Mommy,

I believe you 100 percent and you are not crazy! One day I was talking to Allie and telling her how much I missed her, meanwhile her bowls were sitting on top of the washing machine, and they fell off onto the floor at the very moment I told Allie I missed her. And her hair keeps showing up everywhere too even though I've vac%%ed and swept several times. (Granted I know it keeps just coming out from under the furniture because there was so much of it!) BUT I absolutely believe that her presence is still around, and when I feel it it strongly is a rare gift from God!

It sounds like maybe you should look into changing therapists.

he was totally useless and did not help me at all and yawned through the whole session

!!! He sounds like a real a-hole to me. Excuse my language.

Love,
Jenny

[litebrez]

I too, agree that you need a new therapist............one in which to care and understand while providing support..........verses the tearful condition this episode has left you with.

Believe it or not............there are people out there like us who are so blessed to experience the moments of our lovies sweet messages of letting us know........they are close at hand..........besides being in our hearts forever. Some folks may have had an experience, as well....but would never fess up to it with concern of what others would think.

Sometimes I can smell my grandmothers perfume in my home and I will enjoy the moment she is in the room with me............
Esabella lets me know she's there............I love it.

Please don't cry ................enjoy and know many of us are just as lucky as you.

Hugs....

Litebrez

[Wanda]

I ,to, believe you 100% ! My deceased pets visit me.
Your therapist needs to be repaced with another one with more compassion and I believe you should find another one.......perhaps a Christian therapist. I've had to be in therapy a time or two and I've always had a Christian therapist because of my Christianity. I won't go to a non-christian therapist.

Don't cry.......just enjoy the moments of the visits.


Wanda

[Rusty's Mom]

Dear Abby's Mommy,

Your therapist doesn't know what he's talking about. How can he tell you that what you've experienced isn't true? I'd find another therapist (one who's known the love of animals) or just come here and talk to us and see how you feel without any "outside" therapy for awhile.

Lynn

[Kathleen032]

Dear Abby's mom,

I think our furbabies do make little visits back to us...sometimes the visits are subtle, sometimes they're not so subtle. I believe that sometimes they come in the form a sign like a beautiful sunrise or a shooting star, sometimes in a dream, sometimes by feeling a presence in the room, sometimes hearing them, etc. I'm so sorry your therapist dismissed the sign you had from Abby.

I've not shared this with anyone yet, but this seems like a good time to share this...I feel like Shiloh sent me a sign last night. Before Shiloh died, she and I were outside one night and I was looking at the stars, I picked a star and told her that everytime I look at that star, I'd think of her. Last night I was outside and I found my Shiloh star, I thought of her and said out loud, "I miss you, Shiloh." Just as I said that, I saw a shooting star. I think it was Shiloh's way of saying I miss you too, but I'm okay. Your therapist might dismiss that as a coincidence, but for me, I believe. And I too believe that Abby is ever present in your life and sending you little signs.

Take care,
Kathleen

[Ann H]

I am sorry that your therapist tried to bring you down like that. I too would be getting rid of him, you do not need to become more depressed because of his unbelief. I know that your precious Abby and your other babies gave you signs that all was well. We are not crazy one bit, I heard my Snookie bark one day. I would know her bark any where, my husband felt Chili Bean on his bed a couple of times. Keep holding on to the comfort your babies are sending you. Enbrace that comfort for they really are with you.
Love, Ann

[Del]

I am so sorry that your therapist brushed you off in that manner. That was so inconsiderate of him. I think you should seriously consider changing therapists. I believe that there comes a time when you have to just move on. I also believe that with any professional relationship, whether it be psyshotherapy or even a doctor-patient relationship, there's a point in time when that person can no longer help you. You need someone with a fresh and different outlook....someone who you can start over with and who may have a new and better way of treating you. It doesn't mean that the old therapist is no longer effective in general. It just means that your time with that person has reached a stale point. You need someone who can look at you with bright eyes and new thoughts.

Take care of yourself and know that you have a right to share what's happening in your life. And it's your therapist's job to listen and respect your insights and feelings.

BTW, I do think our loved ones who have moved on to another realm of existence do come back to visit us.

Hugs,
Carol

[j4lorn]

Hi Abby's Mommy,

I certainly believe you. I think my Jake has come back to visit me a few times, most recently just last weekend - he has been gone for 7 months now.

Right after he died, I kept getting glimpses of him out of the corner of my eye, very vididly. There was once when I went to let our other dog out back at night, right before bed -- I swear I saw him trot out the door too, looking back at me with that little doggie smiling face. It was his habit to go out right before bed, he was such a sweet gentleman, so maybe you could chalk that up to my subconscious. But there was another really weird time, it was the first week after - he died on a Monday, the vet had told us they would pick him up for cremation on that Tuesday.. This is what I believed. And that weekend, Saturday night and Sunday night, I felt an extremely strong pull to go into his room, he slept sometimes on our guest bed, we called it his room. I found out later he had been cremated on Friday night, I like to think that set his spirit free and he came back to see me then.

There have been a couple of other times, most recently last week when I was up later, about 1:30 am letting our other dog out. I was standing by the fridge getting some ice water and out of the corner of my eye, I saw a white blur (my dogs are white) walk by me headed into the living room. So I thought, ok, Peety's in, I'll shut the back door now... when I turned to shut it, there comes Peety bounding out of the basement and straight out the back door -- he came from the opposite direction as where the blur went!

So I seem to be catching glimpses out of the corner of my eye. Just for a fraction of a second. This last time I wasn't thinking of my Jake at all, just the routine of being tired, letting the other dog out and going back to bed.. It doesn't scare me, it makes me feel good. I really hope it is him there, hanging around like always with his mommy.

[Rusty's Mom]

Kathleen - The Shiloh star............That's wonderful! I have no doubt that was a sign from sweet Shiloh and that the shooting star I saw on my way to work one week after Rusty died was a sign from him, letting me know he's OK. It was very comforting.

After reading about visits from Abby, Jake, Snookie, Chili Bean, Shiloh, Esabella, Litebrez's grandmother, Allie, Xian.....They can't all be "wishful thinking".

Litebrez, you're right......We are so blessed...............


Lynn

[Pamela]

WoW again Kathleen, just last night I went outside and looked up to the stars and said I love you Moose I love you Moose I love you................yikes!!!!
So, I do know that they visit us...our concept of things is so narrow, not all have eyes to see. I am assured of this. Love Pamela

[kimberlyheide]

Dear Abbys Mom,

Thank you for posting about your NDE. I believe you 100%. Your post has helped me restore my faith. The day bubba died Rick and I were at the computer in our bedroom. Something jumped up on the dresser and knocked a chinese meditation ball on the floor. None of my cats were in the room at the time so we figured that was bubba. One of my cats has been getting up on the TV, and has been staring into a large framed picture to the point it seems she sees something inside the picture. Her behavior is really strange when she does that.

Thank you for posting about your experience

Kim

[Nanpacific]

Dear Abby's Mom,

I think your therapist is the one who is crazy. He has obviously never had a close bond with a furbaby or he would not have said that. How thoughtless and uncaring he is. He is also wrong. I believe you.

My Sasha visited me the next day after she died. I heard her bark at the foot of my bed as did my other dog Skipper who got up to look for her. After 12 years I would know that bark anywhere. Also, we have an atomic clock that is a real pain to set - you have to dig out the directions to do it, and the morning after Sasha visited me the clock was three hours fast. I know it was her messing with me as I was working with someone on the East Coast that day. I believe it was her way of telling me she was OK and that she was still with me and involved with me.

Amazing how many of us here have had similar experiences. I think we are lucky to still have them with us.

Nancy