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[sammysmom]

My poor baby Sammy was run over by a car Wed. morning. I feel like it's all my fault...I let him slip out of the door. It still feels like a horrible nightmare. I can't sleep. It was just so sudden...he gets out and 20 min later he's dead. I want to go take a sleeping bag and sleep in the yard by his grave. It's cold and raining outside and I don't want him to be alone. But I know that that isn't practical.

I put some bright yellow flowers on his grave...they reminded me of what a shining spirit he had. I also hung a white cross on the fence above his grave. I have 3 other dogs and Sammy was the link that connected them all. Now that he's gone I don't know how they'll act. I can't get them to eat their food.

I rescued my little angel from the SPCA. I had never seen an Italian Greyhound before and I thought he looked weird. I was so used to owning little furballs like Pomeranians. But he had such a lively spirit that I just had to take him. That was the best decision I ever could have made.

He loved to curl up on my legs under a blanket because he was always cold. He loved chasing his sister Lola around the couch in circles. He was the one that never left my side...even curling up on the floor next to the bathtub when I'd take baths. I truly don't know how I'm going to make it through all this pain.

I have always had several pets but this is the first one to pass away who was truly mine. The pain is unbearable. I think the worst part is that I'm 4 mos. pregnant and I can't imagine my baby not getting to meet Sammy. He would've loved the baby.

I guess that's all I can say for now. I need to stop writing before I upset myself to badly and make myself sick. I love you Sam.

[Ann H]

Hi, I just wanted to say once again I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby Sammy. I cried even hard when I read you wanted to take a sleeping bag and sleep by his grave. It made me want to wrap my arms around you like a mother would and comfort you. Yet no words could ever take away the pain you feel. Only time will lessen the pain so you will be able to bear it and continue living. It is so hard to be without our babies and the tears continue to come months later for most of us. Keep coming and posting about your baby and all your thoughts. Maybe you can lure your other 3 babies with something they really love. Most of us have had trouble with our other babies eating too.
Hugs, Ann

[Martina]

Sammysmom...it is so very normal for it to hurt so very bad. Please do not feel guilty about the accident...it was just that, an accident. We do not have control over everything, that is just how it is. Remember that your Sammy is in a great place right now. He was pretty sure he made it to heaven when he went home with you.....he is very happy......don't worry. He is not alone, and I would even bet he knows your unborn baby already....whispering in thier ear how lucky they are to be coming into a wonderful home. He will always be around and will be there as your child grows. He will be present as you instill upon your little one the importance of love for all living things and the gratitude we must have for unconditional love. If I were you, I would start trying to remember the good times, the times that made you laugh and smile. Whisper about these times to your child with a smile, and know Sammy is probably telling them what he was really thinking when he sat by the tub! Your other dogs will come around. It takes time for them to adjust. It has been a week since our Manuka left us, and the other dogs are still looking expectantly for her (or maybe they are listening to her!) You are in my thoughts! Martina

[LittleGirl's...]

Sammy's Mom,

How are you doing?? I just read your story and I wanted to send you my heartfelt sympathy.

Right now I know it seems that it will be impossible to go on. But you will be able to, and Sammy will be helping you. I have no doubts that what Martina said is true and that Sammy's spirit is very much alive.

Sammy doesn't blame you for anything. I believe that for some unknown reason, his time in this earthly body was up. ..Too soon, I know! The pain seems unbearable.

But Sammy's experiencing only bliss and peace---no pain of any kind. I believe that in the realm he is in, there is no sense of time or space (those are earthly perceptions), so he's not "missing you" in the sense that you are missing him. To him it will seem like no time has passed before you will be fully reunited.

I received several "signs" from my Little Girl, which have been comforting.

You will get through this, and we are here for you.

Sending love and prayers,

Kathy

[Caroline]

Your baby Sammy was such a sweet looking doggy. So sleek and graceful looking. I am sorry for the unbearable loss you are feeling right now. Sometimes, it is harder to accept when they leave us so young. It doesn't feel fair somehow. I know it must be hard to be pregnant and suffering from this grief. I have a 3 year old and a 17 month old, and all I wanted to do after Lucy died was get in bed and never come out. I made a scrapbook for Lucy, which told her story from birth to death. I know my son who is 3 might have some memories of her, but I want to be sure that Lucy is remembered by both my son and my daughter, forever. I don't ever want her to be forgotten. That is important to me. You can talk to your unborn baby about Sammy, and then when he/she is born, you can share your stories about Sammy, to make sure that this creature who touched you so can live on through you. I also light a candle to mark the weekly time of Lucy's death. For me, it is just a small time of rememberance and reflection. It is one of the ways I can honor her spirit. I am thinking about you and hope that you are somehow getting through this....Take care of yourself...

Caroline

[Pamela]

Sammymom
I know just what you are feeling, you see I got distracted and then I heard Moose scream as the car hit him, he had to be put to sleep the next day. Since then I have gone through so much, I felt such guilt until people here pointed out that accidents do happen and we would not intentionly hurt them. I am so so sorry you had to lose your Sammy by a car also, it stings.
I just dont know what to do with my self, my whole life has changed so much not having Moose.......BUT I am alot better than I was... and there was a time that I never thought I could be. Again, I am so sorry. Pamela

[billyc]

I always feared our Whitey would end up run down by a car, as he had to have his freedom. He had always been an outdoor cat. He would come to us for food & maybe take a nap indoors, but he always loved to roam, so when he would go to the door & ask to be let out, I would let him go, tho I sure did not want him to. We finally adopted a kitten to be our inside pet & stay with us, & I think poor Whitey resented that, but he finally got used to her. But he did not hang around inside as much as he had before. So I had to hang out with him outside a good bit to enjoy his company. I spent hours sitting on our driveway petting him. One day a neighbor lady stopped to ask if I was alright, because she saw me laying on the ground. I thanked her & told her I was just playing with my cat. Whenever I was outside he would come to me - at the mailbox, at the clothesline, or when I was taking a stroll around the block. He loved me to stroke him. Did not care much to be picked up tho. I lived in dread of the day I would find his little lifeless corpse in the road, but it never came. Instead he got FIV & I ended up having to have him put to sleep - one of the worst days of my life. We found our first & only child cold & blue in his crib one morning, dead of SIDS, & that was not any harder for me to bear than having to let Whitey go - to give him a peaceful death, instead of the violent one I had so long feared. Sorry to be so long winded. Having a hard time seeing the keys anyway. Not a touch typist. love, billyc.