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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Tess, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Because your heart is deeply grieving for both your beloved Li Po and Josie, you may not "feel" her / their Presence with you right now. But I assure you the sound of your voice talking to them is as sweet to them now as it was during their earthly journey with you - - for I guarantee they are intently listening to every word you say and are sharing every moment with you as you continue your earthly journey - - for the eternal flame of the eternal love you and your beloved Li Po and Josie share is always burning warmly in your heart and memories - - and NOTHING in heaven or on earth can change this.
I hope today is treating you and your precious companions kindly, Tess, and that you will have a very peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Li Po's and Josie's sweet Living Spirits to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Tess, and please let us know how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
My husband is rushing Li Po to the vet now. He had a rotten night and could hardly move this morning.
May all beings be free of suffering. |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
My husband just called and LiPo died in the car on the way to the vet.
He stuck around as long as he could. He did a great job. I don't know what I'm going to do without him. |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Tess, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved LiPo. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Although when our companions are chronically ill, and we know their earthly journey with us is coming to an end, there is no way in heaven or on earth that we can ever "prepare" ourselves for the time when they transition home to the angels.
Tess, I know all too well when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you now travel your grief adjustment journey. Although your beloved LiPo is no longer physically with you, there is one thing that will never change - - the love bond you and your beloved LiPo share. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved LiPo's sweet Living Spirit contiues to share your earthly journey as he always has and always will - - for he is always and forever a part of your heart and memories, Tess, - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. Thank you so much for sharing your beloved LiPo with us, Tess. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
Thanks moon beam. The only thing I can think of is the words to the love song from The Titanic. That's th way I felt about him.
That's the way I feel. Most of my love goes to the animals in my life. Because LiPo was blind and I am sick, we were inseparable. This is so hard. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 2,020 Joined: 13-April 11 Member No.: 7,067 ![]() |
Oh Tess,
My heart is crying for you in the homegoing of two such extraordinary dogs, Josie and Li Po. Thank you so much for sharing their pictures with us. You can see the love in their hearts shining in their faces. There are no words to say that will ease your pain even one iota, but all of us here want you to know that we care and that we know what you are going through as you physicallly separate from your two soulmates. Although it's impossible to believe during this agonizing time, when everything around you reminds you that the two darlings are no longer physically present with you, please know that after the pain eases even just a little bit, you will sense them around you in subtle ways. And you will be certain of their love for you and yours for them, because as Moonbeam says, love is forever. It is NOT bound by the laws of physics or sensory perceptions. It lies on an eternal plane. The picture of Li Po is so astounding that I can almost reach right into the picture and scoop him up into my arms. Of course, he is alive and so is Josie. Living in the Perfect World - where they are young and healthy and strong, where the food is yummy and the water is cool and refreshing. Where the sun is always shining - but not too hot - and there is plenty of shade from beautiful trees. And infinite acres of grass to roll and romp around on. And millions of friends to play with and talk to and brag about their people on earth. And the best thing of all, one day you will be reunited with them in that Paradise - never to be parted again. Have a gentle day, Tess. Dogs are the best creatures in God's creation. Rufus and Gretta's mom |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
Thank you GM for the very sweet message. So I got through the day. Our one remaining dog, Grace, never left my side and she usually follows my husband and never leaves his side. She knows.
Li Po's collar is small enough to wear as a bracelet. I showed Grace where his collar is now. I have a lock of his hair too. His absence is huge. Thanks you guys for being here. I absolutely know you understand. I suppose we'll muddle through. G'night. |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Tess, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. This grief adjustment journey is one of the most painful experiences you will know on this side of eternity. It is a journey that can only be traveled one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time in your own way and in your own time for you are now on a journey that is filled with all the first withouts and the memories that can be all too painful right now that include "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" to endure. But once again I assure you it is a journey you do not travel alone, Tess, for each of us are here for you, with you, and beside you through every step you take.
I hope today is treating you kindly, Tess, and that you will have a very peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Li Po's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Tess, and please let us know how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
Hello dear people.
I thought I couldn't live without my dog. I'm still breathing, my heart is beating but otherwise...I'm not doing well. Last week we lost a beloved cat. All the love in my life is dying. I can't get the words out today or rarely can I which is why I haven't come back to the forum. I still can't even think about Li Po without crying. I miss him so much I can't even talk about him. My husband thinks the answer is another pup. I am in so much pain all the time from th Fibromyalgia or whatever it is that I have, that I doubts about caring for another pup. While I would love to have a new puppy, the work around taking care of one seems daunting. I know I could go to the pound, I've been there but many of those dogs are part pit bull. We have had some very bad experiences with them and I could never trust one ever again. Also, I wanted to have 'the puppy experience' again. Selfish, I know. I contact breeders and then pull out at the last moment. I don't know what's happened to me since I was never shy about getting animals before. I'm trying to be practical and thinking about my future and the future of the dog. I'm extremely uncomfortable about knowing at my age the dog will probably outlive me. I don't want to get a pup out of neediness on my part. I'm wondering what you wise people here think. My thinking is colored by grief about my loss of my beloveds and grief about my whole damn life for that matter. |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Tess, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Tess, please permit me to try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief - - the uncertainty of your feelings, the continued roller coaster ups and downs, etc.. Also, please know that the stress of grieving does have an effect on our physical well-being, and so it is understandable that your physical health challenges will be intensified by the stress of your grieving.
Only YOU can determine what is best for you in making a decision about embracing a new companion into your heart and home. When my beloved handsome Black Lab Oslo joined the angels in 2009 I knew I would not be physically able to care for another canine companion. Dogs of every age do require more daily care than cats in that they need to be walked and exercised, and if they have health challenges medications dispensed, perhaps special food prepared, etc.. A puppy requires a LOT of physical energy to keep up with their training, feeding, walking, exercising, etc.. Depending on your physical abilities and energy reserves, only YOU can determine if you are physically able to properly take care of another canine companion. Cats have their own special needs, but they do not require the more intense, strenuous dedicated physical care that canine companions do. It is obvious you are not ready emotionally and physically yet to embrace a new companion as you share with us: "I contact breeders and then pull out at the last moment. I don't know what's happened to me since I was never shy about getting animals before." Losing both your beloved LiPo and your beloved feline companion in such a short period of time intensifies the grief and it is perfectly understandable that you are feeling like your ". . thinking is colored by grief about my loss of my beloveds and grief about my whole damn life for that matter. " My mother used to tell me, "when in doubt, wait. you will know when the time is right to make the decision, make the change, . . ." I have found her words of wisdom very beneficial throughout my life, and I hope in some way they will help you now. There is no rush into deciding about a new companion. Whatever you decide, and whenever you decide, will be the RIGHT DECISION and RIGHT TIME for YOU. Tess, I hope today is treating you kindly, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved LiPo's and kitty's sweet Living Spirits to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 363 Joined: 1-April 09 From: Fisher Branch, Manitoba Canada Member No.: 5,667 ![]() |
Dear Tess.
I have just finished reading your posts. So very sorry for your losses. I can totally relate to what you feel. I too lost two dogs within eight months of each other, one tragically, the other to cancer. It was extremely difficult. I've lost dogs before, but losing Lily in 2008 was unbelievably unbearable. I couldn't breathe. Then to find out Hunny had cancer just days after. Hunny fought hard, but we had to make that awful decision to let her go. I cried and cried so much. I had no regrets when it was time. Still losing her did not make it any easier. The only thing that made it bearable was that she was going to be with Lily again. I miss them both so so much. It'll be six years since losing Lily and it's five for Hunny. I miss them like it just happened. We lost a kitten during the night last night. Her mother was killed a week and a half ago, so we were bottle feeding her and her four siblings. But poor Jewel stopped eating a couple days ago. Why - who knows, but she's with her mum now. Still it is so heartbreaking to lose any of them. Sometimes, I too feel like my life is full of death. We lost George, our beloved border collie last November. He was hit on the road. No one was home just my other dogs, but they were in the house. George didn't want to go in that morning. We knew it was going to happen sooner or later though. We tried everything to break him of the bad habit of chasing vehicles. Still it was devastating. He was only 5 1/2. I have three other dogs. Infact we got Izzy just 10 days after losing Lily. Then there's Barney and Casey. I love them so much - I know when their time comes it will be the worst thing ever. I get too attached to my pets but how can you not. Like you I also believe them to be my best friends and my kids too! I love them each with every thing I am. I could never not have dogs. I know it hurts when they go and since losing Hunny and Lily I find myself thinking of those days when these guys have to leave me. I hate myself for thinking such thoughts, but losing Hunny and Lily hurts so much I guess I'm just afraid to go through it again. Anyway, enough about me. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Josie lived a very long life - I wish mine would've. They are both beautiful. I don't believe in God either, but I hope so much that there is something else after this life. I want so much to be with them all again. And there are many days when I wish I could be with them now. Today is one of those days. Losing Jewel was upsetting. I knew she wouldn't make it through the night. She was so weak she couldn't even sit up anymore. I hate that - I hate losing my little babies. I know she was only about 4 weeks old, but still it is not any easier. I guess all any of us can do is take one day at a time. Somehow, we manage to get through them. And before you know it - six years have passed!! This is a wonderful website. I came here when we were losing Hunny. Moon Beam was and still is such a kind person. The words she speaks are so comforting. And she writes so beautifully doesn't she? You are in my thoughts. I hope today you find some small amount of peace and comfort. Take care. Lynette. |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 18 Joined: 29-September 13 Member No.: 8,114 ![]() |
Good reminder, moonbeam, that only I will when and if the time is right. I think the idea about the new pup was something along the lines of me 'snapping out of it', that I needed some help with that - a distraction from the terrible uncomfortably of emptiness.
Buddhist teachers will tell you to sit will that emptiness and even embrace it but mostly I'm feeling that I've had enough emptiness now, thank you very much. ![]() Thanks for your sweet words, Lynette. I'm sorry for your losses. Wishing you both a gentle, peaceful day. ![]() |
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