Tom And Me, The Beginning, The Making of a Pet Parent Options

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, stopping by to say hello and to share your beautiful love letters to your beloved Sir Thomas. It doesn't matter how much time passes on our continued earthly journey for our beloved companions are forever with us in our hearts and memories. And I firmly believe they find ways to continue to let us know they are with us in our journey in various ways - - like sending butterflies just for us. Thank you for sharing your and your beloved Sir Thomas' treasured memories with us.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Theresa and little Tang kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious furkids will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, Tracy, and of your precious Theresa and little Tang. Please know you and your precious fur tribe are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Sir Thomas.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, stopping by to say hello and to share your beautiful love letters to your beloved Sir Thomas. It doesn't matter how much time passes on our continued earthly journey for our beloved companions are forever with us in our hearts and memories. And I firmly believe they find ways to continue to let us know they are with us in our journey in various ways - - like sending butterflies just for us. Thank you for sharing your and your beloved Sir Thomas' treasured memories with us.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Theresa and little Tang kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious furkids will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, Tracy, and of your precious Theresa and little Tang. Please know you and your precious fur tribe are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Sir Thomas.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you LoveMyMickey and moon_beam

As summer turns to Fall, and Fall to early Winter I realize I'm coming up on the 2 year mark of his Angelversary crossing the Rainbow Bridge. That night still haunts me; more so as I get closer to the actual date. The whys/why nots and what ifs. Every time I give Tang his insulin shots I try to get clinically detached to get through it without breaking down. In the back of my mind I'm still thinking about Tom and how nervous I was the first few times I gave him his shots. How "good" at it I have become even after months of not doing it.

There is so much of Tom I see in Tang. And yet he is still very much his own kitty man. Even Theresa interacts with him differently. I still have Tom's little picture on my computer desk and his larger color print out (my avatar on here) on the wall behind the TV with the sympathy cards and his clay paw print. As odd as it may sound, I still talk to them and him. So much guilt in not having the money. Not just for his care here on earth, but not being able to afford private cremation; not having his ashes.

Be good up there Sir Thomas, my Prince. You are loved and missed.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I can feel the melancholy in your heart about what you could and could not do for your beloved Sir Thomas. I truly am very sorry you could not afford a private cremation of your beloved Tom. But you ALWAYS have his sweet Living Spirit with you, Tracy, in your heart and your memories. And no, it is not odd at all for you to continue to talk to him for the sound of your voice is like a sweet incense lifting upward to him as he continues to listen intently to every word you say to him.

I can so understand how giving your precious Tang his insulin injections is a constant flash back for you to your beloved Sir Thomas. I felt the same way giving my beloved Eli his chemo treatments as they were the very same meds my mom took for her identical cancer. Others in the "general population" might not understand how much little Tang's diabetes weighs on your heart because of your experience with your beloved Sir Thomas, but I assure you, Tracy, we here in this wonderful forum DO get it - - and equally, if not most, importantly so does your beloved Sir Thomas.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Theresa and little Tang kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious furkids will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, Tracy, and of your precious Theresa and little Tang. Please know you and your precious fur tribe are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Sir Thomas.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you moon_beam

For your kind and supportive words as usual. This time of year is always hard for me. Tom may have passed in December of that year, but it was around this time he really showed signs of going down hill For a cat of 10-11 he looked twice that age. I wish I'd been kinder, gentler, and more patient. I know we have been all over "anitcipatory" grief, but it does not make those dark times any easier to reconcile.

Yes, every time I give Tang a shot, it takes me back to some difficult times. But, I try to take joy in being able to take care of him and Theresa - and sometimes - just every once in a while - I will see a bit of Tom in their eyes, the way they play, etc.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, thank you so much for sharing your beloved Sir Thomas with us. People who live with one another, and who are attuned to one another emotionally, often embrace the characteristics of their spouse / significant other - - they become one heart and one mind. I believe it is the same for our precious companions - - even when they have never physically known the companion who is with the angels. I do firmly believe that our beloved companion's sweet Living Spirit is ever present and is "revealed" to us through some of the behaviors and characteristics apparent in our new companion(s). So I hope you find comfort in knowing that your beloved Sir Thomas continues to share your earthly journey through his sister Theresa and little brother Tang ("every once in a while - I will see a bit of Tom in their eyes, the way they play, etc.").

I hope today is treating you and your precious Theresa and little Tang kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious furkids will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, Tracy, and of your precious Theresa and little Tang. Please know you and your precious fur tribe are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Sir Thomas.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Dear Thomas, as Summer now turns to Autum and the leaves change color, the air is cooler and crisp. This was always your favorite time of year. A time when it was no longer hot, but not yet quite cold. A time for you and your little sister to go on the balcony and we would watch the sun set together. It was also just 2 years ago around this time that would be your last Autum with us. I wish I'd known. I would have treasured it so much more. You be good up there my baby boy. Oh, and one more thing. Stay gold Tommy boy, stay gold. This one's for you.

http://youtu.be/ZXU2hE8FmjM

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing, and your heart-felt beautiful love letter to your beloved Sir Thomas. The seasons changing are mile markers to our journey with our companions - - both while they physically share their earthly journey and after they precede us to the angels. The time they share with us during their earthly journey seems to go by in a blink of an eye - - the time we must continue on in our earthly journey after they precede us to the angels feels like an empty eternity. It is a difficult adjustment even when we have the blessing of other precious companions to continue sharing our earthly journey. The comfort is knowing that the love bond we share with them is eternal, and this gives us the courage and hope to continue on as their living legacy.

I hope today is treating you and your precious Theresa and little Tang kindly, my friend, and that you and your precious furkids will have a very peaceful, blissful, and cozy evening. I thank you for the blessing of your friendship, Tracy, and of your precious Theresa and little Tang. Please know you and your precious fur tribe are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I always look forward to sharing your treasured memories of your beloved Sir Thomas.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Dearest Sir Thomas, this is how I picture the Rainbow Bridge at sunset where you surely are

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[LoveMyMickey]

Tracy, that is BEAUTIFUL!

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, ditto LoveMyMickey's response - - your image of where your beloved Sir Thomas is is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you LoveMyMickey, moon_beam

When I saw it on FB, I knew it fit perfectly with how I envisioned a place in the ether that we could share. Mostly when I am sad or depressed (which is more often then I would like) My mind comes to a place that looks like this.....

[Tom's Dad]

I came across this one today. This is where I'd like to go if it were possible for me and all my companions both here and at the Bridge to be together at the same time...

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[LoveMyMickey]

Soooooooo nice and peaceful.....Thank you for sharing, Tracy.

LoveMyMickey

[Chandanimane]

These are beautiful pictures. How nice it would be to live in a place like that.

-Laura

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you Laura, I like to imagine all my fur babies and me together in these places.


Well, Sir Thomas. In a few days on the 8th it will 1 year and 11 months since you went to be with the angels. It's hard to believe it's been almost 2 years my little man. Not a day goes by that I do not think about you. Your picture still on the wall by the TV with the cards and your clay paw print are prominant in our home. Your little sister Theresa misses you, and Tang is ever so thankful (as am I) that you guided him our way after he was abandoned. Be good up there Tommy Boy. Your dad, little sister, and the little brother you knew only in spirit miss you very much. Love,

Dad

PS: I'll try to find more beautiful pictures to post.

[LoveMyMickey]

Dear Tracy,

Thank you for sharing Sir Thomas' angel-versary with us. I don't know why the time passes so quickly, but it still hurts. Your Sir Thomas joined the angels about 2 months before my Mickey. I bet he welcomed Mickey with open paws.......

God Bless,

LoveMyMickey

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you LoveMyMickey

I'm sure Tom was indeed there to welcome Mickey. For he showed me how to love, and be loved. I'm better for having had him in my life......

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracy, thank you for sharing your and your beloved Sir Thomas 23 month angel-versary with us. As our forum friend LoveMyMickey so wisely notes that even though our earthly journey continues our hearts continue to miss our beloved companion's sweet precious physical presence, although the grief is not as intense as it previously was. Love is a living, growing bond that is eternal - - and I hope your heart is comforted in knowing that YOU are blessed to be your beloved Sir Thomas' Forever Dad.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Tom's Dad]

Thank you moon_beam

Today is the 8th isn't it? That's why I posted early, because I just knew the whole day would pass by without me "noticing" Some days I wonder if my Sir Thomas' memories are fading away. So much of a struggle to keep Theresa, Tang and myself off the streets; I hope my Tommy Boy understands.....