Rocky My Precious Hero, i really need help Options

[LittleGirl's...]

Hi Hesista,

Just checking in with you. I was catching up on what the others wrote. Beautiful, healing, lifesaving truths and advice!!

I loved what someone (I think it was Moonbeam) said about the time and space thing - where the limits of time and space don't apply to Rocky anymore. He's with you, he's with those who have left their physical bodies before, he's free of the limits of the body. And, he's in total bliss.

Have you had pets who have gone before him? He's with them now, too !

What does your self-care look like today? What are the most helpful things you can think of ? Does reading (like a book you can temporarily get lost in) help? Watching movies? I think one thing I did was even "schedule" how I was going to get through each hour. Of course this site was the most helpful of everything to me, and it's mostly what saved me. Have you been able to mostly stay away from people don't understand?

Sending prayers that when you wake up today, the first thing you will remember is that Rocky truly is there with you. It's really him (just not in his beautiful regal body. But he's still Rocky).

Sending a hug of comfort too,

Kathy

[hesista]

Hello my friends,
This morning was hard, this grief is like a burden you swallow and it sits in your gut and no matter where you go its always there, no matter what you do there it is, its very traumatizing, but worse. I just feel so introverted. The world has turned into something i don't recognize or make any sense of any more now that Rocky has physically died

Help!

Hesista

[hesista]

Thank you Kathy, i missed reading your letter when i just wrote my last post. Thank you thank you thank you for your reminder again that rocky is with me this morning. This morning was walking through a thick quicksand of grief, i was desperately thinking of what to take to give me some relief but i know there is really nothing, i have been taking some herbal sedatives in the evening but they just help me fall asleep after hours and then only for a a short part of the night

Thank you for your letter, it really is a life line. I know use that metaphor a lot but that is exactly what it is

So grateful.

Hesista

[Cheri]

Hi Hesista,
I hope today brings you a moment to just give yourself a hug and to give yourself credit for moving through all this pain called grief. Words will never describe how deep the love you shared with Rocky was while he was present on earth and the deep love you will forever carry in your heart. It is also difficult to describe the raw pain you suffer through with such a huge loss. Although I cannot be there to physically hug you and hear the wonderful stories about Rocky I am doing so here. So, please feel the comfort and remember we want to hear about you and Rocky, he is still there beside you ever step of the way and so are your friends here at LS.
By now he has met so many new friends and he is smiling right now looking at you, so handsome and healthy, nudging you to smile back through the tears, as he always has.
He wants you to be okay and I know you want to be also, just remember this thing called grieving has it's own time frame, we cannot put a number on when it eases. It just happens one day, when you least expect it. But I promise you will be there someday, we never thought we would get there, but somehow, with the help of this site we are healing. You will too. Stay here with us, you can always count on us.
Cheri

[hesista]

Oh thank you Cheri your letter helped me so much just when i needed it, as i mentioned last night and today are especially hard. Felt more pain and different dimensions of it that wiped me out. I was laying down most of the day, couldn't do much...again

This is going take a long time I'm realizing

I really appreciate all the metaphors and depictions everybody writes to me, they are so beautiful

its tough right now

Oh my precious Rocky

Hesista

[hesista]

Its been really hard again today, its two weeks now since Rocky died and its harder after two weeks than it was the first week. I spoke to a counselor who specializes in pet death grief support and she told me that for most of people seriously grieving the death of their animals it gets a lot worse for a long time before it gets better. Its not the case that it just gets better day by day, that instead it gets a lot worse for a long time before it gets better. She said a lot of people go through that, and that when that happens understand that can be expected. When she that, it helped me to get a grip on what was happening to me.

I feel exhausted and today i felt dizzy so i took some multi vitamins which i never take and a few other nutritional supplements, moonbeam is right, this shock and grieving takes a serious toll on our health. I knew it would be bad but i didn't realize the toll it would have on me, i really didn't realize the intense toll on our strength.

I am just taking it one minute to the next because that all i can do.

Hesista

[moon_beam]

Hi, hesista, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I'm so glad you were able to seek guidance from a professional counselor that was helpful for you. Several years ago for different traumatic reasons I needed the assistance of a professional counselor, and I'm so glad you were able to speak with someone who offered you encouragement, support, and comfort.

Yes, this grief journey does take a toll on us both physically and emotionally, so please try to get plenty of rest and try to keep the stress levels down as much as possible until you are feeling stronger. This grief journey is a marathon - - not a sprint. Clinical professionals recognize that the first year of a grief journey is the hardest because it is filled with so many adjustments in our lives.

I hope you will have a peaceful evening, hesista. Thank you again so very much for sharing your beloved Rocky with us, and how you're doing. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how things are going for you.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Cheri]

Dear Hesista,
I am comforted today with the thought that you have been given some very good advise from a counselor! You are taking good care of yourself and that is a big step on your wellness. Of course we are here wishing you only the best in your days to come. You can only do what you can and we all want to help you with each and every day.
It's a long journey, but your not alone, we are right here with you.
Always in my prayers
Cheri

[DannysMom]

Hesista, please allow me to offer my sincere sympathies on the loss of your precious Rocky. Losing a furry friend is like losing a family member. It hurts just as much if not even more. What you are feeling is normal. It hurts so much because we love our precious friends so much. They give us so much love and brighten our lives, and when they are gone they leave a huge void. I lost my little Danny boy two months ago, and I still miss him so much -- I know how you feel. Please be especially kind to yourself and get enough rest. The only way to get 'over' this is to go 'through' it, to cry the tears and to feel the pain. You may want to start a journal and write down your feelings. It does help somewhat writing down how you feel and takes some of the pain away. We are here for you.

[hesista]

Thank you Moonbeam, Cheri, and Danny's Mom, it was so good to read all of your reassurances again, Thank you for reminding me again that you're al walking with me with support on this long journey and that we are all together because that's the only way well make it


Very very grateful.
Hesista

[Cheri]

Hi Hesista
I hope you get some sleep tonight You are doing the best you can, you know. If I could make this pain go away I would in a heartbeat! Your right we do, unfortunately all share in this grief and I truly wish it weren't so. But, we are stronger because we have each other and we can do this, we WILL do this. I am here for you .
Cheri

[hesista]

Thank you Cheri your letters of love and support are my strength, when i lay there and its so unbearable i just remember your words, " you are not alone, we are all here for you, i am here for you" the pain subsides enough to get me to the next moment to breathe

Thank you Cheri, thank you thank you

Hesista

[Cheri]

Hi Hesista,
I am thinking of you today and hoping you have had a moment of comfort in the day. Maybe a glimpse of how happy Rocky is now and those images of him healthy and glowing. Have you had a Rocky spirit experience where you hear his footsteps or feel a presence beside you when you are quiet? It happens, you just have to be aware of it or it will quickly disappear. He is there and he wants you to be well, just as he always knew when you were down or ill. Not everyone can know your pain and that lonely despair, but we do, and we just sooo want to make sure you know it is normal, as crummy as that sounds, you can only do what is physically possible, and that's all the day will hold. But tomorrow might bring a little glimmer of light when you aren't looking, give yourself a chance to dream about the time when the sadness is lighter, that will someday come to you. But for now the most important thing you can do is minimize the stress you have on yourself in any way you can. Be it a walk, a nap, a chance to read this site, or find a book that gives you direction on coping, just do one little thing for yourself, it is worth it for your health.
We are forever changing and adjusting, nothing is the same, but we will get to who we are becoming in this new reality.
Just never lose hope, you are stronger then you believe, I promise.
Cheri

[hesista]

Hi Cheri,

The words you wrote me, "...you are stronger than you believe I promise" are so amazing. I believe this is what Rocky wants to say to me, these are the words Rocky wants me to hear that he"s saying to me. This gives me so much courage and strength, means so much to me

Thank you again so much Cheri

Hesista

[moon_beam]

Hi, hesista, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Just stopping by to say you are in my thoughts and prayers. Our wonderful correspondent Cheri has shared with you what is also in my heart, so please read her words of comfort, encouragement, and suport frequently, and know that they come from the both of us.

I hope today is treating you kindly, hesista, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Rocky's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Cheri]

Hi Hesista
So good to hear from you! I am wishing you a good, peaceful Saturday eve. You made it through another week, doesn't seem possible how the time goes by us when we feel as though we are standing still, frozen even. You know I look forward to hearing from you too, we all do. It might seem strange, but I think we feel better and even encouraged when we hear a new friend is moving forward along this journey with us! It just seems to help us get by day to day knowing someone else is doing the same thing at the exact moment when we need them the most.
You are in my thoughts and prayers Hesista
Cheri

[hesista]

Thank you so much Moonbeam and Cheri

It is always uplifting to read your letters. I just had to stay very quiet today and just get my self from one moment to the next, from one matter to the next. I got through this day, that's monumental sometimes

Much gratitude
Hesista

[Cheri]

Hi Hesista,
I agree, getting through some of the days routine can be monumental at times. Just trying to focus long enough to accomplish a small task can be overwhelming. The days are getting longer now and that will give me more of an opportunity to get to my list of things I tend to put off. I hope today is better than the last and you will find a moment to quiet your mind. Do something for yourself, that is what Rocky would want for you, a little treat for yourself. He is always beside you in your heart and in the beautiful memories you shared!
Take it one day, one moment at a time.
Cheri

[moon_beam]

Hi, hesista, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Adding my support to Cheri's message of comfort and encouragement to you. Especially sduring the deep grief is vitally important that you keep the stress levels to a minimum as possible. Be sure that you drink plenty of fluids because stress will dehydrate you even if you don't feel it. And if you don't feel like eating, that's normal, but it is still important that you take some form of nourishment - - like broth, or a nourishment drink like ensure or boost - - or something that will keep your immune system working. The stress of grieving takes a toll on our immune systems so it is important that you get some form of rest and nourishment.

I hope today is treating you kindly, hesista, and that you will have a peaceful evening. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[hesista]

Hi Cheri and Moonbeam, it was so nice to get another letter from both of you

Yesterday and today have been reeeeally hard. I feel soo much anziety, feel terrified at times missing Rocky.
Its like my whole being is in shock again and again. If I feel a little relief the anxiety just comes a wave unannounced and I don't know how to cope with it except just be try to hang in there somehow. I talked to a few people today, a friend who was so hurtful with what she said because I hoped to get some support from her instead she injured me with devastating comments. I feel so much worse from talking to her

I know I shouldn't talk to people who aren't where were at but sometimes I just get desperate and try and hope for the best


That's why it was so nice to come here to your letters.
I don't know how I would get through without them

Very grateful
Hesista