Missing My Sweet Maltese/pekingese Boy Options

[LoveMyMickey]

Dear Moon_Beam,

As always, thank you for your comforting words. I hope you are having a peaceful day.

I'm okay now, but had a tearful morning. I sent Mickey's previous owners a pic of his gravesite in our flower garden. I told them that I like to think of him being in heaven's beautiful garden, healthy, running around with other pets, and maybe chasing butterflies. They had him for almost 5 yrs. and we had him for almost 10 yrs. Every year I sent them a Christmas card and the latest pics of Mickey. Then I had to write them the dreadful letter a few weeks ago. They are a nice couple, but have health problems.

Take care...God Bless!

[moon_beam]

Hi, LoveMyMickey, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I can relate as to how hard it has been for you to share the news about Mickey with his previous family. As you know from reading Oslo's topic that my Oslo was a Retired Service Partner with Guiding Eyes for the Blind. I would routinely share how he was doing and all his activities as a Therapy Partner with his Puppy Raiser family and the folks at GEB. And then I had to let them know about his joining the angels. So, I do understand how hard that task was for you sharing the news about Mickey with his former family.

I am so glad the image of your precious Mickey now with the angels is comforting to you. I know it's hard, though, because I know what it's like to yearn to want to have them back - - healthy and happy - - as though nothing had happened to take them away from us.

LoveMyMickey, thank you again so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I hope this weekend will be a peaceful one for you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Peggy's Human]

Hi LoveMyMickey,

You've been on my mind a lot this week and I just want you to know you remain in my thoughts and prayers. I am sorry that last weekend was so difficult. I think it's very sweet of you to be so diligent about sending Mickey's previous owners Christmas cards and updates regarding events in his life. How difficult it must have been for you to write the letter about his passing, what a considerate person you are, keeping them so much in the loop. I hope you're doing better this week and I also hope that you're out of harms way with the stroms that have been tearing across the country.

I want to thank you again for your kindness and support while I was going through Peggy's 8 week anniversary. It was very difficult and your support meant a great deal and helped a lot. Thank you so much!

Please take care of yourself and let us know how you're doing when you have time.

Again, you remain in my prayers,

Peggy

[LoveMyMickey]

Dear Moon_Beam and Peggy's Human,

Again thank you both for your kind words. I guess I'm doing better, but I still get tears every day. But husband and I do smile more and talk about the funny things Mickey did. Eleven weeks ago yesterday, seems like forever he has been gone. I don't like Tuesdays anymore.

I am thankful that the storms did no damage in our neighborhood. I tell Mickey to watch over us.

Moon_Beam and Peggy's Human, I hope you both are doing better in this journey of grief. I always remember you in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless...

[moon_beam]

Hi, LoveMyMickey, thank you so much for letting us know how you're doing. Being able to share your memories of your precious boy is comforting to you and your husband, and this is what your precious Mickey wants for you - - to be comforted and to enjoy your cherished memories of his earthly journey with you. Just remember that it's healthy to cry - - to release your sorrow. Some folks think that if they are "strong" and don't "give in" to their grief - - if they suppress the sorrow and tears that it will make the grief easier to bear. However, clinical studies have shown that people who do not release their grief can find themselves experiencing both physical and emotional challenges later on because the stress of grief has built up in their bodies and is taking revenge on their physical health. So, please don't hold back those healing tears - - let them flow when you feel the need to cry.

LoveMyMickey, I hope today is being kind to you and your husband. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you both are doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Peggy's Human]

Hi LoveMyMickey,

I'm glad you're both reaching a point where you can smile through some of your tears and enjoy your wonderful memories of Mickey. I know it's still painful (big cyber-hug to you both!) but it sounds like the healing of your hearts may be underway - I hope! I'm sure Mickey is staying on high-alert when the storms roll in, making sure you both stay safe. And I know what you mean about not liking Tuesdays any longer. I feel that way about Friday nights and Saturdays. I'm not sure if either of us will ever be able to view those days without remembering the negative/painful association again. Time will tell, I guess.

I've been meaning to ask you, do you still have the animal restaurant service going on in your garage? I now have 5 turkeys coming to the yard twice a day to eat, 2 mated pair or Mallards and 2 bachelor Mallards coming to the pool several times a day to eat - don't even ask how bad it's going to be if any of the leftover food on the cover falls in when we pull it off in a few weeks. Not to mention the squirrels and various birds that come to visit and bus in all their squirrel and bird relatives every day so they can all get fat. LOL I realized the other day that I've gone through almost 80 lbs of birdseed in less than a month and told Mom that if I make them too fat to fly, I'm turning them into some predators fat dinner so I have to back off the food. I think I need to learn moderation when putting out the food and I do try but when I see some skinny little bird, who clearly had a hard winter, come looking for food, I don't have the heart to not throw out 'just a little more'. P.T. Barnum was right - and I now admit to being an animal sucker! LOL

I hope you're doing well today, my friend. And you know you all are in my prayers.

Take care of yourself.

Peggy

[LoveMyMickey]

Hi Moon-Beam and Peggy. I hope you and your furbabies are having a good day. Our day is good, doing some housecleaning and donated quite a few things to help children in Louisville. One thing we will not do is move Mickey's big mattress bed from our bedroom. His toys that he slept with are on it. He would put his chin on them at times. We look over at it at night and tell him goodnight.

Moon_Beam, I know what you mean about letting the tears flow. I always feel better. I got tears a few minutes ago thinking how Mickey would lick the enzyme doggie toothpaste off my finger at night. He had the cutest little tongue.

LOL, Peggy, yes I do still have my animal restaurant on the carport. We put out 3 cool whip tops as plates, the middle one has canned cat food and the other two have the dry cat food. I haven't been seeing the cats very often, but the can food disappears in the early evening. Old "Harry" the opposum eats the dry food and anything else that left later at night. During the day I have been seeing big black birds eating the dry cat food. The pieces are too big for them to swallow, but they break it with their sharp beak. (looks like they're chewing it). Most of the time we put food out twice a day.

The back yard is another story. Little birds eat out of the feeder and I put seeds on the ground for others, birds, big squirrels, Charlie the chipmunk, and my special birds, the Doves. The Doves like to hang out in the flower garden around or on the gravesites.

I spend quite a bit on seeds and cat food too, but I tell myself it's a donation to help the animals. We're like you, Peggy, we are animal suckers. Thanks for the smile today.

My thoughts and prayers remain with you all....Peggy, I will be thinking of you tomorrow night and Sat. I hope it gets easier for you and your mom.

[Abby's Mom]

Hi LoveMyMickey,

My heart breaks for your loss. OMG that picture is amazing! Mickey is one handsome guy-

Thank you for posting in my thread. It meant more than you know. I lost my beloved Abby last Wednesday and I've been an absolute mess ever since. Like you, I was with her when she took her last breath. I had her for 16 1/2 years and though I wouldn't trade a minute of it, I also want MORE time- But alas, that is not to be.

I am slowly coming to terms with her loss...which sounds crazy because I miss her as much right this minute as I did the day she passed away but I suppose I'm just learning to live with the emptiness. How is it that they grab our hearts in a second and own them for all time?

My condolences to you and your family on losing your precious Mickey and I hope that you are doing as well as possoible and finding some sense of peace. I wish that for us all.

We are all with you in spirit and know more than most the loss that you feel.

God bless you and your precious Mickey

[Peggy's Human]

Dearest LoveMyMickey,

I'm so glad you're having a good day and God love you for donating to those in need. I completely understand about keeping Mickey's bed and toys in your bedroom. Peggy's toys are still in my laundry room - and I confess, I have picked up her favorite teddy bear sevearl times and hugged it while thinking of her (can't believe I'm fessing up to that one, NOBODY in my life knows that, not even Mom). Hummm, think I'm getting way too comfortable with you guys! LOL (someone's gonna call the funny farm to come and get me!)

I thank you for telling me about the cool whip lids. My neighbors give me strange looks for putting out cat food on the plastic tops of take out containers - did I tell you my neighbors cat likes to come over here to eat??? I feed the birds out back and on the side of the house and feed the cat outside the front door to keep some distance. No clue why he comes here, I know he's well cared for, his Mom is my vet neighbor who made many late night visits to my house for Peggy; She's the one who always called Peggy my 'delicate little flower'. I always thought she was being slightly sarcastic and I told her one night that I felt bad that I was overreacting when Peggy wasn't feeling well. She told me that she wasn't kidding or being sarcastic, Peggy really was a delicate little flower and she loved her and understood why I would get so concerned when she was acting 'off'. If I didn't love my neighbors before that, I was hooked from then on. Love my dog, I love you.

Thank you so much for your prayers. We've been doing better but today I've been kind of teary. Not sure why. I'm probably going to update my own thread tonight, just to see what comes out. You wouldn't think it would matter but writing how you feel does help. LoveMyMickey, thank you so much for all your kind support. You have helped me immensly and I am truly grateful for your reaching out when you're in pain yourself. As always, you and your husband, as well as Mickey are in my (and Mom's) prayers,

Please take care of yourself.

Peggy

[LoveMyMickey]

Hi Abby's Mom and Peggy......I hope you both had a better day today.

Abby's Mom, thank you so much for your kind and comforting words. I hope and pray your days will get better with passing time. You had your Abby a long time. We had Mickey almost 10 years. He was almost 5 when we got him.....Anyway it was so hard to see him dying, but I'm glad we didn't have to make the decision to put him down. He was still having good days, but his little heart just gradually gave out. He had a heart murmur for several years.......Our last little doggie, a Maltipoo named Annie died in 2001. We made that awful decision, but she wasn't doing well at all, but I'll always wonder if we did it too soon.

Abby's Mom, We are all here for you and you will always be in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless you and your sweet Abby. Take care.



Peggy, if they pick you up to take you to the funny farm, they might as well take me too. I hug Mickey's toys every day. In the laundry room in the basement I have some things he laid on like old t-shirts etc. There is a sweater vest he liked to put close to his nose. We called it his nose mitten. Also there are some little towels we put under his eating bowl. A lot of that I will not wash yet, because I like to hug these items. I might be worse off than you. lol...

I had lots of Doves to hang around today, but no cats yet. Old Harry ate late last night.......It sounds like your neighbor's cat likes your food better. Sounds like you have a nice mixture of wild animals.

I agree that writing does help us feel better. Peggy, I know tonight on in tomorrow will be hard for you as another week has gone by. You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers, also your sweet Peggy. I also thank you for your support too.

God Bless...Take care.

LoveMyMickey

[LoveMyMickey]

It's been exactly 3 months ago today Feb. 22, 2011, since our precious boy Mickey passed away. We had a bad day yesterday, don't know why it started the day before. My husband dreamed of a little white dog during his afternoon nap.....Not a very good day today either, but we were blessed to have had sweet Mickey for almost 10 years.

[moon_beam]

Hi, LoveMyMickey, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. The "angel-versaries" are hard as they are significant reminders that our precious companions are no longer physically with us. Each day has it's own special "something" to remember, which is one of the reasons why the first year is particularly difficult.

This is why it is so important to hold on to our treasured memories, and to know you are not alone during your grief adjustment journey. Thank you so much for honoring us by sharing your precious Mickey with us. Your precious boy is forever with you just as he always has been - - and always will be.

LoveMyMickey, I do hope this day will treat you more kindly. It seems if something happens that is unsettling or distressful it is more so because we are missing our beloved companions. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, LoveMyMickey, and that I look forward to knowing how things are going for you whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[Peggy's Human]

Hi LoveMyMickey,

I'm sorry yesterday was so difficult for you both. I know what you mean about it starting the day before. That happened to me a week or two ago. It just seems to come out of the blue. Mom and I were discussing Gilda tonight and that of course led to a trip down memory lane discussing Peggy's antics. She was such a funny, funny girl! We were both tearing up while sharing different memories and laughing but I think the tears won out for both of us. It's so dang hard! Like you, we're trying to focus on how blessed we were to have her in our lives for 5.5 years and not focus on what we've lost. Hopefully, one day, we can all remember them with a huge smile and no tears (although I suspect we'll always have at least a twinge of sadness in our hearts until we see them again).

Please take care and know all of you are in my and Mom's thoughts and prayers.

Peggy

[LoveMyMickey]

Dear Peggy's Human,

I haven't seen you here since last year and I hope you and your mom are doing well. I remember I lost Mickey and you lost Peggy the same week in Feb. 2011. My husband's birthday was the same week, as you might remember. I hope you got through your first year angel-versary okay. It was very sad for us and it still is.

Peggy, I hope you can stop by and let us know how you are. You will always be in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless...

LoveMyMickey