In Loving Memory Of My Baby Harley Options

[harleysmama]

Denise, and everyone else,

Thank you all so much for you support. I've been having such a hard time without Harley, without "someone" to talk to. It's nice to come here and spill my heart out, which I have yet to really do. Harley was my world, my everything, and now that he is gone, it just feels like everything is falling apart. I'm normally a very very good student and I haven't been doing well in my history class...I just can't seem to concentrate. It's killing me. I miss my baby so much. He was such a great dog...I don't have anything bad to say about him. He was so so smart, so lovable, so much fun. God, how I miss him...

Love and thanks to you all,

Harley's mama,
Jill

I love and miss you Harley...I can't wait until I can see you again!

[harleysmama]

just now...i thought i heard him...because my sister has a dog tag on her keys in memory of harley...and she grabbed her keys to go move her car...and i started freaking out, looking everywhere for him...but he was no where, and i realized it was just her keys. i am crushed...i was doing so well for so long, but to hear the jingle of a dog tag, just like harley's...killed me. i am crying right now. i was so excited. i really thought he was running up the stairs to come see me and give me a kiss. what a depressing disappointment...oh how i miss him. the holidays will not be the same without him.

harley's mama,

jill

mama misses you sooo much harley. i love you and will forever.

[harleysmama]

It's been a month, today, since Harley passed... and I've been thinking about getting a new dog...but God, I am sooo torn. I think that a puppy would help to fill the void in my heart. But, what if the puppy isn't like Harley? ...actually...I know the puppy wouldn't be like Harley. And, would Harley be mad at me, for getting a new dog so soon? I don't want him to think that I'm trying to replace him, because I wouldn't and besides I can't because he's totally irreplacable. I will never forget him and I will never stop loving him, but the house is so empty, so quiet, it just kills me to be here. I miss him so much. I just think that maybe a puppy would help me get through this, because I am alone, and it's so hard to deal with this alone. What do you all think? I just don't know what to do...

Love,
Jill

LOL...the attached picture is Harley wearing a hat my sister gave him to play with. Boy, he ripped that thing apart after I took it off him.


6/2/2003 - 10/27/2004...RIP my buddy.
Mama misses you and loves you soo much!

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[harleysmama]

whoops, sorry...that pic was rather large.

[Kathleen032]

Hi, Jill-

I don't think Harley would be mad if you got a new puppy. As a matter of fact, I think he'd want you to have someone to lavish your love and affection on. As for being ready for a new puppy...only you know the answer to that. I've decided to wait to get a new puppy because I'm afraid I'd constantly be comparing the new puppy to Shiloh. On the other hand, I have kitties that bring me a great deal of comfort...and a new dog that found her way into my yard (she, Emma, and I are taking things one day at a time, but that's another story).

Good luck with your decision. I'm sure Harley would support any decision you make.
Take care,
Kathleen

[j4lorn]

Hi Jill,

We got a new puppy one month after my Jake died. And for exactly the same reason you said -- the house was so quiet and lifeless without him here, we missed his happy energy, he really was the heart of our house. We felt that so strongly especially that first night after he died. In fact, my husband started looking for another english setter the very next morning.

I was more attached to Jake than he was, but I knew I didn't want to go too long without another dog. I just love dogs and what they bring into our lives. It was a little hard for me at first when we got our puppy because I was still so raw from losing Jake; I wouldn't let the puppy go into Jake's room or touch any of Jake's things. And I would catch myself saying things to the puppy that I used to say to Jake and just burst into tears.

But it's much better now, we have had him two months, and he is every bit a dog in his own right. And very cute and sweet, he gives lots of pyppy kisses and heart healing cuddles. I'll never love him like I did Jake, I still have this feeling like Jake was the love of my life, weird as that may sound (he was devoted to me and only me) but ... hard as it is, we are still here and life moves on whether we like it or not. And our new puppy, Peety, has definitely helped fill the void and absolutely fills the house with his personality, you can't prevent it! So much energy!!

So you may as well get a puppy sooner than later, I feel. If we didn't have Peety I know I would be crying about Jake every day still, it has just been 3 months. I'm still grieving for my Jakeybug and have my bad moments, but Peety has helped alot to bring some smiles back to me.

[Muffins]

Hi Jill:

Please........don't ever say "I'm sorry" for the size of the picture you posted..............That pic of Sweet Harley..... My
God............ WHAT A BEAUTIFUL BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *****THANK YOU FOR SHARING HARLEY'S BEAUTIFUL PHOTO WITH ALL OF US!!!!!*****

Whenever you are ready to tell us "what happened to Harley"......\\\\..that will be on your own terms, Jill....... We will all be here for you, Okay??????

You do what you need to do right now, my friend.... to make it through school.... Very important for your future.

Jill, I invite you to look way back in my posts to the very, very beginning............ Ben and I had put our sweet Ernestine to sleep on February 7, 2004 at noon-time..............
I'll tell you, Jill...................Initially......I never, even wanted to TALK ABOUT ANOTHER FURCAT.........

NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER................

Until..............our home was just TOO QUIET!!!!!!!! It was like................

[Muffins]

Hi Jill:

Please........don't ever say "I'm sorry" for the size of the picture you posted..............That pic of Sweet Harley..... My
God............ WHAT A BEAUTIFUL BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *****THANK YOU FOR SHARING HARLEY'S BEAUTIFUL PHOTO WITH ALL OF US!!!!!*****

Whenever you are ready to tell us "what happened to Harley"......\\\\..that will be on your own terms, Jill....... We will all be here for you, Okay??????

You do what you need to do right now, my friend.... to make it through school.... Very important for your future.

Jill, I invite you to look way back in my posts to the very, very beginning............ Ben and I had put our sweet Ernestine to sleep on February 7, 2004 at noon-time..............
I'll tell you, Jill...................Initially......I never, even wanted to TALK ABOUT ANOTHER FURCAT.........

NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER................

Until..............our home was just TOO QUIET!!!!!!!! It was like......."THE SILENCE IN OUR HOUSE WAS DRIVING ME ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!!!!!"

Long story short..............One month after our sweet Ernie-Bird went to Rainbow's Bridge...........we drove one hour
away, to a shelter..............brought two "empty" carryalls with us.............
AND.............

Drove home with "one furkitty in each carryall!!!! )

Ms. Lucy and Mr. Yoster................They don't replace Ernestine.......not at all.......... They never could....

Ben and I DID FEEL ALONE, JILL............No more kitty "bothering us for food", jumping on us in the AM, to tell us about
"their night".....etc....etc.....

But, we surely don't feel alone anymore!!!!!

I KNOW THAT, IN MY HEART.............ERNESTINE "SENT US TO THIS SHELTER"...........She has "a paw" in all this!!!!
And, we will always be very, very grateful!!!!!


The new "furpuppy" that you get Jill............will not be like Harley................ Your sweet Harley was "ONE OF A KIND"......

And, please believe me when I tell you that, "HARLEY WOULD NEVER BE MAD AT YOU"...............Now, did Harley EVER LIKE IT WHEN HIS MOM WAS MAD?????
"I DON'T THINK SO!!!..........."

Your big heart will tell you when the time is right..........when you should adopt again..........
For some of us............It's right away.........
For others.........it does take some time......

I TRULY NEVER EVER THOUGHT THAT WE'D BE IN THE "RIGHT AWAY" GROUP!!!! But, thank you Ernestine, for leading us
to Ms. Lucy and Mr. Yoster...........

You take care, my friend........... Okay??

And, know that you are loved....

Love, Denise, Ben, Ms. Lucy and Mr. Yoster xo

[harleysmama]

Thank you all for your helpful advice...I'll let you all know what I decide. My mom is on the phone right now with a breeder...we'll see...