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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
My dear Lightning Strike Friends, it is hard to believe that it is Saturday evening. Five days have passed since my precious Abbygayle joined the angels, and this is the first weekend without her. It has been a very hard day. The weather is spring like here in the Blue Ridge region of Virginia. Temperatures in the low 70's, bright sunshine, calm wind. Perfect weather to be outside raking leaves and enjoying the calls of the birds and squirrels as they busily repair and build their nests for this new season of growth and birth. Yes, I worked outside raking and bagging leaves, but my heart was heavy with deep sorrow. These leaves are the last ones that my precious Oslo walked through - - and how he enjoyed shuffling his feet through the leaves. From this point forward all other leaves will be - - just leaves. Noah had a chance to get outside on his tether - - the first time since last October when he and Abbygayle were able to enjoy an early autumn day after her recovery from her second tumor surgery. He kept me company while I raked and bagged the leaves, explored places that he visited with his big kitty brother Eli and his baby sister, but his heart was not happy. He would go inside the house and lay down just inside the door to keep vigil over me. It is just so hard to believe that this little household has diminished so rapidly from the company of 4 furkids to one within 39 months. And I know Noah was not prepared to be the sole furchild survivor within a 39 month time frame. He is such a precious little soul and I am so blessed to have him. My heart is breaking as much for him as it is for me. We are comforting one another - - we both need lots of hugs and rubs, and Noah cuddles with me through the night. Please keep my little Noah in your thoughts and prayers. He is such a sweet little fella, and he is now a very sad little boy.
Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 412 Joined: 30-August 09 Member No.: 6,081 ![]() |
Moonbeam, your story is sweet and sad at the same time. I'm so sorry you're having a bad day. All of the "firsts" are so hard. It seems silly sometimes, the things I say to myself about "this is the first time I've done this or that since Frasier or Niles died." Or "the last time I did this, they were alive." I know what you mean about the leaves just being leaves. It's like the things they touched or knew are special but the things they didn't know about just don't matter.
This afternoon I told my husband, we didn't have Niles today. We had him yesterday. He doesn't know about this day or any of the others to come. Thankfully, those thoughts do subside with time. I can't believe you lost so many in such a short amount of time. Our dog Buck will probably not make it until next year given his age (he's 11) and his own physical problems. We pray he will be stable at least until his birthday in November. I want so badly for him to make it to 12 but only if it's a healthy and strong 12. We need a little break, you know? I need some time to breathe. When I can breathe again, that is. I feel really bad for Noah too. He's obviously a very special little boy and I know you worry about him. Do you think you will get more babies? It took Niles a little time to understand that Frasier wasn't in the house anymore. But when he did, we noticed he would look for him. He kept searching. That's when we both noticed a sadness that came over him. We knew he was lonely but we didn't think it would be wise to bring another cat into the house. I was afraid it might backfire and send him over the edge. He went over the edge anyway, of course. I don't think his broken heart killed him but I believe it started something. And it is ironic that it was actually heart failure that took him. I will pray for you and Noah. I know the loneliness and emptiness you feel. I know the painful quiet of your home. (Please read my reply to you on my post) I just appreciate your support so much! -Donna |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Dear Donna, thank you so much for your comforting words. I do so hope and pray that you will be able to have Buck's loving presence with you for quite awhile yet. My Oslo's birthday was in November, too - - November 15. He made it to his 15th birthday last year, and then two weeks later- - exactly to the day - - he had the stroke which ended our life's journey on this side of eternity. I do so know what you mean about "needing a break." Over the last three years I have thought about getting another companion for Noah - - a brother that he can pal around with and rough and tumble with. Unfortunately, finances have been a bit tight so I wasn't able to do that until recently. However, Fibrosarcoma is genetic, and consequently our vet has stopped Noah's annual vaccinations with the understanding that he would not be subjected to any other cats. The theory is that, although the vaccinations are normally okay, they are still made from the viruses that are being vaccinated against, which is supposed to build up the immune system. But since there is a genetic predisposition for cancer, the vaccinations can actually suppress the immune system making it more suspectible for the cancer to occur. So, - - with this in mind, it's going to be awhile before we're both ready to embrace another household member, but I would eventually like to talk to our vet about the safety of Noah having an adopted kitty sibling for company. I know that his heart was terribly broken when Eli died, but he still had his baby sister. So, yes, I am very concerned about how all this loss is going to affect him emotionally. The good news is that he is eating well and trying to actively participate in our household routines. But he cannot completely hide the sorrowful and lonlely expressions he gets sometimes on his sweet little face and that completley takes over his little body sometimes. And I do so know what you mean about wishing that little bird would shut up. Normally hearing the birds and squirrels chitter and sing are comforting to me and make me smile, but I must confess I would be just as happy if all of Nature were completely silent this spring. But I guess it's all part of the "reality" that "life goes on" - - and that as "life goes on" we will find renewed hope and strength. Donna, thank you so much for your comforting thoughts and words. They mean a lot to me, particularly in your time of deep grief as well. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I will look forward to knowing how you're doing.
Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 16 Joined: 25-February 10 From: Illinois Member No.: 6,387 ![]() |
My dear Lightning Strike Friends, it is hard to believe that it is Saturday evening. Five days have passed since my precious Abbygayle joined the angels, and this is the first weekend without her. It has been a very hard day. The weather is spring like here in the Blue Ridge region of Virginia. Temperatures in the low 70's, bright sunshine, calm wind. Perfect weather to be outside raking leaves and enjoying the calls of the birds and squirrels as they busily repair and build their nests for this new season of growth and birth. Yes, I worked outside raking and bagging leaves, but my heart was heavy with deep sorrow. These leaves are the last ones that my precious Oslo walked through - - and how he enjoyed shuffling his feet through the leaves. From this point forward all other leaves will be - - just leaves. Noah had a chance to get outside on his tether - - the first time since last October when he and Abbygayle were able to enjoy an early autumn day after her recovery from her second tumor surgery. He kept me company while I raked and bagged the leaves, explored places that he visited with his big kitty brother Eli and his baby sister, but his heart was not happy. He would go inside the house and lay down just inside the door to keep vigil over me. It is just so hard to believe that this little household has diminished so rapidly from the company of 4 furkids to one within 39 months. And I know Noah was not prepared to be the sole furchild survivor within a 39 month time frame. He is such a precious little soul and I am so blessed to have him. My heart is breaking as much for him as it is for me. We are comforting one another - - we both need lots of hugs and rubs, and Noah cuddles with me through the night. Please keep my little Noah in your thoughts and prayers. He is such a sweet little fella, and he is now a very sad little boy. Peace and blessings, moon_beam moon beam, How are you doing? I know it has been a short time since Abbygayle passed but I do hope things are just a little better for you. I am sad for sweet Noah and it breaks my heart to know he has lost his all his 'fur siblings' in such a short time. I see how difficult it is for them to loose their 'brothers or sisters'...my youngest dog, Hannah, is still showing visible signs of how loosing Maggie is affecting her. Thank your for sharing you leaf raking story, while I am sad for you, I understand. Moments like these seem to be the most difficult. "From this point forward all other leaves will be - - just leaves." I feel for you sweetie, in time I do hope you may find some comfort in all of the leaves that will fall and need to be raked. I know this will always remind you of a furry baby that you loved with all your heart, but try to view the leaves as precious reminders of Oslo by recalling how much he loved to shuffle through them on the ground. Right now it may not make sense and I don't mean to come off as being ignorant to your thoughts or feelings...because I sincerely hope in time when the leaves fall and as you shuffle through them a smile will come to your face and that the memories this brings will warm your heart. *hugs to you & Noah* BullyMama |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, BullyMama, thank you so much for your comforting shoulder. It's definitely one day at a time here. Noah and I are sharing as many cuddles and hugs as he can handle, and he sleeps with me just about every night. The comfort of his sweet little body next to me means a lot to me. I must confess right now I really feel shell-shocked - - existing on automatic pilot - - doing things that need to be done like pay bills, go to work, etc., but not really "connected" - - don't know if this makes any sense. The only things that make any sense to me right now are my Noah and coming here to this wonderful forum. Hope does spring eternal, and perhaps in time you will be right about the leaves. "To every season there is a purpose under heaven." Thank you for reminding me, BullyMama. Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers, and thank you for checking in on me. Please know you are in my thought and prayers.
Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
My dear Lightning Strike Friends,
As promised I am attaching some photos of my beautiful baby girl, Abbygayle. Her first and middle names are Abbygayle Rayah which together mean "Cherished of God and Companion." She was my sweet, precious baby girl - - truly a gift and an answer to a prayer. I do so hope you will enjoy looking at these pictures. The first two pictures are of my baby girl taken during the summer of 2007 when she was enjoying some time outside on her tether getting some fresh air in her lungs and some sunshine on her face: ![]() ![]() The last picture is of Abbygayle with her brother, Noah, taking a nap on the sofa here in the basement living quarters; they were never far from each other during their entire lives together: ![]() I have posted a picture of Oslo in his topic for those who would like to see my very distinguished gentleman. Thank you so much for sharing my furkids with me. It's still very hard but Noah and I are taking it one day at a time. I am trying to figure out a suitable memorial for her. I received a lovely sympathy card from our vet in this evening's mail. Please know each of you are always close in my heart, thoughts, and prayers. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 412 Joined: 30-August 09 Member No.: 6,081 ![]() |
Oh my gosh, Moonbeam! She was soooo beautiful! And so is Noah. I too have so many pictures of Niles and Frasier together like Noah and Abbygayle were. (See my new avatar pic)
I just love gray cats. They're so regal! -Donna |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Donna,
Thank you so much. She is my beautiful baby girl. Noah is my precious sweet little boy - - he is such a sweet natured little fella. And now each of you can see it for yourselves. I do so know what you mean about keeping busy and being comforted that Niles is now with his brother Frasier. Knowing that my baby girl no longer has cancer invading her body is comforting, and I know that she is happy in heaven's perfect garden. Thank you so much for sharing my fur babies with me, Donna, and please know you are close in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 383 Joined: 31-October 08 From: Raleigh, NC & Hazen, ND Member No.: 5,211 ![]() |
Another absolutely beautiful child you had! You have truly been blessed with such wonderful companions moon_beam.
Now Noah has you all to himself during a time that you need each other so much. Thanks for the pictures of Oslo and Abbygale & Noah........................... Keeping you in my thoughts & prayers. Ginger |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Ginger, thank you again so much for your comforting thoughts and words, and all of my dear Lightning Strike friends - - everyone here in this wonderful forum. It is hard to believe that Monday, the 29th, will be exactly 4 months since Oslo joined the angels, and today is 12 days since Abbygayle went to join him. Noah has the middle name of Terrence, and the two names combined mean "Provider of Comfort and Tender / Gently Formed." He has been this way with all of his adopted siblings and his baby sister, - - and with me. He had always taken on the role of "caregiver" seeing that everyone else's emotional needs were being met, and now he and I are giving each other comforting hugs and rubs and cuddles and snuggles - - as much as my little boy can handle at any given time. I do love this little tender hearted fella very much. Now that Abbygayle no longer needs to be confined to the basement, I took the gate down from the basement stairs so that Noah can have full run of the house again, and he is usually upstairs waiting for me to come through the inside garage door when I get home from work and errands. I'm thinking that I may try to encourage him to go with me sometimes on my errands - - just to have a ride in the car and not always associating a ride in the car to a ride to the vet. And I think having him get a "change of scenery" once in awhile might also help him in his grief recovery. And I'm hoping it will help us bond even closer together, if that's possible.
Thank you again so o o much, Ginger, and please know you and everyone here in this wonderful forum are close in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
My dear Lightning Strike Friends,
Today is exactly 2 weeks since my precious Abbygayle joined the angels. I picked up her ashes today at the vet, and they gave me a small basket of Easter goodies as well. I am glad to have my baby girl's ashes home, but I must confess there are still some very rough grief moments to get through. I'm trying to think of a suitable memorial for her, and usually in the past - - that has brought me comfort. But right now it's hard to think about it and try to make a decision. So, I haven't started anything yet. Her doctor sent me a very lovely, personal sympathy card which I will add to her scrapbook. I just wasn't prepared to have to be doing another "memorial" so soon after Oslo's memorial video, and certainly not at Abbygayle's young age of 6 years 10 months. I must confess these past 4 months have been very hard on this little household. I thank each of you for your continued prayers. I am sincerely thankful for each of you, and please know each of you are close in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
Hi, hopelessheart, Donna, and Nutmeg, thank you so much for your comforting words and thoughts. Noah is a special baby boy, and I am so glad that he is here with me, and honored to be his human guardian. I am taking tomorrow off from work as was planned 6 months ago when I made an appointment for a routine dental check up. I canceled my dentist appointment and am just going to spend the day with my Noah. We need this "dedicated time" together. I thank each and everyone for your caring comforting thoughts and prayers. I am hoping to be able to figure out how to post pictures on this forum to share with you. I'm not really "technically literate" but I really want to share some pictures with you. I hope maybe I can do this in the next few days as my mind becomes a bit clearer. Life right now is kind of on the numb side. Please know each of you are in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and blessings, moon_beam Hi, darlin' Moon Beam-- I just realized that I had never posted in your thread, and I am horrified to realize that! You've been so kind to me and so supportive, and I just wanted to say hi to you and Noah. These past couple of weeks, I haven't been able to be here very much, what with Ladywolf deteriorating, and all the other things I have going on in my life. (Trying to find paid employment, since my teaching job dissolved!) I love the idea of you taking a day off to spend with Noah--what a sweet concept! Our hearts are with you, always-- Margi and Ladywolf |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 412 Joined: 30-August 09 Member No.: 6,081 ![]() |
Moonbeam, I'm glad Abbygayle is back home with you. That must be of some comfort. We know that we will probably have to have Buck cremated when he passes because he is so big and it would be difficult to dig a grave to accomodate him. I don't like the idea of cremation because I can't stand the thought of anything happening to his body nor him being away from us. But I realize that is what we will probably do, though.
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. The last year & 3 months haven't been easy in our house either. It takes so much out of you. Do you feel like a light has gone off inside you? I feel that way. Hug your baby Abbygayle tonight. She's back home with you. -Donna |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Margi and Donna, thank you so much for your thoughtfulness. Margi, I do perfectly understand that you have needed to be focused on other more critical circumstances, so please do not feel the need to apologize for not posting sooner, okay?
Donna, yes - - you really hit the nail on the head. I do feel exactly like a light has burned out. Except for the moments of deep sadness and grief and savoring the company of my Noah and the comfort from each of you here, I just feel really numb. I know this is pretty much normal for everything that my little household has been through over the last 9 months or so, going back to last July when my precious girl was diagnosed with the cancer - - but it doesn't make it any easier to go through - - to get through. I can understand your concerns about cremating Buck. The first furchild that I lost as an adult my mom and I buried in a pet cemetery where we were living at the time because we were living in an apartment, and the management would not have appreciated us digging a grave on the apartment grounds. It has been over 30 years now since that time, and I don't know if that cemetery is still in business. Since then I have cremated my furkids for practical reasons as well as emotional ones: Practical - - I'm not able to dig a grave myself and don't have anyone to do one for me. Emotional - - with cremation I will have their physical bodies with me (as every body eventually returns to the earth from which we are created), and I have provided for their "final resting" in my Will. Also, since I have moved a couple of times I am glad I have their ashes to move with me instead of having to leave them behind. There is a local "human" funeral service that has recently opened a cemetery for companion animals - - including cremation services, and eventually I will probably go visit it to see what it is like and to make "final burial arrangements" for my furkids' ashes after I am deceased - - whenever that event may happen, which as far as I know isn't on the near-term horizon. So, I hope in sharing my experiences with you that in some way it will be of help and comfort to you as you face the "decision" about your precious Buck. Margi, are you looking for employment locally where you are living now? You had mentioned something in one of your posts about going back to California (?) after Ladywolf is no longer with you, so are you looking elsewhere? Margi, I do hope and pray that you are able to find suitable employment where you would like to be. I hope your jewelry making and your other creative talents are helping to bring in some cash flow for you. Please keep us posted as to how you're doing with this, and definitely how your precious Ladywolf is doing. Thank you, Margi and Donna, for your very thoughtful comfort. It means a lot to me - - more than words can say. Please know you - - and everyone in this wonderful forum -- are close in my thoughts and prayers, and I will look forward to hearing from you and knowing how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
Hi, Margi and Donna, thank you so much for your thoughtfulness. Margi, I do perfectly understand that you have needed to be focused on other more critical circumstances, so please do not feel the need to apologize for not posting sooner, okay? Donna, yes - - you really hit the nail on the head. I do feel exactly like a light has burned out. Except for the moments of deep sadness and grief and savoring the company of my Noah and the comfort from each of you here, I just feel really numb. I know this is pretty much normal for everything that my little household has been through over the last 9 months or so, going back to last July when my precious girl was diagnosed with the cancer - - but it doesn't make it any easier to go through - - to get through. I can understand your concerns about cremating Buck. The first furchild that I lost as an adult my mom and I buried in a pet cemetery where we were living at the time because we were living in an apartment, and the management would not have appreciated us digging a grave on the apartment grounds. It has been over 30 years now since that time, and I don't know if that cemetery is still in business. Since then I have cremated my furkids for practical reasons as well as emotional ones: Practical - - I'm not able to dig a grave myself and don't have anyone to do one for me. Emotional - - with cremation I will have their physical bodies with me (as every body eventually returns to the earth from which we are created), and I have provided for their "final resting" in my Will. Also, since I have moved a couple of times I am glad I have their ashes to move with me instead of having to leave them behind. There is a local "human" funeral service that has recently opened a cemetery for companion animals - - including cremation services, and eventually I will probably go visit it to see what it is like and to make "final burial arrangements" for my furkids' ashes after I am deceased - - whenever that event may happen, which as far as I know isn't on the near-term horizon. So, I hope in sharing my experiences with you that in some way it will be of help and comfort to you as you face the "decision" about your precious Buck. Margi, are you looking for employment locally where you are living now? You had mentioned something in one of your posts about going back to California (?) after Ladywolf is no longer with you, so are you looking elsewhere? Margi, I do hope and pray that you are able to find suitable employment where you would like to be. I hope your jewelry making and your other creative talents are helping to bring in some cash flow for you. Please keep us posted as to how you're doing with this, and definitely how your precious Ladywolf is doing. Thank you, Margi and Donna, for your very thoughtful comfort. It means a lot to me - - more than words can say. Please know you - - and everyone in this wonderful forum -- are close in my thoughts and prayers, and I will look forward to hearing from you and knowing how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
Margi, are you looking for employment locally where you are living now? You had mentioned something in one of your posts about going back to California (?) after Ladywolf is no longer with you, so are you looking elsewhere? Margi, I do hope and pray that you are able to find suitable employment where you would like to be. I hope your jewelry making and your other creative talents are helping to bring in some cash flow for you. Please keep us posted as to how you're doing with this, and definitely how your precious Ladywolf is doing.
Thank you, Margi and Donna, for your very thoughtful comfort. It means a lot to me - - more than words can say. Please know you - - and everyone in this wonderful forum -- are close in my thoughts and prayers, and I will look forward to hearing from you and knowing how you're doing. Peace and blessings, moon_beam [/quote] Hi again, Moon Beam-- I forgot to tell you how gorgeous Abbygayle looks to me--and how sweet your little Noah. How sad for both of you that she is gone now... I'm not going to be able to really even think about a move back to CA. until after Ladywolf passes. This is a perfect place for her--I have a bitty little house way off the street, so she can roam around the property safely at will, and I have a very forgiving landlord who understands how difficult these financial times are for me--so I ALWAYS run late on my very modest rent. (Today I had to borrow $3 to put oil in my car--I have to do this kind of thing all the time--it's really getting old!) So I'm still looking for employment in this area--tiny Oracle, AZ., where the school is practically the only employer of any size at all. Today I checked in with the community college that is 45 mins. away, and the man I spoke with was actually enthusiastic about me teaching an English 101 class right here in Oracle, in their community outreach program. I just have to get cleared by the faculty, because my M.A. is in Psychology, though my B.A. is in English. I'm also looking into working at the local "Y" camp this summer. Part of the problem is that I am--excuse me for my pride--OVERqualified for so many things around here, like working at Circle K or the Dollar Store. They just won't even consider me. When I applied a couple of years ago to be a police dispatcher, the police chief wanted to know, after looking at my application and education, if I was pulling his leg! Sigh... I make some money off my jewelry and handmade glass beads, but nothing like I used to back in the golden days when people were consuming. I probably made more as a jeweler in 1968 than I did this past year. Actually, I know that I did! So I limp along. If I can break into the community college circuit, that will be a big step forward, because then I can apply at any community college anywhere, and have a chance of getting hired. And it WOULD be nice to be working with motivated adults for a change, instead of bored manic kids! Thank you for asking about my employment situation--I don't get to write about it very often. I once had a lot of money. A lot. It's been very humbling to become abjectly poor, but I sure have learned a lot about survival. Another issue for me is that my chronic depression, which is fairly well controlled right now with meds, prevents me from working full-time--I get too anxious and sad when locked into a regular 40 hour a week schedule, even WITH the meds. Enjoy your adorable little Noah. I know how you feel, not knowing quite what to do at the end of a pet's life with his or her body. I'm alone too--but luckily, I've had several offers ahead of time of help in digging a grave for Ladywolf when the time comes. So I'll be burying her on a close friend's property. It will have to be a very large and deep hole--around here, we have to worry about coyotes raiding graves... Yuck, I don't want to think about it right now. I send you lots and lots of love! Margi and the giant Wolf |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Margi, thank you for letting me know how things are going for you, and Miss Ladywolf. I do so hope that things work out for you at the community college. Yeah, I've been in that "over qualified" category as well - - even at my "office slug" level. I don't have a college degree but have taken college courses, continuing education courses, and close to 40 years experience in paper shuffling. There are more days than not now when I truly feel like a "dinosaur" and am basically treated like one in the office. Financially-wise can't even think about retiring. Believe me, Margi, I do so know what it is like to be facing the prospects of becoming the next "homeless" statistic here in the US. I truly hope and pray that you find decent employment that will be what YOU want and will be rewarding for you.
Because of the severe trauma - - both physically and emotionally - - from the automobile collision in August 1985 I, too, can only work part-time. I struggle daily with PTSD and Survivor's Guilt - - both formally diagnosed by a professional counselor who helped me through the darkest time of my recovery and rehabilitation, and grieving the loss of my mom from her injuries. I do so know about panic attacks and how paralyzing they can be - - the hyperventilation - - the need to breathe and focus only on breathing until it passes. Another "blot" against me employment wise is that I'm the only "part-time" office slug in the office - - the job was advertised and hired to be "part time" - - but it's held against me because I won't "juggle" my hours to accommodate the other two full-time office employees. I found out the hard way with my employer that the more I "give" the more they want and expect , and I just don't have a lot physically or emotionally to give anymore in terms of job stress. So, I have to frequently stand my ground with my supervisor about not working "extended hours." And of course this is reflected in my annual evaluation. Oh well - - it's a job and a paycheck - - it has nothing to do with who I am. And I do thank God every day that my job is just part-time. I do hope that Ladywolf is doing okay and that you both are being able to enjoy lots of quality time together. Thank you so much for your comforting thoughts, Margi. Please know that both you and Ladywolf are in my thoughts and prayers, and I will look forward to knowing how life is treating you both. Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
Ah, Moon Beam--
So much trauma we have both experienced. I am so sorry that these horrible things happened to you, I truly am. My own mother committed suicide about the same time that your mom died, and I've never fully recovered from that either. Perhaps one never does... Your response to me was so long and heart-filled, and mine is going to be so short tonight, relatively, but I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you. I am kind of distracted by my worry about the Wolf tonight, and I'm on a friend's computer that is dreadfully slow. But yes--I certainly know about the inability (and lack of desire!) to hold a full-time job. Yesterday I put in a fourteen hour day, from start of substitute teaching (6th grade--they're very "busy" at that age), to when I finally had to walk out on an intense evening of advanced CPR training (part of my First Responder course) before it was over because I was starting to crack up from total exhaustion. I felt badly about it, but I just couldn't manage to stay. I can make it up later, so it doesn't really matter--but it just proves to me that I don't have the stamina that some other people do, especially not at almost 60... I actually started to cry, I was so stressed and tired... Much love to you, my familiar! Hugs--Margi and Ladywolf |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 412 Joined: 30-August 09 Member No.: 6,081 ![]() |
Hi Moonbeam. Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you today. I know you miss your babies. Even though they don't understand holidays, the holidays are still hard for us. Just wanted to say hi.
-Donna |
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![]() Forum Moderator Group: Moderators Posts: 8,088 Joined: 20-July 08 From: Virginia Member No.: 4,861 ![]() |
Hi, Donna, thank you so much for thinking of Noah and me today. It has been a bit of a rough one. This time last year we had both Oslo and Abbygayle with us in relatively good health. What a difference a year makes. Thank you so much for thinking of us today; it really means a lot to me. Please know you are close in my thoughts and prayers, too.
Peace and blessings, moon_beam -------------------- In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.
The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face. |
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