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 Nov 12 2004, 05:35 PM
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I was just wondering today if I would have traded the pain with the 17 years of memories.
i.e. no memories – no pain???????? -------------------- Jude & Sadie, too well loved to be forgotten
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Nov 12 2004, 06:46 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 496 Joined: 6-November 04 From: Lynden, Wa Member No.: 548 |
this life is full of pain and loss and saying goodbye, we have to travel this life with joy and sorrow, you see, sorrow takes us to the heart of God, and joy enables us to keep going, but joy has a quiet voice and can easily be drowned out, sometimes we have to listen harder for her. at this stage in my grief i am searching for joy's voice i know she is still there. pamela
-------------------- Moose, you were a gift for my heart and my soul. I am so thankful to have had you. I love you forever My Mooser.1995-2004
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Nov 13 2004, 02:58 AM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 1,165 Joined: 31-October 04 Member No.: 538 |
I am so broken up over Chili Bean I can not find the words I need to reply to people to give much comfort. But I agree with everything Pamela said. I think every minute of the pain we feel is worth all the love that we have received. I would not give that love up for anything not even the horrific pain we feel when they leave us.
Ann -------------------- My girls went to the Rainbow Bridge 6 weeks and 3 days apart. Snookie had cushing's disease, and later developed diabetes. Both had cancer, Snookie had cancer of the liver, and Chili Bean had cancer of the pallet. Chili Bean was our son's chihuahua but we kept her often throughout her life and she stayed with us for the last 9 months of her life. Chili Bean also had asthma and heart failure. We will see you in Heaven my precious darlings. Snookie Lynn Howard 2-04-94 - 12-26-04 Senorita Chili Bean Bubbles Howard 11-05-94 - 11-11-04 |
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Nov 14 2004, 11:44 PM
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Group: Moderators Posts: 776 Joined: 26-February 04 From: Massachusetts, USA Member No.: 245 |
Hi Sue:
This is an easy one for me...... I "bought" my sweet Ernestine at a pet store in Boston for $10.00, and that was for the cost of her shots..... WAY BACK IN June, 1984.  (she was born in April, 1984).We went through ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING together......... or, I guess I should say..... My sweet girl was ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS THERE WHEN I NEEDED HER...  (Love is a two way street -- Of course, I was always there whenever my sweet "Ernie-Bird" needed me).. Ben "joined us" in March, 2001 --- Ernestine and He quickly became very close -- Ben will always be her daddy! Our sweet girl was put to sleep on February 7, 2004 at noon-time. One of my very favorite quotes from a very caring and wise person at LS said to me..... "DENISE, YOU TOOK ON ERNESTINE'S PAIN SO THAT SHE COULD BE WITHOUT PAIN....... Inasmuch as losing Ernie caused such heartache and pain, and ALL THAT GOES ALONG WITH LOSING SOMEONE THAT YOU LOVE WITH EVERY SINGLE FIBER OF YOUR BEING........... I would ABSOLUTELY, 100% do it again, to relieve her of her pain. And, the 19 years and 10 months that Ernestine and I got to share with one another..... Well, that's something that I could never, ever put a price tag on. I will always and forever be grateful for the time that she and I had together..... And, she will be with Ben and I ALWAYS!!!! Love, Denise & Ben -------------------- Our Beloved Girl, Ernestine (AKA) "Ernie-Bird"
April, 1984 - February 7, 2004 ***AFFA*** Forever, you will ALWAYS live on in our hearts! DEPARTED FROM EARTH, NEVER FORGOTTEN.... Love, Mom & Dad xoxoxoxoxo ~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~* "He who is cruel to animals becomes hard also in his dealings with men. We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals." Immanuel Kant "Think occasionally of the suffering of which you spare yourself the sight" Albert Schweitzer |
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Nov 15 2004, 12:36 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 317 Joined: 25-August 03 Member No.: 65 |
I would not trade a single day of Edgar or Jesse's lives with me to remove any of the pain.
There is a cost for everything - this is it. |
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Nov 15 2004, 01:02 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 234 Joined: 23-June 04 Member No.: 379 |
I would take grief over not sharing my life with my furbuddies. The trade-off is worth it, and I'll have to go through it all over again for Em and Alice, too.
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Nov 15 2004, 01:20 PM
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 496 Joined: 6-November 04 From: Lynden, Wa Member No.: 548 |
and i will go through it again for my 15yr old cat Gato.
-------------------- Moose, you were a gift for my heart and my soul. I am so thankful to have had you. I love you forever My Mooser.1995-2004
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Nov 15 2004, 03:10 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 107 Joined: 31-August 04 Member No.: 459 |
I agree completely, I gladly pay the cost and every minute I had my Jakeybug was worth more.
I can't imagine life without any furbabies at all. This grief is almost unbearable, but the love was infinite. |
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Nov 16 2004, 10:10 AM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 143 Joined: 27-October 04 From: Ontario, Canada Member No.: 530 |
My life would never have been the same without Akasha. She was the only friend that I have ever had that stayed around for 15 years! She changed me in so many ways and always took good care of me. She was a wonderful addition to my life (and to the life of all those she touched). The pain I am going through now I would go through again, a thousand times, for the 15 year gift of having Kasha share her life with me.
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Nov 16 2004, 11:07 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 827 Joined: 30-October 04 From: New Mexico Member No.: 536 |
Hmmmm, no memories, no pain. An interesting thought. With the immense pain that I've been feeling lately over Shiloh, the thought did catch my eye. Though Shiloh's time with me was brief, her presence enriched not only my life, but my very existance. When I consider the pain I feel now, I think my pain would have been greater having never known her at all. I guess the saying "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" really is true, for all the love I recieved from Shiloh is and was worth every ounce of pain I'm experiencing.
-------------------- Shiloh and Hobbie, you're both gone from my arms, but forever in my heart.
Shiloh 1999 - Sept. 17, 2004 Hobbie Aug. 14, 1996 - May 30, 2005 |
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Nov 17 2004, 01:31 PM
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 Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 84 Joined: 4-May 04 From: Atlanta, GA Member No.: 317 |
Nope - there's no way I would trade my memories of my babies for no pain.
The joy comes when you can remember the funny things you've shared, with a little pain. I promise you, this point will come. It may take weeks or months but it will come. A thought I had yesterday was about starting a thread to share our funny stories of our babies. I think these would give us some much needed relief from all the grief, and to let us know that the joy in memories WILL return. It's also a way of honoring our babies, and keeping their memories alive. Please let me know what you think. Jan |
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Nov 21 2004, 03:07 PM
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Group: Moderators Posts: 661 Joined: 27-June 03 Member No.: 4 |
Im probably a bit late here but im all for it, happy memories are all part of the healing process and to share them helps someone else to remember too.
Been off line a while - Anti Virus thingy ran out but all up, running and safe now, well so they tell us 
-------------------- Jude & Sadie, too well loved to be forgotten
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