It's Over, R.I.P my faithful friend Options

[petmum]

It's over, my Buddy is @ rest now, what an awful to go thru, but I hve and I'm still here.
It hasn't sunk in yet, i'm just numb....had myself a large nip of Bailey's in my coffee a while ago & eaten chocolate, I couldn't think of anything else to do.
I got chocolate for the kids too, but no one really wants to eat.... I cant believe he has gone, I just want to go outside & check to see, but I'm not just yet.....my son has gone off to football training & i'm going to take one of my daughters to choir, she is singing in the choir @ our local church tonight. My eldest daughter who is 12yrs is staying @ hme with me, she is very upset a bit angry @ the world in general....sigh...... i can't believe i've done what I've just done.....

[Gemini's Mom]

Bless you all, Buddys family, it hasn't sunk in yet here. I got up this morning and burst out crying when he wasn't laying in his favorite spot. I feel for you, I'm with you all the way. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

{{{{{{{Many Hugs}}}}}}}}

[arkania]

Bless you all, Buddys family, it hasn't sunk in yet here. I got up this morning and burst out crying when he wasn't laying in his favorite spot. I feel for you, I'm with you all the way. I'll keep you all in my prayers.

{{{{{{{Many Hugs}}}}}}}}

Hugs to you all. I understand the pain you guys are suffering, I lost my sweet kitty over a week ago and it's agony. Just remember the love you gave and the love you received from your faithful companion, and the happy times shared. He's at the Rainbow Bridge now, playing, happy, healthy, and waiting for the day he will see you again.

[lynette]

I know how it feels. It stays with you for a long time. We had to send Hunny to be with Lily April 4th. Even though you know in your heart that it was the right thing to do - it doesn't make it any easier. You still feel numb for a long time. And I couldn't believe what I had done either. But I agonized over those final moments since she got sick last sumemr. She was still had a good sound mind, but just her body was failing. I still haven't had the courage to bury her ashes next to Lily's yet. I was just thinking the other day if it was disrespectful to Lily that I haven't laid Hunny to rest next to her yet. I just can't seem to bring myself to do it. Maybe June 24th, we lay her to rest, that was the day that Lily left so suddenly.

All we can do is take it one day at a time.

Take care.

[patricia]

big hugs to all of you. i know this is a very difficult time. please try and remember that this was the right thing to do. you wouldnt have wanted buddy to keep on suffering. buddy is in a beautiful place now. he is looking after each and every one of you. he is your angel. i wish there was a magic cure to take all the pain and sorrow away...

you and your family are in my prayers. god bless!
patricia

[petmum]

thank you all sooo much, pain & grief shared is special isn't it.
the first thing this morning when I woke I thought of my Buddy and not really believing he isn't outside waiting for us. I'm in too much pain to say much except {{{HUGS}}}.

[Scarlett]

I am so distraught now after losing my Callym to cancer that I too can say little except to send you lots of big hugs and warm thoughts. It's been 2 1/2 weeks since Callym left, and while the shock is beginning to leave, a deeper sadness is setting in. Life will never be the same again. I've been lighting a candle every night in his honour since he passed away (I have a wee memorial for him with his ashes, photos, flowers and his collar), and I think I will do this for a month. I am finding this ritual comforting so maybe there is something like this you could do to help you make it through the sad times.

[petmum]

thank you scarlett, i'm glad u r feeling a bit better. once we get Buddy's ashes I'm sure we will do something similar. {{{HUGS}}} to u 2.

[patricia]

how are you doing?

[petmum]

moving forward slowly thanks patricia, good days & better days each is different.
thank you for asking

[ceaserthings]

I am so sorry to hear that....
My deepest condolences,

[dancer]

It's over, my Buddy is @ rest now, what an awful to go thru, but I hve and I'm still here.
It hasn't sunk in yet, i'm just numb....had myself a large nip of Bailey's in my coffee a while ago & eaten chocolate, I couldn't think of anything else to do.
I got chocolate for the kids too, but no one really wants to eat.... I cant believe he has gone, I just want to go outside & check to see, but I'm not just yet.....my son has gone off to football training & i'm going to take one of my daughters to choir, she is singing in the choir @ our local church tonight. My eldest daughter who is 12yrs is staying @ hme with me, she is very upset a bit angry @ the world in general....sigh...... i can't believe i've done what I've just done.....

My eyes have tears for you and your family, you know your not alone in this humane decison we make...Hugs to you petmum....I'm thinking of you Dancer's mum Judith

[petmum]

wow i cant believe how teary i am today it's been 15days & i didn't think i had any tears left, but i do.....gotta stop crying gotta go & take my eldest daughter to get her braces on today in 20mins.......tissues (kleenex) anyone? *elaine holds up the largest box of [kleenex] tissues in the house*
thx everyone for you encouraging words *elaine blows her nose*

[patricia]

sometimes i ask myself why its so upsetting to us that we are so upset? could it be society that has instilled in all of us that its not ok to grieve over our wonderful babies? youve just lost your beautiful buddy. fifteen days is really not enough time to get over it. i dont know that we really do. yes the pain subsides but that deep wound in our hearts really never seals up. its ok to be upset. its only been about two weeks. i always say that the first coupla weeks is really to just get over the shock of it all. just remember that buddy is looking out for you. hes so happy. keep lighting the candle for him and now as you do it, think of your favorite happy moment with him. you know, my first cat riley died a little over a year ago and fred died three months ago. i still light my candles for both of them. it makes me happy and i know they are smiling down on me, just as your buddy is too. remember that we are blessed to have them in our lives and although we outlive them unfortunately, i believe they are on loan to us from the man upstairs. your buddy taught you so much about love, patience, tolerance, life and death, (i believe all of them teach us these things) and then i like to think that they return to their maker and he is beyond thrilled to have them back. because just like you enjoyed every single second you spent with buddy, so is He now your sweetheart is surrounded with all of our loved ones. take comfort in knowing that.

please give yourself a gigantic hug (all the way from california) from me and be extra nice to yourself ok?

i continue to pray for you
patricia

[petmum]

oh thank you patricia it's just what i needed

[Sammie girl'...]

Elaine,

I hope today is a little bit better day for you. I had a bad day yesterday too so today I'm keeping myself extremely busy and that's helping. Keep writing. I'll keep praying for your heart to heal and better days ahead. Just thinking about you.
Melanie

[petmum]

thx melanie today was different than yesterday, tho this empty feeling inside is weird, i keep wondering "what's wrong with me?", the sun shines, ppl go about their lives as do I yet something is oh so different, it takes me a second or 2 to realize what the difference is & then i get a sort of ache in my heart, not so intense as the first few days but still weird....& just for a split second i wonder if I will ever feel "normal" (whatever that is???) again. I am trying to be patient with myself but sometimes I just think "so what is life all about any way?" Loosing Buddy has really struck a reality (or perhaps a mortality) check with me.....goodness I thought I had the "big picture" worked out and here I am now asking myself "so what is my life all about anyway". Guess in a way it's good to reassess your core values etc....& if it wasn't for Buddy I would most likely not be doing it right now.......i want to be the happy go lucky person I was before Buddy's passing but that person doesn't appear to be around @ the moment.....I miss that...which take's me back to I MISS MY BUDDY!!!!!!!!!
elaine

[patricia]

absolutely nothing is wrong with you. the way i see it is part of life is about going thru hard times, difficult as hell times, trying times and being able to come out stronger and better for it. but it doesnt mean we dont or cant struggle, cry, get frustrated, angry, sad etc,. we are going thru some real trying times right now and it seems that although buddy taught you so much in life, he continues to teach in his death. and isnt that such a wonderful thing? freds death has changed my life forever. they all have. everytime one of them passes away, my "normal" changes. i will never be the same person i was before them. but that isnt a bad thing. i think its important that we honor their lives by living our day to day like they would want us to. i know it so hard but if we keep focused on that, our bad days will lessen and good days will come. before i quit my rambling, let me just say that i also realize its easier said than done. i think about these things daily because it helps me to not break down... but for today, lets you and i just think about a fun memory we have about fred and buddy and try and carry it thru the weekend ok? you are not alone. we are here beside you.

hugs and prayers for you
patricia

[petmum]

thank you sooo much patricia
elaine

[shannon2183]

Elaine,

My thoughts are with you as you start this journey. I hope reading my long...and often longwinded posts about Penny helped at least a bit. I found that reading old posts helped me dramatically because I saw how people actually got through the pain. In the beginning, I honestly didn't know how I would continue living. Of course I didn't feel that in a suicidal way, but more like "how in the world can I wake up and just go on with my day?". And even last night (it's been almost 9 months) I saw a picture of her and cried but it's no longer the heart wrenching grief...but just cuz I miss her little self. But I have a feeling animals hold a different view of the world that is beyond our human comprehension -- and as I try to understand that daily, I see what Penny is showing me. I know she has never left me and will always remain in my home. I even think she's coaching our new pup a bit:) Buddy is still with you always...and I don't say that in a "he's in your heart" which is also true, but I honestly feel their spirits remain such a part of us that all we can do is thank the Lord for the time he allowed us to have them. It also helps me to imagine with every new pet that moves on without us, that's now a new friend that Penny is running the hills with and chasing birds together....

Allow yourself to cry, be confused, be angry, scream (I literally laid in bed and wailed for 2 days straight) or whatever it is you need to do. I didn't want people to tell me "it's ok", or "don't cry"...I just wanted to feel what it was that I was feeling. Every time someone tried to say "oh...I'm sorry" it made me miss Penny more because I could feel any way with her around and she still would cuddle beside me and kiss my face. So know that whatever it is you feel you need to do is ok and definitely not crazy. I read some pet loss books which at first I thought wouldn't help, but they really did because I realized that I wasn't crazy to feel as I did about my Penpen.

LS helped me so much, so keep writing any thought and we'll be here to prop you up:)

Peace,
Shannon