Can U Help Me, loss of dancer Options

[dancer]

I had too put my best friend Dancer of 11 yeaers too sleep this week..She wasn't your typical kitty..She loved being held and having her belly rubbed..Waited for me to get out of the shower so she could have her turn too drink the dripping water from the faucet..There was 2 of everything, 2 water bowls, 2 litter boxes, 2 food dishes..Kitty beds all over the h ouse I bought for us..We have survived breast cancer together...They have been loved by a animal lover since she was a little girl..My loss is great..Dasher her 11 year old friend and I are at a loss to go on with daily rituals and not be overwhelmed..Please help us...Dancer had kidney failure which happened with in a 1 week time ...This is a first for me too put a pet to sleep.. I have never felt so alone..I am giving Dasher all the love possible with new blankets and lots of attention...

[LS Support]

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[nicole'smom]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss of Dancer. I'm glad you have Dasher to comfort you in this very painful time. Come here as often as you want, we understand how very devastating it is to lose your beloved little girl. Take care.

[dancer]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss of Dancer. I'm glad you have Dasher to comfort you in this very painful time. Come here as often as you want, we understand how very devastating it is to lose your beloved little girl. Take care.

Thank you for your kindness, I find what I had too do humane but the days aren't any easier and others just don't understand my pain...I'm concerned about Dash she keeps looking for her playmate which is very upsetting to me..I try to keep life as normal as possible..Dash is sweet but never was lovable like Dancer had been...Dasher is sensitive to her surroundings and I'm concerned for her...She hangs out in the basement where Dancer had been recently..Its like she waiting for her too come back down..Such a sad situation

[petmum]

dancer I am so sorry for what you are going thru, I went thru having to hve my best friend for 14yrs put to sleep, & it's awful. I wass reading bout your dasher & thinking that is the same way that kids respond too & it just rips ya heart apart, at least with kids they (dependent upon their age) can sorta understand after a while but other pets, well that's a lot tougher. {{{HUGS}}} i wish i was closer so i cld hug u in person, this is such a painful time, I hve found the ppl here to know exactly what it is u r going thru and will respond with understanding & compassion. come here as I often as u need, I myself was checking in 6 or 7 times a day after I had my Buddy put to sleep. coming here as helped & is continuing to help me.
I care that u r hurting.
elaine

[Scarlett]

Oh I am so sorry about your loss. The pain and grief is a tricky phase to get through - I'm still hurting a month after losing my kitty and I sometimes wonder if the hurt will ever really go away.

Sending warmest thoughts, and this site is comforting so please come on as much as you need to. It has helped me to know there are others as sensitive to the loss of their pet as I am. Some people seems to recover quickly, but clearly there are those of us who have intense feelings to work through.

[Jess]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I too had to put my cat to sleep due to sudden, unexpected kidney failure. We kept her alive in the vet for a week and then brought her back home to spend her last night cuddling with us in bed as she loved to do so much. She was only 7 years old and my heart is broken. She is my soul mate and I am lost without her. It's been nearly 8 weeks and I still don't know what to do without her. I cry for her almost every day and I miss her so much it makes my entire body ache. Please know that you are not alone. We all know how you feel and we are here for you.

(((HUGS)))

[dancer]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I too had to put my cat to sleep due to sudden, unexpected kidney failure. We kept her alive in the vet for a week and then brought her back home to spend her last night cuddling with us in bed as she loved to do so much. She was only 7 years old and my heart is broken. She is my soul mate and I am lost without her. It's been nearly 8 weeks and I still don't know what to do without her. I cry for her almost every day and I miss her so much it makes my entire body ache. Please know that you are not alone. We all know how you feel and we are here for you.

(((HUGS)))

Thank you for your understanding of this loss for me and dash, knowing I'm not alone does help somehow..I've done everything possible too help myself through this, her grave has flowers and every heart stone I have...This sight might just save dash and I again many thanks

[dancer]

Oh I am so sorry about your loss. The pain and grief is a tricky phase to get through - I'm still hurting a month after losing my kitty and I sometimes wonder if the hurt will ever really go away.

Sending warmest thoughts, and this site is comforting so please come on as much as you need to. It has helped me to know there are others as sensitive to the loss of their pet as I am. Some people seems to recover quickly, but clearly there are those of us who have intense feelings to work through.

Thank you for being here scarlett, I miss my baby...And understand as too why, for when you spend every day for 11 years with your best friend whom is always there for you and suddenly is not there anymore the pain is severe, the loss of this love reminds me if how alone I am and will be

[dancer]

dancer I am so sorry for what you are going thru, I went thru having to hve my best friend for 14yrs put to sleep, & it's awful. I wass reading bout your dasher & thinking that is the same way that kids respond too & it just rips ya heart apart, at least with kids they (dependent upon their age) can sorta understand after a while but other pets, well that's a lot tougher. {{{HUGS}}} i wish i was closer so i cld hug u in person, this is such a painful time, I hve found the ppl here to know exactly what it is u r going thru and will respond with understanding & compassion. come here as I often as u need, I myself was checking in 6 or 7 times a day after I had my Buddy put to sleep. coming here as helped & is continuing to help me.
I care that u r hurting.
elaine

I felt your hug elaine, thank you , I just knew I would find there are others like me that almost love pets more than some people on this earth..Their love is unconditional, rare and true..Thank you

[dancer]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I too had to put my cat to sleep due to sudden, unexpected kidney failure. We kept her alive in the vet for a week and then brought her back home to spend her last night cuddling with us in bed as she loved to do so much. She was only 7 years old and my heart is broken. She is my soul mate and I am lost without her. It's been nearly 8 weeks and I still don't know what to do without her. I cry for her almost every day and I miss her so much it makes my entire body ache. Please know that you are not alone. We all know how you feel and we are here for you.

(((HUGS)))

We know we did the humane act by putting them out of thier pain, but this is the saddest act I ever in my life had too do...Dancer went quickly, she spent 1 night at the vets hospital, and was gone the next day...He the vet said take her home and spoil her to heck, this was an impossible thing to do for dancer, for she have always had the best love, caring, toys, food I could offer My vets office sent a lovely hand written note of sympathy for me, I've been with him for 15 years...He has a tough job, I always wanted to be a vet, but after this well you would need to be a very very strong human being...I had a request that when Dancer be put to sleep that this be done outside, he did this for us...Which I'm grateful for..I trained both my cats when they were kittys to go out on harnesses with a leash attached so they could chase a butterfly and bask in the beautiful sun in NH.. (I had lost one before and this wasn't happening again), so the Dancer and Dasher were able to go outside and be safe..I was always there with them when they would go out..All I had to say was "who wants to go out" Dancer would always come running first...Dasher is still looking and waiting for her too come home... Thank you for your hugs and kindness...

[petmum]

dear dancer i'm glad u felt my hug, so he is another {{{HUGS}}}, this is such a an awful time for you & dasher. it's amazing how much physical pain we feel through our losses. sometimes there are no words...........................know that I care about how you feel......just remember to breathe......strange thing to say but I found i was holding my breath and didn't realise it....a natural reaction i would say to stress.......say hi to dasher for me

[dancer]

dear dancer i'm glad u felt my hug, so he is another {{{HUGS}}}, this is such a an awful time for you & dasher. it's amazing how much physical pain we feel through our losses. sometimes there are no words...........................know that I care about how you feel......just remember to breathe......strange thing to say but I found i was holding my breath and didn't realise it....a natural reaction i would say to stress.......say hi to dasher for me

The words are hard to find, but in finding this site The comfort is felt, the love and hugs are felt..(I was so afraid someone would be mean and cruel to my heart fellt pain inside of me and dasher)Your comment on breathing is appreciated as well, I found myself hyperventilating...I will say hi to dash for you petmum, she is now my concern, feeding time has been an issue, she gets confused when only one plate is put down and no sure as too whether or not she should eat....A few soft spoken words and telling her its okay she finally eats..She isn't eating any dry food though only wet..Time is what we have....For now its me and dash and also the wonderful people on this site...Peace and love

[petmum]

peace & love just what we need

[Sammie girl'...]

Dancer,

I am so very sorry for the loss in your life and the pain in your heart. It is indescribable and actually physically hurts I know. I lost my dog, Sammie at the age of 3 1/2 years old 18 days ago. I came back from vacation and she had been with my friend. She died of a disease that shut down her organs and we had NO idea she had it. I was literally in a state of shock. I couldn't remember what day of the week it was. I wondered around my house not remembering from room to room why I went there. I was saying and doing really stupid things. I sobbed uncontrollably, hyperventilated, threw up, screamed outside at the top of my lungs, "no, no, no" many times. I laid down on the dirt on her grave one night for 2 hours sobbing until my husband came home and picked me up and carried me inside. I hardly even remember that. I didn't eat or sleep for days. I drank a few beers to try to dull some pain. My doctor and friend prescribed me Ambien just so I would sleep. I didn't even want to shower. I didn't wear make-up for the first two weeks b/c I was just going to cry it off. I put her collar under my pillow and it is still there. I printed off every picture of her I have and look at them often. I went over to a friend's house for dinner one night and a dogfood commercial came on and in the middle of dinner I burst into tears. No warning, nothing. I couldn't stop crying. I thought I was losing my sanity and would never stop crying. I thought I was having a heart attack the pain was so bad in my heart. Then I got angry because everyone else seemed to be fine and expected me to be fine too. They still do. I'm better but not fine. That's why I came to this sight and it has been a Godsend. Keep pouring out your heart, it helps especially when you are pouring it out to people who know exactly the pain you feel. We will never be the same that's for sure. But, I do believe we'll be o.k just in a different way. But you have to let yourself mourn and feel all those emotions. That's the only way you are going to heal. Our tears will help us heal. It might help to read the book "All Pets go to Heaven". It actually was the first thing that gave me some relief and a sense of peace. Another member on here recommended it to me and I'm glad she did. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and I'll keep looking for your posts on here to check on you.
Melanie

[petmum]

wise words in deed melanie

[Jay T]

Im so very sorry ,it is so hard i know when our pets leave us .my jeannie passed away over a month ago and its still so hard .i do hope you start to feel a bit better ,everbody here knows how this feels .please take care and give your self some time over it , THANKS JAY

[petmum]

{{{HUGS}}} to u dancer
elaine