Heartbroken & Lost Options

[LoveThem]

I love that picture of Simon and Jake. I am glad you have Jake. I found it harder when I didn't have any other furbaby in my home after I lost one.

It hurts so very much and we all have felt that hurt. You are not alone ...the pain you feel...we all share with you. Kind of makes it all a little bit easier.

Write anytime you feel like it and tell us some stories about Simon that is a memory that makes you smile. Post more pictures if you feel like it...we all love to look at pictures...pictures are the good, happy memories that are priceless. We don't think about it when we take the picture but later on, we realize it was important to do.

It is only natural when one loses a best friend to feel so many emotions, it seems overwhelming but in time we learn to control the tears, the grief....and then some days out of the blue, we can be overwhelmed again...that's natural too.

I am so very deeply sorry about Simon but I am glad he was a part of your life..that you two were able to enjoy much together. We know that the pain of losing them is never greater than the joy of knowing them and it is that joy that lets us survive the physical loss in time. We, however, keep them in our hearts forever and miss them and love them for eternity and we hope we all are reunited one day in the place they call Heaven cause if they aren't there, it wouldn't be Heaven and as a member once said...if they aren't there...I want to go where they are. I echo that thought.

Hugs, Frank....it is okay to do whatever makes you feel better, whether it is to cry, to vent, etc.
There is no hurry to do things...time has a way of going by no matter what we are doing.

Take care...I wish you peace and healing and know that in time those wishes will come true.

Judy

[jasonsmom]

So sorry, Frank, about your Simon. These things always happen so unexpectedly and quickly, you don't have time to react. Sometimes you blame yourself. You wish you could go back in time. I also did not know of this website until a week ago when I lost a pet, the people here are very supportive. All I can suggest is, if your mind keeps trying to replay the accident, you're just torturing yourself needlessly. There was nothing you could have done, little guys like that move at the speed of light! Try instead to replace that image with an image of Simon running in a park, or coming to see you when you come home. He is cute, and looks like a real little character!

[LoveThem]

Hi, Frank

Just checking to see how you are doing.

Judy

[frank]

Thank you to everyone who has shown concern and helped me through this difficult experience. We take one day at a time, and realize that there's nothing to take the pain away. I learned that you just have to face it head on and get through it. I miss Simon very much each day, and now that the weather is getting nicer, I think about how much he would want to go out and run and play. I still hear his excited tone of voice coming from the back seat of the car each time I drive into the park we used to go to. I try to block it out of my mind because of the pain that the memories bring on. But I'm alright and I hope to get stronger as each day passes.

Everything is relative. There was an article in our local paper the other day. The circu.mstances described in the article are similar to what I went through, with a much more tragic ending. This easily could have been me. I thought that I had it bad until I read this article.

Thanks again.

Frank

Here's the article: Click here for a PDF file: MAN DIES TRYING TO SAVE BEST FRIEND.


This post has been edited by LS Support: Mar 3 2009, 08:07 PM

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[LoveThem]

You are learning to heal..I can tell from what you say. That really was some story, wasn't it..and no one can explain to that dog what happened.

Yes, one day at a time....helps work for so many things in life.

I don't know if you want to block Simon's voice in the car....if....you can smile hearing it and saying to him things like...Boy, we sure had some great times, didn't we, buddy? Words conveying a good emotion because there were more good times than sad times. Dwelling on the good and thinking of them as good helps the healing process.

Sure, at times we still break down and become overwhelmed with grief..but we are thankful as those times are fewer than the memories that make us smile. We can't change fate but we can change the outlook fate forced upon us.....to a happy one thinking of our boys and reminding ourselves just how glad they were a part of our lives cause we now have those memories forever and no power can take those away.

Peace and healing...it comes with time..but we never ever forget these special best friends who taught us so much in our lives. And who will live in our hearts forever. We will love you forever and miss you forever but thank you, thank you, for entering our lives.

Hugs and healing..and a special Hug to your Angel, Simon.

Judy

[rottimum]

Dearest Frank;

I am so sorry of your loss. Simon seemed like he was special! I can only say how sorry I am, as I am dealing with my own loos, and I hope my Jasper is playing with Simon right now as I write this to you! My big Ole' Rotti loved little dogs, he would try to "mother" them, yes you read that right, my male rotti, would try to mother little dogs, he was always so afraid something would happen to them; that he would try to herd them!

You have my deepest sympathies and if you need to talk I am here!

Lisa Consider yourself Hugged from me! And your Simon hugged from my Jasper!!!!!!!!!!! xoxo