My Heart Is Broken Options

[LoveThem]

Still not sleeping well at night ...


It's been a year and I leave my TV on all night so it is never 100% quiet and I fall asleep.
My Little Guy never left my side...he was close to me when I woke up and watched me fall asleep and if I happened to wake up, he was lying by my side in an instant, waiting to be petted.
Yes, we do miss a lot and the emptiness can be overwhelming.

I cried a lot for a long time. Like you say, someday you will be telling another furbaby about your Casey...well, to stop my crying everyday..I did get my distraction and that is what helped me so very much.

It takes time for the pain to lessen but the loneliness never truly goes away. My new boy galloping through my house (like my Little Guy used to do) is such a distraction...I can't allow myself to let the pain overwhelm me anymore...and I don't want it to. I want to just miss him, with tears, but without the awful hurt deep down inside.

Time will help you..and think of the good memories when you find yourself sad..that can help too.

I wish you peace and healing. Take it one day at a time.

Hugs,
Judy

[Casey's Mom]

Yesterday was Casey's 1 month bridge day and it seems like everything has come back to hit me again all over again. I was up half the night on Saturday night crying and remembering that last night with Casey and so sad all day on Sunday. I returned unopened cat food to Petsmart last weekend and broke down in line. I thought I was doing better ... and I do have days when I don't cry now, but then the lonliness just overwhelms everything else and I just lose it. I know that it is too soon to adopt another kitten right now - I have no doubts that I will get another baby, but not now. I looked at some at the rescue adoptions at Petsmart the day last week that I was there, and it just doesn't feel right yet. I know that God will tell me when and He will send the perfect baby - or babies - for me to bring into my life. I miss her so very much that it hurts my heart. I feel like I'm back to square one.

Please, please, please keep me in your prayers.

Take care,
Lisa

[LoveThem]

It is so very normal to be overwhelmed again....and again... that is cause we love them so very much that our missing them is simply too HUGE to lessen quickly.

You have to do whatever feels right and makes you feel better. If you want to cry....do it.
If you want to come here and write your thoughts and feelings...do it.
If you want to come here and write a note to Casey.....do it.

These are some of the things we try that seem to help.

As far as another one, you will know when it feels right. I just decided it was time to look and see IF I made a connection. I did it because I was crying all the time, every day and after so much time...I realized I didn't feel better after crying..so I thought what would help me and I knew I needed a distraction from my pain...and that is why I started looking.

Just remember.....whatever feels right is the thing to do. That's what helps the healing.
Posting pictures and telling stories sometimes will help.

There is no time limit on grieving. We take it one day at a time and do the best we can.
You are not alone..we all go through what you are talking about. It is part of the process
we seem to have to go through.

It is okay to grieve. It is okay to cry. It is okay to miss your best friend..it is okay.

Hugs and healing I wish for you. It takes time and sometimes different amounts of time for different people. What is best for each one of us is the normal and right thing to do for ourselves.

Judy

[Flossie's Mom]

Casey's Mom,

I am 2 days from my 4 weeks without my wonderful Flossie. I know I would feel the same as you about getting another baby now. I guess I was lucky that just 4 months before I had to let her go a small dog adopted us and my niece gave me a kitten.

I didn't really want either one as I knew in my heart that Flossie's time was limited. Of course I was hoping for more than those 4 months. I knew for a month she was not having a quality of life that we both wanted and it was a horrible month.

Even though I did not want these two furry ones, I am very glad they are here. Having to look after their needs really does distract from the lonlieness. This is only how it works right now for me. I still cry every day. I will for a long time I'm sure , but having a cat to snuggle with me every night and be there in the morning does help. Having the dog to walk and come running to you with such a happy wagging tail really makes you feel like you are important.

Having lost many before this I know you will eventually have better days. It has been different amounts of time for each one I've lost as well as different intensity. Flossie was my all time best dog and will be missed until the day I join her at the bridge. Take whatever time is right for you before you add your new baby.

You are in my prayers tonight and for as long as you need to be.

Ginger