I Am Very Lonely Already Options

[LoveThem]

Jorge

I don't understand your last post. No one is tired of seeing your love for Buster. I wrote you last Sunday and don't see a reply. I have not been well this week but try to check in when I can.

I don't understand about no replies to thankyous. I do know you posted twice in my thread and I wrote you on 6/4 and 7/6 here and thanked you. I don't know who you were talking about.

You can see by having 15 pages in your topic how much people care. We are all in pain. I appreciate your stopping by my thread when you did. I counted 45 times I have posted to you here. And I see many replies to you from others. That says a lot of caring.

There is no reason to stop talking to Buster. Or to stop coming here.

I mentioned your last words to Buster made me cry, they were so beautiful and then I come here thinking you may have replied to my comment and see you are upset and I can't understand why.

Good luck to you and your new family. I am glad we were here with you and Buster as you tried to get through what was happening to him. He will always be your very best friend and like the rest of us, the pain never truly goes away. If we can help you, let us know how.

No matter what you decide, we will always wish you and your family the best of everything.
And we will never forget your special Angel...Buster.

[ann]

Hi Jorge, Just wanted to let you know how much I truely love reading your posts to your sweet son Buster. (I love how you call him your son). I never get tired of it. Your compassionate words of comfort to me and all here are so appreciated you have no idea. Buster was a hugh part of your life and with his loss, you have become a big part of ours. Buster is a part of our lives now too. When I read how you give him a big hug goodnight, well part of me does too. Please don't feel like no one cares anymore. We do. I think it's so special when I read simple I love you posts. I seem to post when I'm an emotional wreck and I think oh god, who wants to here my woes. If someone wants to respond or not that is fine, either way it's good to get it out. We all know this sucks. This is my "shoulder" to cry on when I need to. I sure hope it will still be yours too. Whatever you decide to do, keep in touch from time to time. Many hugs to you and your family, and thank you for being here when I needed it.. Hugs Ann

[goliath]

Good morning Jorge,

I must tell you that I don't understand why you think people here are tired of your posts. This place is yours to write in as often as you wish and even though you may not get as many responses as you did when you first came here in May, people still read them. There are alot of people who grieve here who have put their own sadness aside and lent support to you as well as others in their time of need.

Though I don't come to LS very often these days, I do read your posts. I'm not sure how many times I posted to you, but I know I have talked with you through PM's as well as multiple times on the telephone consoling you as much as I was able to. My life is different now and it's important for me to live it in the fullest way I can. It's not healthy for me to spend the majority of my free time on the computer. I've learned to let go of the pain which has allowed me to hang onto the beautiful memories of my sweet Goliath and keeps his loving spirit alive. When I first came to LS my husband and Gidget were largely ignored as I struggled through finding a way to peace, acceptance, and a will to survive and love life again. Today, I spend my freetime with my family and give them the attention and love they deserve. They have a life to live and so do I. Each day is a precious gift and my goal is to make each one a day to remember always.

There was a time I was dependent on the people of this forum. I will always be thankful to those who helped me along the way. It was hard for me to let go of LS and not feel the need to come here everyday. I feel free now to come and go as I please without expectation from others or myself. I tried my best to give back to others what I found here.

I do hope if you feel the need to come here anytime that you will. This place of yours and Buster's will remain here always along with all the postings of support and love you received from the very beginning when Buster was first diagnosed.

Be well, be blessed, and be thankful for all you have had and for all that is yet to be. Live your life to the fullest and make memorable days with your furfamily and the other people you care about in your life. When tomorrow comes, today will be but a memory. Make it a fantastic day today so that tomorrow when you awaken you can say you made it a day that was memorable and filled with joy and love. Spread Buster's love and keep his loving spirit alive.

Much love with hugs Jorge,
Beth

[havana]

Love Them, AngelCareOne, Bubba, Ann and goliath, I am so sorry I did not know how to direct my coments last time I did and I apologize for that, I was refering to the ones that I wrote too twice and even three times and I guess they are going through such hard time like most of us are that never answered my posts or simple did not care about them. But one thing Ann is very clear when she just said to me that she writes just to let out of her sistem and if someone wants to answer fine if not it is fine also and I understand now she is right, I am very sorry by my last post which were not said to you guys, again, I apologize, always Jorge

[Bubba]

Jorge---It is the hardest thing most if not all of us will ever do in this life--------to carry on--------we are copies of each other--------once you become comfortable with your OWN DEATH you will realize every morning when you wake up that you are ONE DAY CLOSER TO BUSTER FOREVER.It is how I deal without my Willy Boy at my side--------Peace Jorge.I will see you at the PARTY AT RAINBOW BRIDGE----REMEMBER TO SUBTRACT THE DAYS---IT WORKS ....................Bubba................

[ann]

Hi Jorge, Oh thank God your back!.. I'm so happy you understood what I said. It's a long and difficult battle and from time to time we need to vent, let it out, etc. I just got thru reading Goliath's post. What a ray of sunshine she is. Unfortunately I have not reached that state of mind yet. I still morn and greive. I'm going to give volunteering at the shelter a try. I just hope I can handle it emotionally. Dave said no more cats, he was too heartbroken over this loss. That is another thing I admire so much about you, Jorge, your not a man who is afraid to show his feelings. I respect that immensely. I find it hard to keep up here. I love reading all the updated posts. And if I can give out some advise or comfort b4 my brain shuts down for the night, I will try. It gets late, I get tired and can't get to everyone. I'm so glad I took a peek at yours yesterday, and today.. Big Huge Hugs to you and Buster. Oh Bubba thinks there is going to be a party at the Rainbow Bridge, do you think I should bring some treats???..Arthur is definetly getting his Temptation snacks.. Ann

[Steve K.]

Jorge,

I sent you a PM a little while ago. Did you receive it? As you already know, the loss of a four legged firend that you love so much is emotionally draining. I am tired all of the time. It is difficult to get through the days now. I try to reply to a post now and then but sometimes I just don't have the energy. The mind is willing but the flesh is weak. I do care about you and your loss and I know that the others here do, too. But I'll bet that they also have the same the same emotional fatigue that I have. We all care, Jorge. Believe me, we do. Hang in there buddy, no one has forgotten you and Buster.


Steve K.

[LoveThem]

Hi, Jorge

you said: But one thing Ann is very clear when she just said to me that she writes just to let out of her system and if someone wants to answer fine if not it is fine also and I understand now she is right

I am glad Ann thought to say that and you understand. Sometimes we automatically believe we all think alike and are surprised to find out we don't.

Sometimes no answer happens when someone starts a new topic with every new thought instead of staying with their original one.

So what happens is they don't read the replies to the old one..cause they are watching the new one.. and so when we post a reply to the original topic and don't see an acknowledgment that our reply was read, it is easy to feel we must not have helped and it is disappointing because we are all in pain and it truly helps each one of us if we can say something to ease someone else's pain a little. Sometimes someone even starts 6 or more topics and it is easy to see replies will be ignored because no one knows which one to reply to. Staying with our original topics is just so much easier for everyone and it really helps to keep track of replies back and forth. Keeps everyone's disappointment to a minimum.

She is right about writing to let it out of your system. I do that too. And, like you, many times I don't see replies in other topics. But that would not stop me from coming here and talking to my Little Guy in my topic..or talking to people who do reply, whether in other topics or a comment in mine.

If I don't see a reply..I assume nothing I said helped and I normally will not post again there.
I can understand if someone just wants to post and replies are not important to get. That they just want to get their feelings out and that's enough for them. I can take the hint and it allows me to devote more time to ones who are helped by replies.

If I write in my topic and no one comments...that's okay...cause (like Ann said)...I do that writing for myself and while I appreciate people stopping by and acknowledging they understand I still am in pain also....I still would post there in my topic cause that is my link to my boy.

This is your link to Buster and we who have walked with you every step of the way since you first came are part of that link. We may not write a comment each time you talk to Buster even though we do read it and enjoy reading because your love for him put in your words just reaffirms our love for our best friends..and sometimes it just seems right to not comment and disturb the flow of your posts to Buster but we always love reading what you say.

But I do understand what you mean about writing and feeling disappointed about no acknowledgment especially as you said...after writing 2 or 3 times with still no response.
All you can do is try to help. If there is no response..look for someone who does respond.

My question on this subject is: what makes a person feel worse...no reply to their comments or reading a reply thanking others for their comments but leaving out one person who also commented?

Since I have felt the way that you do and since this subject of no replies has come up..I thought I would ask this question to see what everyone reading this thinks about my question. Feel free to jump in with your opinion also, Jorge. We both have been where you were talking about. I just wondered about thoughts regarding another way of feeling hurt that I have seen in other topics happen.

I am glad you decided to return. You are such a part of this family that you would be very much missed by so many friends here. Like you, we all have a hole in our hearts and lives by losing our special furbaby friends.....we don't want our people friends to disappear also.

Hugs, Jorge..to you and your sweethearts..and of course, your Angel..Buster

[AngelCareOne]

"Joyful! Joyful!"

Joyful Joyful . . .
Lord we adore Thee . . .
God of Glory . . .
Lord of Love!
Hearts unfold like Flowers before Thee . . .
Hail Thee as the Sun above!

Melt the clouds of sin and sadness!
Drive the dark of doubt away . . .

Giver of Immortal Gladness!
Fill us with the Light . . .
Fill us with the Light . . .
Oh Fill us with the Light of Day!

Joyful Joyful!
Lord we Adore Thee!
God of Glory . . .
Lord of Love!
Hearts unfold like Flowers before Thee . . .
Hail Thee as the Sun Above!

Melt the clouds of sin and sadness . . .
Drive the dark of doubt away!

Drive it away!

Giver of Immortal Gladness!
Fill us . . .
Fill us with the Light of Day!
Light of Day!

Check the rhyme . . .
Joyful Joyful . . .
Lord we Adore Thee . . .
An' in my Life . . .
I put none before Thee!

Cuz since I was a youngster . . .
I came to know . . .
That You was the Only way to go!

So I had to grow an' come to an understandin' . . .
That I'm down with the King . . .
So now I'm Demandin' . . .
That you tell me?!
Who you down with? See . . .
Cuz all I know is that I'm down with G-O-D!

You down with G-O-D?
(Yeah, you know me)
You down with G-O-D?
(Yeah, you know me)
You down with G-O-D?
(Yeah, you know me)
Who's down with G-O-D?

Everybody Now!

Come and Join the Chorus!
The Mighty Mighty Chorus!
Which the Morning Stars begun!
The Father of Love is Reigning over us!

Right Away!

What have you done for Him lately?
Ooh Ooh Ooh Yeah . . .
What have you done for Him lately?

He watches over Everything!
So we Sing!

Joyful Joyful! . . .
Lord we Adore Thee . . .
God of Glory . . .
Lord of Love!
Hearts unfold like Flowers before Thee!
Hail Thee as the Sun above!

Melt the clouds of sin, sin and sadness!
Drive the dark of doubt away . . .
Drive it away!
Giver of Immortal Gladness . . .

Fill us!
Fill us with the Light of Day . . .
Lord, fill us . .
Fill us!
Oh we need You . . .
Yes we do!

Fill us . . .
Fill us . . .
Yeah Oh Oh Yeah . . .
Fill us with the Light of Day Lord!

We need you . . . Come right away . . .
We need you . . . Need you today . . .
We need you . . . I'm here to say . . .
Fill us! Fill us! Fill us! Fill us!

Fill us with the Light of Day!

Light of Day!

[havana]

Bubba, Love Them, Ann, goliath {Beth}, Steve K. AngelCareOne {Dottie} thank you all for you words annd please again fogive me for what I said before I guess at that moment I was blind with sadness and really did not express my self properly, again thank you all, always Jorge

[AngelCareOne]

Bubba, Love Them, Ann, goliath {Beth}, Steve K. AngelCareOne {Dottie} thank you all for you words annd please again fogive me for what I said before I guess at that moment I was blind of sadness and really did not express my self properly, again thank you all, always Jorge

Awww, Jorge. We all luvs ya! So, don't you give it a second thought . . .

Or, as we Italians would say: "FugetAboudit." But! Always remember this . . .

Ready? Here goes . . .

Please Click on The "How Ya Doing?" Kitten and Baby Duck

"Lean On Me"

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain . . .
We all have sorrow.
But if we are wise . . .
We know that there's always tomorrow.

Lean on me, when you're not strong . . .
And I'll be your friend . . .
I'll help you carry on.
For it won't be long . . .
'Til I'm gonna need . . .
Somebody to lean on.

Please swallow your pride . . .
If I have things you need to borrow.
For no one can fill those of your needs . . .
That you don't let show.

Lean on me, when you're not strong . . .
And I'll be your friend . . .
I'll help you carry on.
For it won't be long . . .
'Til I'm gonna need . . .
Somebody to lean on.

If there is a load you have to bear . . .
That you can't carry.
I'm right up the road . . .
I'll share your load . . .
If you just call me.

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand.
We all need somebody to lean on.
I just might have a problem that you'd understand.
We all need somebody to lean on.

Lean on me when you're not strong . . .
And I'll be your friend . . .
I'll help you carry on.
For it won't be long . . .
Till I'm gonna need . . .
Somebody to lean on.

Lean on me!

Tons of Hugs and Love to You, your Son Buster and all your Fur Kid Family!!!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[ann]

Hi Jorge, no appologies needed here. Just glad you came back to read all this. Didn't quite think you were going to...Anyways, I'm here again pertaining to Judy's post to you. She asked a question about what is worst, not getting a response or not being acknowledge when thanks are given out. As she knows, I'm guilty of the latter.. At the time I was new and still learning the site, and was overwhelmed that people actually cared. If I had to chose it would be that, however, the longer I stay niether one would bother me. I think curiosity leads a lot of people to different posts. Some may feel the need to add to it and some may just nod their head and say yep, that's exactly how I feel without typing it in. Like I said b4 its just letting it out that's more important. There's energy here. Your not dealing with one individual. i.e, the other day a co worker asked me about Arthur. We hadn't had the chance to speak in a while, she didn't know and said how sorry she was. She lost her dog about a year and half ago so I knew she understood. Well, one thing led to another and I found myself going on and on about him. She didn't say much but her body language said enough. Her feet were inching away from me. She didn't want to hear it. And that was that. But here, with all these people going thru or have been thru "these feelings" someone is bound to pop up and give out that cyber hug we need. You can't get that if you just jot it down on paper. I haven't seen one that has gone unacknowleged. It's kind of like a soap opera, the story just keeps going on and on and on, so if you've missed something the first time around you can always jump in where it was left off. Well, you may have gotten more of an answer than you wanted. I'm interested in others response to this question too... Ann

[Candy's Dad]

Hey Jorge,

I've been trying to catch up on threads. I haven't been around as often or when I do I tend to read more than post. It sounds like your new family have been keeping you busy. Chuck and I are doing well and are now fostering a kitty named Rocky for a few weeks till he gets fatten up and healthy to get adopted. Hopefully in another couple of months we'll be ready to look for our new puppies and kitten. Take care and know that sometimes folks don't respond for any number of reasons, I'm sure mainly that perhaps they missed it and didn't mean to seem uncaring.

All my best to you and your babies.


Candy's Dad
Hal

[LoveThem]

Sorry, Jorge but I have to put a short response here to Ann cause she said:

Anyways, I'm here again pertaining to Judy's post to you. She asked a question about what is worst, not getting a response or not being acknowledge when thanks are given out. As she knows, I'm guilty of the latter.

Hi, Ann...as far as your last sentence....I may have known but I sure had forgotten..as when I asked the question..I was not thinking of you. It just happened to come up again recently.

It is just that I have seen both ways a number of times and could understand Jorge's hurt feelings. And after reading his response, I did see his posts trying to help not acknowledged. I tried to explain what I could see as different reasons and how to deal with those reasons.

I'm glad for your answer cause I agree with it as a good explanation, did not think to say it that way, and most important, it helped Jorge and he is still here with us.

We are not trained professionals offering advice...we are all people in pain who will put our pain aside for a short time if we think we can help another in the same pain. Even reading a "thank you to all who stopped by" makes us smile because just maybe we eased someone's pain for even a few moments while they were reading. Sometimes the simplest things mean a lot.

And, just maybe, Jorge's words remind us of hurts that can happen to people already suffering, even though unintentional. We can't fix what we don't know about.

I'm glad Jorge posted how he felt instead of just leaving. It is a way to remind all of us that the people who do reply are in the same pain...that's why we can understand each other better than the outside world. And communication helps us all. It can help distract some of the intense pain while we are learning how to cope with it.

Ann and Jorge...you two are perfect examples of the wonderful caring that can be found here. You will put aside your pain to respond to others, to help as best you can. Even though it takes tragedy for all of us to come here...it is the understanding and the feelings set down by you and others who speak the way you do because of your love for our special furbabies....it is the latter that makes us stay.

[AngelCareOne]

Just talking at myself here. Okay?

Notes to self:

1. Some people are tremendously sensitive especially regarding certain events and how they are feeling at one given moment in time.

2. Some people may choose to express how they are feeling at that one given moment in time then afterwards will become very embarrassed about it later since they were feeling that certain way at that particular point in time.

3. Some of these people realize all the above mentioned ... After the fact ... But it's too late to take back what they've said since people have commented to that person about their statement.

4. Some people then apologize profusely for having made such a comment while in a moment of enormous pain, grief, loneliness and so on.

5. Some other people continue to converse regarding ... Fill in the blanks.

6. Some people who are very sensitive then become so embarrassed, feel really hurt and such great remorse when that happens so they may not say another word. Never ever again.

7. Conclusions: A. Less is more. B. Let things go cuz nothing ever remains the same but if you're willing to play the game then it's coming around again. C. Don't worry. Be happy cuz every little thing gonna be all right. D. If you're happy and ya know it clap your hands. And: E. Blessed are those who expect nothing for they shall never be disappointed.

End of notes to self.

Bye Bye.

Tons of Hugs, Love and Angels!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

PS. Don't mind if one falls apart because there's more room in a broken heart. Word.

PS. PS. No one can fill those of your needs . . . That you don't let show . . .

[AngelCareOne]

OMG! {{{{{{{{{{Jorge}}}}}}}}} I see you're online. I MISS YOU SO MUCH!!!

Tons and Tons of HUGS!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[havana]

Hello to you all, hope you are doing ok and about us? We are all doing fine just amazed 'cause of one of the Cats and one of the Dogs are acting like they are brothers, I am talking about BJ and El Niño I have never seen anything like it, BJ would not let no body touch or play with El Niño [Diabetic Cat] that is remarkable and unbelievable, love to see them going left and right up and down so much and non stop, also eat and sleep together, I am so happy about this 'cause they have become the best two friends brothers ever, I wish you all could see this, best wishes, always, and thanks for your posts, Jorge

[AngelCareOne]

Awww!!! Jorge, that is so very precious. Hey, we'd love to see some photos of them together at some point in time if you're able. Okay? That is so dear!

Big Hugs, Love, Peace, and Angels to You, El Niño, BJ, Your other Fur Kids and Son Buster!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[LoveThem]

Hi, Jorge

What a beautiful picture you have described. It looks like BJ and El Nino have found a special connection. I see pictures on calendars of dogs and cats together and it looks so sweet.

In fact I have a postcard from my vet on a wall. The picture shows a puppy and a kitten lying together on a bench. It reads "A friend is someone who knows you and loves you just the same."
How sweet is that?

Would love to see a picture of them together when you get one.

Hugs to all of you and to that special Angel who is always watching and protecting too...Buster.

[AngelCareOne]