So Sad!, Loss of my friend Options

[Victoria]

Judy
Your replys always strike home and fill my eyes with tears. Not always sad one but good ones. This time through my grief is very different than with Jay. I think because he was the first to go and the closes to my heart. I did not relize I had spent so much time with sick dogs I think I forgot the enjoyment I have now with Dinky as a well dog. My mind now goes to playing outside instead of dreading the impending death of my loved ones. Dinky is adjusting to being the only dog very well. And I guess if she can do it so can I!!!!. What a joy now fill my soul as I have no more worrys about vet visits and dreaded news. I loved my guys so much and miss them more than words can say but I did the very best I knew how to care for and love them. They were very blessed dogs.
As I go for long walks with Dinky and see the different dogs around and I know how wonderfully my dogs were cared for. We even bought a travel tralier so they could go with us where ever we went. Vacations were never good unless we had the crew. I always made sure they were comfortable, fed, warm or cool enough. And above all I made sure they were happy.
Now I have let go of them for now and will begin to enjoy the great memorys they have left. I am so glad they crossed my path of life!!!!!!!!! I shall now give to Dinky all of my Dog time. We play ball every day and go for long walks and swims down by the river. I will enjoy her. Some day, but not to soon I will let go of her too. But I don't have to live there any time to soon.

I want to thank everyone here because I know you all have the same feelings as I do regarding your sweet pets. I feel so much at home here and can share anytime. The people in my real world does not for the most part want to relive any of the hurt or pain and just wants to move on. And sometime I am just not ready to move on. When thats the case I can find safety here. thanks.

[Victoria]

I just have to say my life is just so different. Dinky has been my true blessing. Everytime I start to cry she goes and gets a ball as if to say I know you miss them so do I but here I am lets play you will feel better. And I do she is such a great dog and loves to play. But I still miss the boys. Its just so hard to believe they are gone. They were the best dogs ever!!!!!

[LoveThem]

Dinky sounds so very sweet. I'm glad you two are helping each other. Yes, come here anytime you want to talk. We will always miss our special ones we lost...that's just a part of knowing them.
I know J-dog and Goose, being in the best of health, are nearby....watching over you and Dinky too.

I love it when you said she brings you a ball when you start to cry...that's what these babies do...create a distraction (unless, of course, she really thinks you lost that ball ).

It all sounds peaceful...that's good. When we accept we did the best we could for our best buddies, there is a peace that comes with that thought. We will always miss them but we are at peace with the knowledge they are not suffering and what they were suffering from could not be cured. That is when we know their time has come to leave. We don't want them to and they don't want to go but when that time comes...the choice is not ours or theirs.

But the time we had with them and those oh so precious memories and pictures of play without pain, and being together with them without suffering...we are grateful to have those times.

Hugs to you and Dinky and your hubby. Having a furbaby to still be part of our lives is always a wonderful thing. I could see when she brings you that ball, you probably can't help but smile a little through the tears...smiling at her...trying to help you. What a sweetheart!

Take care and visit anytime.
Judy

[Victoria]

Thanks Judy
I'll post again soon. Blessings to you because you have been a blessing to me!!!!!

[sissycat]

Sounds like Dinky is trying to take care of you.
Sorry to hear of your "boys".

Hugs to You!!!!

[Victoria]

I'm really missing my dogs today. I come here sometimes to visit my memories and my emotions. I just went out to visit Goose's grave. The house seems so empty!! I miss you Jay dog you were my best friend!!!!!!!!!!!! I miss you too Goose!!!!!! Sorry I just had to cry out. I'm crying all over my counter as I write this.

[LoveThem]

It is ALWAYS okay to cry......our grieving has no rules, no time limits.

It is not unusual here to type through tears...not unusual at all.

Here's a tight cyber-hug, Victoria...for you

We all share the same pain and we have it everyday...it's just that some days..it does not overwhelm us...and other days..well, it just does.

But it is all normal. It is all okay. What makes us feel any relief or feel better is the thing to do.

Judy

[Victoria]

I have not visited here in a while. But as the one year mark is drawing near I can think about nothing else. I so can't believe it almost been a year with out my Jay dog. I really didn't think I could live without him. But I can. I still miss him so and find my self talking to others about the funnyest storys about him. He still is very much apart of my life. Goose too is missed so much. My husband and I always say how much we miss the boys. Dinky is doing very well and loves being an only dog. She is quite funny too. She runs my life . But I like it that way I just let her think she is running my life... Really!
I just once again need to thank all of you for your help through a very dark time in my life. There is life after a loss like this even after two losses. I will never have dogs like Jay and Goose. I will have other dogs but they will always be on top. I'll be back I'm sure on the day but till then thank you.
Victoria

[LoveThem]

Anytime, Victoria........come back anytime.

You may not realize it but coming back and showing you are going on really gives hope to many who just arrive and see no end to daily pain and tears.

So keep in touch and I am glad to hear about Dinky. We need more smiles like that in our lives.

Hugs,
Judy

[Victoria]

Ok here I go again... I took Dinky to the Vet today because she look like she might have a pee problem. Well I was not prepared for what happened. She took some pee out of her and when she did it was almost clear. Not a good sign. I have been here before with Jay. The vet said she thought it was Diabetes Insipidus. That was what Jay had. She is so healthy just got her blood work done last month and it was purfect. Why this? It is suppost to be rare. So how can I get to dogs that get it. The labs will be back later this week. I am fear struck!!! I can't do this again. Dinky has not drank any water today either. I feel so sick inside. I need this little dog!!! I really don't know what to do. Just when I was begining to live life well again. And on the edge of Jays 1 year aniversary death. And Goose too. Help

[sissycat]

Victoria,
Praying for good test results. From your experience here you know there are so many of us hoping and praying for you and Dinky!!!!!!!!!!

PLease keep us informed on any news you have.


Hope, hugs, and prayers to the both of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[LoveThem]

Oh, Victoria

I hope those lab test come back quickly. If she was tested just a month ago...maybe it is just a minor bladder infection antibiotics would knock out. When my Little Girl and my Little Guy had a pee problem..it was crystals and got flushed out right away. Their problem was they could not pee.

Is she eating okay? I believe the wet food means they do not need a lot of water. So maybe if you didn't see her get some water for a day, it could be okay.

Is she acting normal? Is there still what seems to be a peeing problem?

It really could be something that can be taken care of quickly...I hope so. Be sure and write down any questions you have about anything you are noticing...like drinking water, etc.

So when you have a talk with your vet....ask everything you can think of. The vet did send her home with you so he must not feel it is an emergency..take comfort from that. Today is Friday and I do hope the results are back so you can discuss your concerns with your vet.

I know my questions are always like...What should I look for that means I should bring her right in? What do I call about that I noticed to see if it is something to keep track of.

Going back to what I said earlier...the fact that he did not keep her is a good sign. Keep that in mind and let us know what the tests said and what is happening.

Hugs and kisses to Dinky!
A special BIG HUG to you!

Judy

[Victoria]

All tests are back and it look like she is ok. The vet could not fine anything. This is so wierd. I know when my dog does not feel good But I will look at this in the positive. She seems ok now we are giving her a round of antibiotics just to be sure. She is my last of the three and I want to make sure she is fine. I quess if I spend $900+ dollars and they fine nothing this is good
I know that I am not the only one to worry and it cost me lots of $$$.

[LoveThem]

Glad to hear the tests were okay. Hope the antibiotics knock it out.

I know what you mean about spending money and finding nothing wrong is good.

Yes, indeed. I always think of it as the "process of elimination". Many things that can show up
do not...and that is a good thing.

I know you will want to keep an eye on her until you feel she feels okay again.

Keep us updated please.

Hugs,
Judy

[Victoria]

well its been a year now without J-dog. I must admit I have never missed a dog this much. I have had lots of dogs in my life but this ones shines above all others. The pain is almost gone. I do still cry from time to time but its short. I really never thought I would get better but I have. With the help of this place. grief is a very strange thing. We all go through it and all very differently. Its a very powerful emotion. I have not grieved as hard with Goose as I did with Jay but I believe Jay helped me with Goose. I knew what to expect. Gooses dyeing was more natural, Jays more sudden. Either way it was one of the hardest things I have had to go through. I have lost many friends and family but I'm almost embassed to admit Jays death was the hardest. I guess its because Dogs are so personal. I mean they are all about us. It like love with no hassel or problems. Human love is the best but a dogs love is speical. I know he is out of pain and suffering and at rest. Dinky is doing just fine she is becoming my best freind too. Next week we both are going to fly to calif. It will be fun she loves to go with me everywhere.I think she will do great on the plane. Not a long flight. I never could do this with the boys They were not the flying type. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for listening.

[sissycat]

Glad to hear the test results were good.

We all have that Special Furbaby. We can never replace them.

Hugs to you!!!!!!!!!!

[LoveThem]

Thanks for the update, Victoria. I am glad to hear about Dinky.

I agree it is hard to go through losing any of these sweethearts. What you described..about no judgment is really that special "unconditional love" we know so well as that is the gift we are given every single day they are with us.

Keep in touch. Happy Flight!

Hugs,
Judy