Grief Was Getting Better, But Now Has Come Back.. Options

[BooBoo's Mom]

I thought I was over the major part of grieving my beloved dog, (gone to Heaven for a few months now,) but suddenly, all this week, I have been crying and feel like I am back at the first few weeks of the grieving process. Is grieving an "up and down" process where you think you are finished with it and then it comes back full force again? I think I am crying, etc again because we are planning summer and it's bringing back all these memories of good summers with our dog.
I am realizing that this summer, he won't be with us to enjoy our yearly traditions. I really really really miss him right now.

[kmom]

BooBoosMom,

I have been experiencing the same thing. I had to put down our dog 3 months ago today, and in the past few weeks, the grief has come back again. I have to say, it's not quite as bad as the first few weeks, but I have been crying every day I miss him soooo much.

I think that spring is now here makes it worse also. Getting out on walks, going to the lake, just being outside brings back all those good times we had. He use to fish in the lake and it was so hilarious. I still have a hard time coming to grips that I won't be seeing him do any of that stuff every again.

Sorry for your loss. I'm slowly coming to realize that I'll miss him forever and may never get over that loss.

[SJ J & S]

It is definately a roller coaster ride isnt it.

[Daisy's Mommy]

I understand just how you feel. As the weather gets nicer, I remember how Daisy loved the Spring and Summer and I can't believe that she is not here to enjoy it.

My grief doesn't get better. It is just bad or worse.

You are not alone in your feelings.

Daisy's Mommy

[parker]

BooBoo's Mom,
It has been almost 9 months for me and the grief still goes in and out each week even. My boy Parker was my very best friend and the best part of me.....you can't lose someone like that and not constantly have to struggle to maintain each day. It sounds like you felt the same about your baby as we all do. I am now to the point where sometimes I will go 3 or 4 days without crying, but then I have a big breakdown and it lasts off and on for 3 or 4 days. Then, I could go for a week without crying, but it always comes back. Our love was too strong for it not to go on in this life without him. My grief and I am sure yours is now......because you just want them here and can't believe that you have to live in this world without them. It isn't fair and I will NEVER think that it is, no matter how much time passes. I will always grieve Parker, and I will always celebrate him. You do the same, and feel perfectly justified in it.

Parker's Mom,
Kerry

[Daisy's Mommy]

BooBoo's Mom,
It has been almost 9 months for me and the grief still goes in and out each week even. My boy Parker was my very best friend and the best part of me.....you can't lose someone like that and not constantly have to struggle to maintain each day. It sounds like you felt the same about your baby as we all do. I am now to the point where sometimes I will go 3 or 4 days without crying, but then I have a big breakdown and it lasts off and on for 3 or 4 days. Then, I could go for a week without crying, but it always comes back. Our love was too strong for it not to go on in this life without him. My grief and I am sure yours is now......because you just want them here and can't believe that you have to live in this world without them. It isn't fair and I will NEVER think that it is, no matter how much time passes. I will always grieve Parker, and I will always celebrate him. You do the same, and feel perfectly justified in it.

Parker's Mom,
Kerry

You just want them here and can't believe that you have to live in this world without them

[BooBoo's Mom]

Yes, and I have sometimes cried over the dog that died over 20 years ago too. You don't just cry over your beloved pet. You cry over the memories and the way life has changed and will never be the same again, and for all the good times that won't ever happen again. And you are also crying over the way life is so unpredictable and uncertain and how good times always have to end and how things always have to change. Life is all about saying "Hi" and "Bye" to people, pets, and youth and all that.

[parker]

My god you are right!!! As juvenile as it sounds, life is just so damn unfair. How can the best things in the world (our fur babies) be taken so quickly from us but some horrible people live on and on until a ripe old age. It doesn't seem fair and hopefully one day it will all make sense. Hopefully Parker will explain it to me when I see him!!! That is a wonderful thought.

Parker's Mom.
Kerry

[Princess Sophie]

Yes, grief is a recurrent cycle just as you have a better day
and you think you are getting better..it comes back full force.
The cycles of grief are the same no mattter what loss you
are griefing. My husband died suddenly and tragically when
we were 47 and that was my first experience with intense
grief. I am thankful that I finally sought counseling and
found out what I was feeling and going through was a
normal process and these times would cycle back but
that the good days would, too. I found the season
changes always affected my grief for my husband ...
stirred up emotions again. Losing my Sophie
has been like losing my child and my grief
has went through the denial and guilt stages and somedays
I think I am accepting it but like I said it will
start over again.
You are in my thoughts.
Sophie's mom--Jan

[BooBoo's Mom]

I am so sorry to hear about your husband. That was a tragedy and my heart goes out to you.