My Elderly Cat Died This Morning And, I feel I did some wrongs that hurted her Options

[Kurbysma]

Maureen,

Have you thought that maybe Marmalade knew her time had come and that is why she came to you in the night and snuggled with you? From reading your first post, it seems as if she knew her time was up and she wanted to say goodbye to you before she left. She could probably tell you were very tired and weak yourself and I bet she understood why you fell back asleep instead of getting up with her.
Animals have a weird sense of when their time to pass has come.....

I will keep you in my prayers tonight.

Kurbysma

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[Daisy's Mommy]

Which pet loss support line has chats? I would very much be interested in that.

Daisy's Mommy

[Muffins]

Hi ((((((Daisy's Mommy))))))

Actually, we have one right here.

Just go to the main page of Lightning-Strike. At the bottom, you will see "Pet Loss Chat". Click on that, and it will take you to the "chat room".

Right here ---->>>> http://www.lightning-strike.com/index.htm

I just went there to check it out (11:20pm EST), and there were two people chatting.

Good luck!!

Goodnight & God Bless You.

Love, Denise

p.s. I don't think that I ever told you, but your Avatar, the photo of Daisy is sooo
extremely beautiful & precious. Daisy surely looked like she was such a doll,
and I would have loved to have met her!
I'm sure that your Daisy and my furbaby Ernestine are playing together up at
Rainbow's Bridge. That makes me so happy!!

[Fiona and Stripe...]

Please, please don't blame yourself. My beloved Stripey cat died 4 weeks ago today after spending a week in hospital. She would have been 13 tomorrow and was diabetic. She developed ketoacidosis and unfortunately the vet couldn't stabilise her. She was peaceful and in no pain but I have spent a lot of the last month torturing myself that I should have noticed something earlier, that she would have felt I deserted her as she didnt see me for several days and that I didnt say goodbye to her or was with her when she died. I still have moments when I am overwhelmed with grief and pain as you will be. You were there - Marmalade knew you were there. Cats often seem to want to die in peace and alone and will take themselves off somewhere to do this, no matter how loved and adored they are. It was her time to go and she died peacefully after a good life - in a way we are the lucky ones as we did not have to make the traumatic decision of having a loved one put to sleep - with two other kittys aged 13 and 8 this is something I may well have to face at some point and I dread it but hope, like others, I will be strong enough to make the right decision. Grief is a hard emotion to bear - try not to make it harder on yourself by needlessly blaming yourself as well (I am much better at giving advice than I am at listening to my own!)

Be at peace.

Fiona
xx

[Kim R.]

I am much better at giving advice than I am at listening to my own!

You hit the nail on the head for me with this statement ! It always seems so obvious to me when I read other people's stories that they did the right thing, if their furbaby was sick or suffering, to have them euthanized, that there is no kinder thing to do for our best friends...so why is it so hard for me to get this through my own thick skull ??? Everything I type here at LS comes from the heart, so if those are my true feelings, I should be healed by now, I should be able to accept that I did what was best for my girl and for that have no regrets.... hmmm...so why is it that it has been almost two years since Sasha left and I still struggle with it everyday ????
your friend in grief,
Kim

[joywarrior]

Hi, I thank you all, Dear Kurbysma and Daisy's Mommy and Denise and Fiona and Kim, and God Bless You. I have not have enough time on the internet to do all the talk that I was willing and wanting to do here on this site, but I have with you in spirit heart every day and night. I will come to this site and read and listen and talk as much as I can, as long as this site continues. I am in deep sorrowfull grief now yet, in my soul and my body and my spirit. I need all the help I can get. We all do. We need to love and help one another all the time. I just now ate a piece of chicken and I felt wretched and I wept with sorrow grief because my dear cat Marmalade could not have it to eat. This chicken would have been so good for her, and she liked chicken very much. So many things hit my grief, sometimes unexpectedly, sometimes expectedly. I love my Marmalade cat person soul. She and I were so much bonded together, she was a part of me, a big person creature in my life, and I was giving her loving care every day and nite, and she and I had very good communication with each other. When she touched eyes with me, she really talked to me with her eyes and it was very powerfull and real and spiritual personal and loving and alive. My photos of her are buried in unknown location in my stored things, and I cannot get my hands on her photos, but as soon as I can find the photoss of Marmalade, I will post one here for you to see her. Please pray for me. I will pray for each one of you. I thank you again for answering my posts and answering the replies to my posts. More soon...... Maureen