Jude And Sadie, My babies Options

[SJ J & S]

Dearest Don the funny thing was when I posted on the old forum I had to word it carefully because it dawned on me I wasn’t sure. Then as you said I thought silly cow it says mommie.
Silly cow again eh. – am I allowed to say cow it is after all an animal and could be a pet, if you had a big garden and they are furry?
Anyway I was trying to think tonight what I meant when I sadie (done it again, guess where my brain is) spiritual to explain myself more clearly, well when I read your postings its like a calm spot in a stormy sea, so im not suprised your friends come to you for a shoulder to cry on.
Thank you
The bit about the human spirit ive only just realised this in my medium research and life realy makes sence to me now, if youve realised this all along then you must be a really high spirit and id say your postings would confirm this.
Love Sue

[DJ - Edgar and J...]

At one time in my life - my soul was touched. Two little, grumpy, demanding, furry, overwhelming beings touched me deeply. Gender doesn't matter. All that matters is the love we feel for each other.

Some have you have touched my soul, made my heart ache, and other have made a balm with your words that has soothed my beyond belief.

My family is here. In pain, in grief, in loss -we find a bond that draws us together and allows us to touch something greater than our individual souls. A human commonality that exists beyond and within.

Smile when you think DJ is a guy - and imagine that when I'm hugging you it's with slightly different arms. But I am hugging you nonetheless. You are caring, giving, loving people and a part of me. I owe you my sanity.

[Saki & Freyj...]

Amen to that. Truer than true.
And as far as gender not mattering -- I think that is why our loss is sooooo deep. None of that crap mattered with our furbabies. Fat thin smart dull rich poor sick healthy better worse.... NONE of that mattered. All that mattered was our spirits loving each other. It simply is not as easy to bond that way with humans. We love our pets and they love us in ways that are not common with humans. And when we lose that (and yes, I am dimly aware that we never really lose it, but... my loss is still too fresh), when they pass on, it hurts so much bc that sense of pure love feels gone. Your very special friend, the one who didn't care if you got that promotion, or gained 100 lbs, or smelled from doing yard work, the one(s) that most truly just wanted you to be happy and to love, aren't there to remind you of that anymore. And it hurts like the dickens...

Love ya'll,
Jennifer

[DJ - Edgar and J...]

You're right. Love without judgement. Of course, it wasn't selfless love - my guys wanted food, hugs, petting, playing, attention, cuddling, talking, fresher water, the tv off, the tv on, they wanted the one chair a guest would be sitting on....

But they loved me for ME. The part that people can't always seem to see. Sigh - If their loss affects those of us with families and friends so strongly - I can't IMAGINE how it affects people who are alone or lonely or shut-ins or elderly.....

One more reason to keep coming here.

[Saki & Freyj...]

Yeah, I actually wrote an article for an encyclopedia of aging on the topic of pets. There are about 10 billion physical/health benefits to having pets (another thing we lose when they go). And it can be a very very serious problem when the pet of the elderly passes on...

What should I do about the stray hanging around? He runs back and forth across the street and the street is fairly busy. I CAN'T take him. I think various neighbors are feeding him. We CAN'T take him bc of Electra. One, she wouldn't like it, but more importantly bc of her FIV status, we can't have any more cats until she passes on.

Love ya'll,
Jennifer

[SJ J & S]

You could try catching him (good luck) and taking him to a cat rescue centre who will eventually find a home for him and someone to love.
Love Sue

[Saki & Freyj...]

Hey, Sue,

You doing OK??? How'd the anniversary go? Any visits lately? I bet they were whacking that psychic's leg with their tails -- he just didn't know what to make of it.

I am supposed to get Saki's cremains back tomorrow. They called me back yesterday... I don't know what is up with all that. I figure it is about money. I was crying so hard when I took her to the vet-- they put me in a separate room. And I talked to this one vet tech while I was in there, Tim had already talked to her twice in 12 hours, (once to make the euth. appt and then to tell her Saki had passed on her own...). Anyway, so then I ended up leaving without paying. They seemed to want to be rid of me (understandable-- can't have me upsetting other parents or pets) and I've been going to them for years (so I'm good for the $)... So I don't know where she's been these 2+ weeks, but they called me Monday and said the cremains would be here Wednesday /tomorrow.

Grizzly's mom on the old board (don't think she's come over--???) said when she got the cremains, they didn't all fit in her urn. That freaked her out, but then she decided to spread the remaining cremains... I think if Saki doesn't fit, then I'll take the rest of her up to my office.

Hope you are doing ok.

Love,
Jennifer

[SJ J & S]

I did ok - i think - had quite a peaceful day actually with no tears just a peaceful calmness.
When the vet took Jude Ian took control, as I was out of control, and booked for them to do the cremation, when I phoned the next day they said it would be nearly two weeks before we would get her back, I couldn’t wait that long and luckily there was a place near us called Restin Pets who promise to do it the next day so I only had to wait a couple of days.
Ill be thinking of you tomorrow, my personal view on funerals is that the waiting is finally over and gives some closure.
I, as you know, scattered Jude and Sadie’s ashes at the stream where we walked but there is a club we go to and I've been told that an old members ashes are actually in one of the Toby jugs up on a ledge, this I'm told is what he requested in his will and the members often have a toast to him, guess that’s one way of being remembered.
In my will I have requested that my ashes be scattered on a beach, any beach will do Barbados, Hawaii, Jamaica, only kidding, as long as theirs sand and waves and occasionally sunshine. I would also like to request laughter but I know I wouldn’t be able to do that much.
A quote from a site I found on the Internet - words of wisdom
‘To live in someone's heart is not to die’
And one for Joe (elctropop): -
'It is not how a man dies but how he lives that matters'.

Hope everything goes well tomorrow
Love to you, Tim, Saki, Freyja, Electra, mum, dad and grandma
Im sure they'll all be with you.
Sue

[Saki & Freyj...]

You know, Sue,

Before I knew you were a smoker (like me), drinker (like me), wanted to be cremated (like me) spread on a beach (like me), I liked you. My only guess is that Freyja told me to ....

I am NOT going to Cyprus this summer.

But thanks for being such a good friend to me.

I'll let you know how the cremains thing goes...

Love you,
Jennifer

[DJ - Edgar and J...]

Jennifer,

I am in the midst of trying to befriend a stray in my neighbourhood. He's a big black Tom - unfixed, and SOOOO friendly. He's got an infected eye, a few scratches and some nasty knots in his fur. He keeps coming around and I've started feeding him to gain his trust. He already lets me pet him and rolls around on his back for more food!!!

I feel kind of guilty, but my intent is only to get him to my vet so that he can get medical care and I can get him adopted. A local shelter has volunteered to assist me with adoption if I can catch him....

So wish me luck!!! Pray that until I catch him our passed on pets keep him safe!!!

Edgar, Jesse,Saki, Jude, Sadie and Grizzly - I'm counting on you!!!!!!!!

[SJ J & S]

Dearest DJ i guess all we can do is count on you, be patient someone i knew actual told me how they kicked their cat out just because he had fleas.
I dont even want to imagine what this poor little mites life has been like but if anyone can help him/her its you.
One thought try leaving the cage with the food in it and a bed maybe he'll curl up in it, worth a try i suppose.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Love Sue

[Saki & Freyj...]

I think I could catch my little stray with a minimal effort. I need to contact our no-kill shelter here and see if they would take him...

Good luck with catching yours, DJ. And all our furry friends up there, you tell Dj's stray that it is gonna be ok.

I got Saki's cremains back today, but I will post on my own conversation...

[SJ J & S]

Well this is going to be hard for me but I've decided that I babble on far too much, after all someone looking on this site for support doesnt want to know that some guys ashes are in a toby jug down our local club.
Believe it or not in the real world I'm a listener so its been an enormous help to me to be able to babble on and id like to thank you all for being so patient and not screaming at me to just shuuuut uuuuuup.
Of course ill still try to help others with my feeble words, I'm no scholar but more the artistic type, same as my whole family (see here I go again) so I find it difficult to put into words what I'm thinking or feeling, but ill keep trying.
DJ and Jennifer how’s it going with the strays.
Thank you all for your lovely hearts and big ears.
Love Sue

[helen_davies_00]

Sue, when did you loose Jude and Sadie? Their pictures are great. I love dogs that look like they did, not a posh breed just what I call doggy dogs, lovely cuddle me dogs. I'm pleased that Jennifer has a new pup, but it's different for everyone and I gather you are not keen to have more animals yet. After over a year I have not got more cats. I will have more (lots of old cats) one day but not yet.

I hope you are OK, - Helen

[SJ J & S]

Hi Helen so glad to hear from you again I must admit I too was beginning to wonder if the Tom, Dick and Harry joke had upset you, we can all be a bit protective towards our fur babies.
It was nice to learn you were English I always assume I'm talking to Americans; we English can be so reserved.
Sadie died 6 December last year and Jude 6 March this year, it’s been a long hard road but I guess I'm getting there, then tomorrow comes.
I used to have lots of pets but I cant get used to them dying so ……… and yes they were cuddly and I miss that too, but yes I'm ok thanks for asking.
Love Sue

[DJ - Edgar and J...]

The stray still isn't caught but he lets me pet him and rolls over for a belly rub too. My vet is away for two weeks so I hope this guy can hang on til she's back (he's been out there since I moved here two years ago so I think he'll be ok)

[Saki & Freyj...]

Sue,

YOU have helped me so much. So has everyone out here. But I NEVER want you to shut up. I get such comfort from you.

I contacted the no-kill shelter about the stray and they said they didn't have any room right now but to call on Friday. He scares me to death. I hate how he crosses the street.

Tim is crabby about something and gritching at me. I'm sick and don't feel well.

I was realizing today that when I came on the board, You were about where I am now with Freyja's death in terms of time. Weird -- two months now and it feels like yesterday (even with the new pup, who is laying at my feet)....

Time to attend to Tim and Hathor.

Love to you,
Jennifer

[Saki & Freyj...]

So there is this show on here in the states called "pet psychic." I don't know quite what it is about, I think the psychic tells you what is wrong with your pet (ie why it is tearing up the sofa when you go to work...) But it made me think of you. Have you had any readings lately? Any good news?
--Jennifer

[SJ J & S]

C if U can picture this
A trip down memory lane

The scene

Ringo has the run of our 100ft garden
I'm peeling potatoes at the sink
Sadie who loved her bed as much as her food and walks is sleeping
And Jude is nursing stitches with a big white bandage round her front paw.

So as I said I was peeling potatoes by the kitchen window when I heard a kind of short screech I looked up and saw the local fox standing over Ringo and staring straight at me.
After a few seconds I screamed for Jude, Ringo jumped up took a second to realise he had company and darted off down the garden the fox stopped staring at me and took chase, I flew out the back door with the sound of Jude crashing around trying to find balance with her bandaged foot slipping everywhere.
So there we were the fox chasing Ringo me chasing the fox and Jude barking and hoping behind me.
Ringo ran round the greenhouse with the fox hot on his tail. Ringo came out the other side and the fox must have jumped the fence, Jude by now has overtaken me and is jumping up and down looking this way and that and after a little sniff realised hed gone.
I turned round expecting to see Ringo in a panic but instead found him leg ##ed in the air cleaning himself and Sadies at the back door wondering what all the commotions about!

I fell asleep last night with a smile on my lips remembering.

[SJ J & S]

No I haven’t had any more readings, apart from the Buckingham Palace message, I heard somewhere that your not supposed to keep pestering them, after all they do have a life over there you know.
I have bought a tape that teaches you to meditate, this would be good for me because I don’t know how to switch my brain off, and believe me my brain works way over time.
The tapes also teach you to be able to open up to the spirit world eventually, so I'm hoping that in time I will be able to feel them when they are around although I've put up so many barriers its going to take time.
When I say they rescued me I was serious, I was petrified of the dark or even just nighttime, but if I became afraid I would look at the dogs and if they weren’t reacting then it must be ok.
I have finally let Ian close the bedroom curtains at night and I've been ok, the sun was waking us up before 5am every morning, I guess I was either frightened of the fear returning or if their spirits came I wanted to make sure I could see them.
When we scattered their ashes we went at dusk, crossed a field to the stream and returned in the dark – 17 years ago no way would I have done that. Maybe that’s why Jude was the way she was, she felt my fear and chased everyone off to protect me.
I think that this is one of my lessons in life and until I have passed the exam Jude will be kept from me so I'm trying really hard.

Guess you wished you hadn’t asked!!!!!!!

Why don’t you go along to your psychic fair you might be able to find someone who can do Reiki as they do it for pets too.