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Thank you Lynn. You're right....it's just hard, as I know you know. Perhaps when I'm in a better place emotionally I can communicate to my friends my feelings of disappointment. All I can do now is be grateful to those who have shown compassion.
Joni...welcome to LS. And thank you for your post. Yes this place is amazing in how much we support each other. I hope you continue to come here and share your stories about your baby. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Tomorrow is my 4 week, or one month, anniv. I think I prefer to say 4 weeks. I'm not ready for the "month" thing.
I don't have a lot of time to post right now, but I will (hopefully) tomorrow. I've had a very busy week and haven't been able to post here much in the past few days. I've been going through a gamut of emotions and thoughts. I took Bailey to a park today where TONS of people go with their dogs. It's not a dog park but it sort of is unofficially. It's funny because there's a sign that says "All dogs must be on leashes." THen you look past the sign, to the big open area and every dog is running around off-leash. LOL I knew about this place for years, but never took them there because Jasmine was unpredictable. She HAD to be the alpha of the pack. And if someone jumped on her she would totally pin them down on their back and make this horrible growl noise that sounded worse than it was. Jasmine was a SWEET dog but she was dominant. Thankfully never to the point where she hurt another dog, but sometimes you just don't know how other dog owners will respond to that type of behavior. And also, she would take a ball and not give it back to the other dog. So I never bothered with going there. Well, today I took Bailey. I felt he needed some playtime with other dogs. I was nervous and hesitated to let him off-leash. But I trusted him and he was fine. He played for a while, then played frisbee with me for a few min. He wiped out twice trying to catch it (he is so clumbsy sometimes!) and then he didn't really want to play anymore. We stayed for maybe an hour and left. It was a good day overall and I will take him there again. I want him to have fun again and make new friends. Actually I had one of those moments today where you see something of the dog you lost, that you haven't seen in a while. I have those electronic collars for them. I used them to train them off-leash and then I kept using them just as a back-up. I rarely had to use them except if I had to get them back ASAP. I had it on "tone" mode and it would only put out a slight shock if they didn't come after the tone sound. THey always did when they heard the tone. Well I decided to use Bailey's today, being the first day out in a new park. I opened the case where they are kept, and of course there's 2 of them. Jasmine was Dog 1 and Bailey is Dog 2. Looking at her bright yellow collar, still dirty from the last time we used it...probably last year on the beach sometime. Some of her hair was on it. Dog 1. That's what she was...my first. I wound up not even using Bailey's. He was SOOO good I didn't need to. I'm so blessed that he learned good off-leash manners from her. I was proud of him today. So I bought him a pig ear (which he just partially threw up before I started typing this. LOL) Anyway, just wanted to share my day. I'll post more tomorrow...maybe share more about Jasmine on her anniv. Oh, and another thing coming up....her bday is next Sunday the 24th. I'm sure that will take its toll on me too. Thanks for reading!! -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Four weeks ago, I lost my love, my babygirl. She was the best of me and I can't believe it's been a month. I tried to picture her today: running, looking at me with her inquisitive face (see pic under my name). I remembered how soft her ears were, and how she would mush her face into my chest when she wanted her neck massaged. It hit me all over again that I will never touch her again, nor will I see her intense facial expressions.
I just got back from Bailey's annual vet visit. It was harder than I thought it would be. Walking in there without Jasmine for the first time, I started crying in the waiting area. When my vet came into the exam room, he took the time to discuss what had happened to Jasmine, and confirmed that yes, it definitely was a hidden tumor on her spleen or liver that suddenly burst. He said it was quite common and there was nothing I could have done. He was very compassionate about how hard it is to lose them so fast, but also tried to help me be glad that she did not suffer. He said that when something like that happens, they don't suffer, they just get disoriented and sleepy...and that's what happened. Although I know she was a little scared, I can only hope that my touch and words brought her some comfort before we left the house. I am only sorry that I was driving during her last moments. I am sorry, Jazzy, that I wasn't holding you. ![]() Bailey's check-up was fine. He has 2 small fatty lumps. Jasmine had them too but they're non-harmful. The biopsy came back as all fatty tissue. So that's a relief. I took Bailey to the park earlier today. I'm trying to get him to play with other dogs and be a dog again. He played some, but he always looked at me like "Is it okay, mom, that I play?" Hopefully with time he'll play more. I don't have any other pics scanned of Jasmine but I'll try soon. I have to find her puppy pics and any others I took along the way. How I wish I took more, especially of me and her. I hardly have any. Today at the park I took some of Bailey running around. I don't want to make that mistake again. Jasmine was born on April 24, 1995. I got her in Sept. 1995, Labor Day weekend. I had just graduated college and I was working at a pet store until I could find a more permanent job....and that's where I met her. She was 4 months old. Something about her immediately caught me. She would stare at me whenever I was near her. I read up on GSP's and realized I would have my hands full. But I told my mom (whom I was living with at the time) that there was something about this dog. So, I got her. She was immediately a handful. She would race around the house, tearing up things. I didn't originally crate her and what a mistake that was! Over the course of a few months she tore apart a couch, and chewed the molding off 2 walls/doorways! She was crazy! So I started to crate her and she was much better. I took her to obedience school and decided to train her for competition. We trained for a year and she did many shows. She never got a title though because this dog was STUBBORN. She would never do the recall in the ring (come to me). That is an automatic disqualification! So after months of this, I gave it up. It was too costly, both emotionally and financially. But Jasmine's advanced training always made a difference. When she aged a bit, she was well mannered whenever we went somewhere. And it helped to influence Bailey, whom we got 2 yrs later. The only title she was able to get was the Canine Good Citizen one. Now, this is ironic because Jasmine was so NOT well-behaved when no one was home. Even up until the day she died, I would come home to find paper or whatever all over the house that she stole from the trash. This dog was sneaky. Sometimes she would do it when I was home, just to show me she could. When I tell you this dog was SMART, I do not exaggerate. Jasmine understood the word "revenge". If I did something she didn't like, she would get back at me somehow. She had the ability to pick-pocket, she could distract you enough so that then she would go and steal whatever she had her mind set on. Many people don't believe me when I tell tales of her, but it's TRUE. So you see, I always had to stay one step ahead of my dog. LOL Needless to say, while I loved her with all my soul, she also tired me out. It was like having a toddler. Whenever I was leaving, I would have to make sure anything on the end tables was put up higher. She loved to chew pens, go figure. I couldn't leave anything out. Bailey is the opposite...he never touches ANYTHING. Amazing how a breed has certain characteristics, but also can vary so much. Bailey is a piece of cake compared to her. Jasmine was affectionate when SHE wanted to be. If she wanted to be pet, she would come to you, and then demand it. If you started to scratch her chest (her favorite), and you stopped, she would grab your hand with her paw and put it back. She would also give you this look like "well???" I could go on forever but I think you get the point. She was spoiled, and she acted it. My sister always said that she has never seen a dog that has facial expressions like Jasmine. She said that when Jasmine looked at you, she looked through you down to your soul. She even had some of MY expressions. Like when I said "Wanna go bye-byes?" I would look at her with my eyes wide and eyebrows raised, like I was excited. She would do it back to me. It always made me laugh. One of my favorite stories of Jasmine is the one I put in another part of this forum. She loved butternut squash. I have no idea why but she did. So you can imagine at Thanksgiving time or in the Fall, she would go nuts. Well, one December, after Thanksgiving, my mom had made it fresh. She threw out the rinds and put them in the trash, and then put it outside. We got a blizzard the next 2 days and with the snow drifts it was 3 feet in some places...including over the trash. Jasmine walked off the porch onto the snow drift and DUG through the snow, ripped open the bag and grabbed the rinds. We didn't realize it until she came in and spit out the rind. UNREAL! That Thanksgiving actually, she snuck up on the counter, and started to eat my mom's blueberry pie. We moved it to the laundry room off the kitchen and she snuck in there and did it again! So now I had a pie with a hole in the middle!! My sister loves blueberry pie so I had to make up a lie and say that something fell onto it and made the hole!!! LOL Then after we were eating the pie, my neice left her seat and had left a little pie on her plate. Next thing we know, Jasmine hops up on the chair and starts chowing down on the rest of the pie!!! I was mortified! My sister quickly realized the "lie" and flipped out. LOL!!! Oh well!! Well, I suppose that's enough for now. I'll post more as I think of things and/or as I find my pics. Thanks for reading everyone! PS. I do have more to write about, pertaining to some recent feelings about getting another dog, but I'll hold off for now. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 1,165 Joined: 31-October 04 Member No.: 538 ![]() |
Dear Audrey, When I saw your avatar picture I thought it was a picture of a picture of dogs on it. I had no idea it was your babies. I told my husband I wondered where you got a wonderful painting like that. He said to ask you and usually I am one to ask anything but now I know it was your Jasmine and Bailey.
What a wonderful picture of them you could win a contest with that photo. Here I thought I was admiring a painting and it was your babies. I hope you go make a second post in the Memorials, Tributes, and Eulogies and put the larger picture in the Please Post Your Furbaby's Name Here. It is breathtaking. I loved all your stories about Jasmine they were all just so precious and she was a little fiesty and so charming. And Audrey, the story of the blueberry pie, well it was just delicious, LOL, I loved it. Love, Ann -------------------- My girls went to the Rainbow Bridge 6 weeks and 3 days apart. Snookie had cushing's disease, and later developed diabetes. Both had cancer, Snookie had cancer of the liver, and Chili Bean had cancer of the pallet. Chili Bean was our son's chihuahua but we kept her often throughout her life and she stayed with us for the last 9 months of her life. Chili Bean also had asthma and heart failure. We will see you in Heaven my precious darlings. Snookie Lynn Howard 2-04-94 - 12-26-04 Senorita Chili Bean Bubbles Howard 11-05-94 - 11-11-04 |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Thanks Ann. If you scroll up within this thread, I did post the real picture (not as squished). I posted about Jasmine where you suggested, but I'll add the pic there as well.
Yes, I am SO grateful I had this portrait taken of them. I have an 8x10 here at home, a 5x7 at school, and a wallet in my wallet. In case you didn't know, Jasmine is on the right. You can kinda tell it's her because she's a bit smaller and she is looking rather intent, as opposed to Bailey, who's a big goofball. LOL -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 827 Joined: 30-October 04 From: New Mexico Member No.: 536 ![]() |
Dear Audrey,
Thanks for posting a little of Jasmine's history. She sounds like such a wonderful dog. I loved that she dug through the snow for squash rinds...what a cutie! I'm thinking of you on Jasmine's 1 month anniversary. Kathleen -------------------- Shiloh and Hobbie, you're both gone from my arms, but forever in my heart.
Shiloh 1999 - Sept. 17, 2004 Hobbie Aug. 14, 1996 - May 30, 2005 |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Thank you Kathleen.
-------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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I posted this in the Cyber Shoulder area, because I have been talking to Sue about our furbabies coming to see us after they've passed. I was telling her that I have had no signs, and it was hurting me so much. But then something happened today....so I wanted to put my post in here too.
I got a sign today....and I'm a mess. LOL I can't stop crying. I was out in the yard, looking at the dandelions that I mentioned in my post yesterday. It is so beautiful out today and I kept thinking how much Jasmine would have LOVED to be outside today. So I stood quietly, and started talking to her. I walked over to the dandelions, and said "Is that you babygirl? Are you trying to cheer me up with flowers?" Then I walked away, and stood at another part of the yard. I took a deep breath and said "I miss you Babygirl...please give me a sign." About 15 seconds later, I was looking down and I heard the sounds of a mourning dove's wings. That high pitch noise they make when they fly. I looked up and there was a mourning dove, sitting on the metal grapevine holder. I almost fell over. If you recall from my earlier post about the sign from my other dog, it was also a mourning dove. I have always believed these birds were signs. So I started talking to it. I said "Is that you Jazzy? I miss you so much." The bird turned its head and looked at me. Then it started preening. Now, mourning doves are ground birds, they prefer to be on the ground, not perched. So I KNEW it was her. I started telling her that I loved her, and I missed her. I told her I was sorry that I wasn't the one who was holding her in her last moments. I told her I was so sad without her. Bailey was with me and I said to him, "Look, Jazzy came to see us." He sat down and looked up at me very calmly. Then I asked her if she was okay, and that I hoped she was. Then I said "Be free, Baby...run like you have wings...be free and happy and know that I will always love you and I'll see you again. Thank you for coming to me." The bird turned, and flew away. Man, I'm a mess right now!!! I'm going out in a couple of hours to see Phantom of the Opera and I hope I can pull myself together!! Thanks for helping me have faith, Sue. Maybe now she'll come see me more often. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
So it's become painfully apparent that I am truly alone in my grief....with the exception of this forum, I guess.
My boyfriend of 2 yrs told me today that I've been negative lately. When I asked him to elaborate, he said there's nothing to elaborate on...he said nothing but negativeness has come out of me in the past week or so. My reply to this was "Well, I think you know I've been having a really hard time lately." His reply was "Well how long is this going to last? I mean, I lost my grandmother in February but life goes on. You don't see me carrying on like this." You can imagine my shock. I said "Well that's a real nice way to validate my feelings." And I left the table to cry quietly to myself. He still lives with his parents (long story...it sounds worse than it is....it was supposed to be temporary so he could save money for a house, which we are "supposed" to be going in that direction soon). So anyway, his mother was at the table when this all went down. We had just gotten some fresh lobster to eat. So after I composed myself, I sat back down and ate. Things smoothed over a bit, but I"m still really hurt and in shock. If he doesn't understand, who can I expect will? I can't express enough how it feels to have the person closest to me basically tell me to "get over it". I feel so alone right now, like no one understands or cares here. Needless to say this could uproot some serious issues for me and my boyfriend...the person I planned on spending my life with (we're not engaged yet). But I suppose this isn't the place to discuss that. And of course, my friends here haven't one asked me how I am doing. I just felt like I had to come here...where I feel safe and my grief is accepted and not looked down on. I feel like this has set me back a lot in my recovery. I'm sorry to post such a sad post....I'm just so sad right now. ![]() -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 133 Joined: 22-March 05 From: Atlanta, Georgia Member No.: 769 ![]() |
Audrey,
Oh my, I am just in shock too that your boyfriend would say that to you. I'm speechless. Have you told him that he has no business saying that? I don't know what to say except that you are totally right and justified to be incredibly mad and sad right now. I think you are a wonderful person and you are my "best LS friend!!!" And the fact that you are mourning over Jazzy right now is a testament to the kind of person you are, and if your boyfriend doesn't see that then, I'm sorry to say, he isn't truly deserving of you. And by the way, I just now read your story about the mourning dove -OH WOW!!! Audrey, this brought tears to my eyes and I have actually never once cried over someone's post on here before. (I've started to tear up many times, but never a cry like this.) This is an amazing story and I'm so glad for you that it happened. Now you can truly know that Jazzy is free and happy and that she knows how much you love her. Take care and write to me to let me know how you're doing. Love, Jenny -------------------- Alice Mae Bennett ("Allie") was born around May of 2003. She came home to us in July. On March 10, 2005, she became ill with a condition called mesenteric torsion or volvulus. It is a twisting of the small intestine which is nearly impossible to diagnose. Once symptoms begin it is usually too late to save the intestine by surgical means. There are no known ways to prevent it and its causes are also unknown. It is extremely rare, especially in medium-size females like Allie. It is more common in males of large breeds, like German Shepherds.
Allie was a sweet, happy and loving soul. I will miss her every day. Thanks for giving us these last two years, little girl. We'll always treasure them. |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Hi Jenny,
Thank you so much. Your post meant the world to me. I'm feeling a little better since I got to write out my feelings. But I know it's probably temporary. I think I have some issues I'll need to work out with John (my b/f). This week is also emotional for me because Jasmine's birthday is on Sunday. She would have been 10. I went to a baby name site (Baby Names) and this is what Jasmine means: jasmine flower, gift from God ![]() Bailey means: bailiff, fortification, able I looked up Allison (Allie) and it means of noble birth. ![]() -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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Dear Audrey,
Oh dear, my heart just breaks for you! You have such an uplifting and exciting moment (when Jasmine visited you) and then you were brought down to crash emotionally from John's reaction to your pain. First, I am so happy for you that Jasmine came to visit you! ![]() I am so sorry that John said that cruel comment to you. I think there are still many men that have a hard time dealing with emotions. Maybe he is just upset that you are still in pain and he thinks he can "fix" it by snapping you out of it. Men tend to be "fixers" and always want to solve problems, fix things, etc. They have a hard time just listening and feeling with you and NOT trying to "fix" it. My husband never made such comments, but after about a month, I noticed he stopped talking about it. He will mention Rachael's name, mostly when Brandy does something Rachael would do, but we stopped talking about the "feelings" around her death. I just accepted that he has a harder time expressing it than I do. Maybe a calm talk with him would help. Maybe if you let him know that you just need him to listen. I would suspect that your friends don't ask anymore because they are afraid it will upset you. If they "think" you are feeling better, they may think that bringing it up will upset you again. There could be some serious issues there with John, but there could also just be a problem in expressing pain and knowing how to help you through this. Let him know that part of healing is being able to talk your precious Jasmine. Let him know it's okay for you to still cry. Maybe you could let him know what you'd like from him that would help. MAybe you could suggest that all you will need in those bad times, is a hug. I bet he is the type that pushes pain away and shuts it out. That could be how he deals with pain in his life. When two people come togther, there are ALWAYS areas where they are completely different. Talking it out, understanding and respecting the differences, is what I think makes it work. M thoughts and prayers are with you! I would suggest coming here on Sunday and posting a beauiful Happy Birthday message in the tribute section to your Jasmine. I would just LOVE to see another picture of your angel ![]() Cheri -------------------- Rachael Ann
November 18, 1992 - October 2, 2004 My best friend, my daughter, my life |
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Dear Audrey, What a wonderful visit from your baby that you had. You hold tight to that when you are feeling so alone.
I don't like to stick my noise in to other people's business but I think John has a bit of a problem. Maybe he thinks you should be over it as most people on the outside world does. But to complain about it when your heart is broken is just plain terrible. He should show more respect and love to you than that. What would happen should you have children with him and one should pass away. Would he support you in your grief or get uptight and ask how long was this going to go on. Ok so maybe I am getting a little wild here but things like that do happen. Yes, many men sometimes put away their feeling. But at least most don't get upset when someone is in pain. He should be hugging you and speaking tender words to you. Wiping away your tears as they fall and telling you he understands your pain. I would think twice about spending my life with someone like that. I would not want to be reprimanded or made to feel belittled because my love for my fur baby was great. I would hate to think my feelings were something that someone cared so little about if they claimed to love me. Life is to short to not be with someone who thinks the world of you. You need one who cares about and loves what you do and is able to comfort you. You need one who will not put you down because he thinks you should just let it go, get over it, get on with it, it does not work that way. My husband Clair and I could not have made it through all these years if we did not care about each other's feelings. He has never once said anything so hurtful to me. 31 years later, 4 children, 6 grand children and another on the way we are still madly in love. Love, Ann -------------------- My girls went to the Rainbow Bridge 6 weeks and 3 days apart. Snookie had cushing's disease, and later developed diabetes. Both had cancer, Snookie had cancer of the liver, and Chili Bean had cancer of the pallet. Chili Bean was our son's chihuahua but we kept her often throughout her life and she stayed with us for the last 9 months of her life. Chili Bean also had asthma and heart failure. We will see you in Heaven my precious darlings. Snookie Lynn Howard 2-04-94 - 12-26-04 Senorita Chili Bean Bubbles Howard 11-05-94 - 11-11-04 |
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Hi everyone. Sorry it took me a couple of days to reply...I haven't been around much.
First off, thank you all for your responses. I'm truly touched. And please dont' feel you're giving unwanted advice...that's the beauty of meeting new people...they give their own life experiences and that's how we learn, isn't it? By sharing knowledge and compassion. Cheri, I think everything you said is right on the money. John is a typical guy in that sense where he doesnt' express his own feelings. He also thinks things are "fixable". I do need to have a conversation with him and express my disappointment that he would not value my love for Jasmine. And yes, I need to express my needs. It's something I'm not very good at, as all my life I've taken care of myself and it's hard sometimes to tell someone what I need. When John's grandmother died in Feb, he held in any tears. I urged him to cry and let it out but he kept saying she was better off (she was ill for a while and they were very close...she lived with the family). The only time he cried was when his mother lost it and wept uncontrollably at the funeral. I was relieved. But he has shown no remorse since. He deals differently and he needs to understand that I don't deal that way. Cheri, I must tell you that I thought you today...I was at the dog park and someone had a black lab and called her Rachel. I did a double-take when I heard it. I smiled and thought of you and Rachel and felt like I was given a living memory of her. ![]() Ann, thank you for your thoughts and again, you're not sticking your nose in where its' not wanted. John only knew Jasmine for 2 1/2 years...he has plenty of experiences with her...both good and bad. He loved her too and he was definitely upset the night she passed away. He was there with me at the hospital when I said goodbye to her body. He cared for me that first week when I wouldn't eat. But I guess he just doesn't fully comprehend my attachment to her. Since we dont' live together, I don't think he has a full sense of responsibility that I had for her. Although he did understand to an extent when I had to return home for feedings, etc. Who knows with men. I will do a Birthday tribute to Jasmine on Sunday. I'll see if I can scan in some pics. I do happen to have another professional one of her that was taken when she was 7 months old. I have that one right in my room. The other pics I'll have to search for. I was also thinking, I'd like to start writing about Bailey. There's so much about him that I'd love to share...and I'd rather do it when he's here, so that if I keep a journal on my computer, I can refer back to it some time. Thanks again all for your love. ![]() Audrey -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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I had a stress dream the other night...I didn't remember it until last night. I dreamt that I had left "my" dog outside. It wasn't Bailey...he was on the bed with me. But it wasn't Jasmine either. Someone in my dream told me that I left the dog outside and I better go get it. IK could see the dog outside, tied up. It was a German Shorthair but didn't look like Jamsine. So I actually got up and walked into the kitchen. I turned on the light and went to open the door. I then came to full consciousness and was like
![]() I've actually had something good happen in the past week. I didn't have a chance to post about it because I was very sad last week. But it was something that I believe was fate. I was at the dog park and a guy came who had a German Shorthair female. She was colored similar to Jasmine but not the same face. In talking with him, he said he had to give her up because he was moving. I informed him I am a volunteer for GSP Rescue and I gave him my coordinator's phone #. Well, he called that night and we were able to place her with a woman up in Maine who has been wanting an older female! ![]() So it makes it even more strange that I would dream that I left a dog behind. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
I found some pictures tonight. My roommate is going to scan them in so I can post them. They really brought back pangs of pain and grief. I have the professional one of her when she was 7 months old. Then I found some I took a year ago...of her on my bed with her head on my pillow (as usual). Then there's one of her with Bailey on the bed.
Then I found some from 2000. Her face is less white and she looks so vibrant. Just seeing her again turned my stomach. Seeing her little brown butt patch...her soft ears...her face...the look in her eyes...wow....it's really all gone. Also, I have this impending feeling over me because it's coming to time when her ashes should be coming back. The cremetory said it would take 6 weeks and well, this is week 5. How will I react? What will happen to me? Will I fall apart again as I hold my baby in a box? I almost dread it. What's worse is that the woods where we used to hike, where I want to spread some of the ashes, has coyote sightings. I don't want to go in there with Bailey....omg if something happened.... Anyway...I'll post the pics probably by tomorrow. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 353 Joined: 3-October 04 Member No.: 496 ![]() |
Dear Audrey,
I am SO happy to hear that you are getting some pictures scanned for us to see! Your babies, Jasmine and Bailey, look so pretty! I don't see that breed of dog in my area. What beautiful markings! I can't wait to see the pictures ![]() I understand your pain while looking at them. I immediately put up a memorial at work for my Rachael and it was VERY hard to look through her pictures when the pain was still so fresh. However, after a few weeks of looking at them, it got easier. It does bring back all those memories, seeing those details again, like her little Brown patch butt (I got a giggle from that!), soft ears, etc. Someday you will be able to look at those without so much pain. It just takes time and lots of healing. Since we buried Rachael and didn't deal with ashes, I don't know how you will feel when you get hers. I have read in here that it could go either way. Some were relieved to have them back. They felt like their furbaby was back home with them again. Then, others fell apart, realizing this was so final. I pray you will find some comfort having your Jasmine back. I think spreading her ashes in her favorite place is a wonderful idea! I would wait until the coyote sightings have stopped, though ![]() Hugs, Cheri -------------------- Rachael Ann
November 18, 1992 - October 2, 2004 My best friend, my daughter, my life |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
Thanks Cheri. Btw, did you see my post from April 22? Scroll up if you haven't. It has to do with Rachel.
![]() I am hoping the pictures gets scanned today. I told my roommate to do it when he had a chance. He works sometimes from home and last night he was doing stuff. -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 353 Joined: 3-October 04 Member No.: 496 ![]() |
Oh yes, I am SO sorry that I didn't reply to that. I was too wrapped up in all the other things you had to say. I was concerned about how you were doing and how your relationship was surviving your grief.
I can't imagine the odds of you coming across a black lab with my baby's name! How special!!! I have never met anyone yet that had named their dog that, much less another black lab! I take that as a wonderful sign from my sweet angel Rachael!!! ![]() Thank you for sharing that with me ![]() Cheri -------------------- Rachael Ann
November 18, 1992 - October 2, 2004 My best friend, my daughter, my life |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 217 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 777 ![]() |
You're welcome!
![]() My best friend did something very special today. I got an email that said: Dear Audrey, A gift has been made in memory of Jasmine by Tanya Carlino. "For Jazzy, a beautiful GSP, most beloved "child" of Audrey and big sister to Bailey. She was smart (scary smart!) with an unusal affinity for butternut squash and blueberry pie and calculating enough to find a way to get it no matter the challenge!...able to wreak havoc and blame it on her little brother just for fun! She was the epitome of a best friend, there for good and bad...able to make you smile in spite of yourself. May the pain of loss fade but the love and memories be forever bright." There are about 1,500 dogs and cats and other animals from all over the country at the sanctuary on any given day – most of them in need of special attention. Your sponsorship helps make sure we can give them the best care possible. Of course, the work of Best Friends reaches far beyond the sanctuary itself. Best Friends works with communities, neighborhoods, cities, and states all across the nation to set up No More Homeless Pets programs that will soon bring an end altogether to the killing of abandoned animals in shelters. Kindness to animals helps build a better world for all of us. May your membership keep all loving memories of Jasmine close to your heart. Thank you for caring about the animals. Best wishes from all of us at Best Friends Animal Society I have to give her a call tonight and thank her. I'm so choked up!!! I can't believe she remembered that I was a member of Best Friends! They have a Rainbow Bridge memorial there. I mentioned this in another part of the forum, but you guys should check out the site when you get a chance. Best Friends -------------------- "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog.
You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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