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[mynutmeg]

Hi all, it has been quite a while since I have been on here, My kitty passed away September of 2009...so little over a year now. I recently found myself looking around for another kitty and felt ready to open up my heart again. I shopped around several shelters for a few weeks until I found just the right one and ended up adopting a beautiful long haired girl from a SPCA, I have had her home now for 2 days and she seems to be adjusting very well, only 1 problem- Mama is not adjusting very well!!- I am not sure what is going on with me but the maternal instincts are not kicking in at all and I am finding great guilt feelings about taking on this kitty. I travel quite a bit and am terribly worried about my impending trips.
Please help, is this normal ? I felt as if my pet-free year was plenty of time for me to cope with the loss of my other child. Or maybe I am afraid to get so deeply attached as I did with my other cat that I had for 19 years!!

what's wrong with me ????