Why Do So Many People Feel Such Guilt?, Guilt versus sadness Options

[Daisy's Mommy]

I have read many posts now and find it so comforting that others understand the grief of losing such a dear friend. A feeling expressed in so many posts is guilt. I wondered about this since I am also feeling terrible guilt, despite the fact that I know that we gave Daisy the best possible life (She was born with a terminal liver defect that usually kills dogs before they are 3 or 4, yet Daisy made it to almost 12)

I think that I understand now - at least for me - In a way, the feelings of guilt are less painful than the feeling of loss. Whereas I can bear feeling guilty, I cannot bear the pain of knowing that I will never see my dear little Daisy again on earth. Therefore, my mind focuses on the guilt, avoiding the true feelings of devastating loss.

Daisy's Mommy