Ginger, How my surviving "sister" and I miss her Options

[mxmelba]

Hi. This past Friday night at 7:10 pm I received a call from a woman who had just hit my cat, Ginger. This was the worst phone call I have ever received. I didn't want to hear her when she asked crying "Are you Ginger's mother?" I screamed no and then she said she was so sorry. I threw the phone at my husband. I couldn't believe it. My heart literally broke that instant. Then my poor husband had to go get our beloved pet from the street. It was awful. I am still a wreck. I can't stop crying.

One of the saddest things is watching our other cat grieve. I have always called them sisters, even though they aren't litter mates. We got them at the same time. They are both young, not even 2 years old. I can't stand watching Mary Ann the surviving cat (her "sister") be so sad. I am torn at getting her another friend. The thought breaks my heart, but I want to do what ever it takes to make it easier on Mary Ann. Mary Ann was so close to Ginger that if I tried to take Ginger to the vet and not bring Mary Ann, Mary Ann would vommit she would get so upset, so I would just haul them both (in the same carrier!). I am at such a loss. I know there is no right answer to this. I am not really ready, but I also can't stand seeing my cat so sad. She just lays there and follows me with her eyes and is constantly grooming herself. My family (and husband) all say I should get another friend for her. Mary Ann has always been the mellow cat, where Ginger was the more active (and vocal) cat. I think a kitten would be too much, and I am unsure of getting a male. I am sorry I am rambling, but my heart is broken and I am unsure if or when I should get another companion.

Also, they were inside-outside cats with a cat door. I have been scared to let Mary Ann out because I do not want her to go looking for Ginger. She really wants to go out. Does anyone have any suggestions on when I can let her out again? Also, I am scared that she will get hit. I know there are no certaintys in life. I am just so extremely sad. She was so young. Any insights or suggestions on any of this would be greatly appreciated. (I know this is a touchy subject for cat owners with some people firmly believeing in indoor only and others not. I am not looking to discuss this subject, I am just looking for some advice for my situation.)

One last note, to all the people who have lost a pet, especially recently, my heart goes out to you. I know what you are going through and it is just plain awful. Thanks for listening.