One Week, Missing my Lucy Options

[Caroline]

I can't believe it has been one week, almost to the hour that we had to put our beloved Lucy down. She was suffering so badly last Friday from the lymphoma. I miss her so much. The house has been so quiet. I still sometimes open the door to let her out, or look for her when I come home even though I know she is not there.

I went to a support loss meeting at the humane society last night but it didn't help all that much. What I really want is Lucy back, and nobody can give me that. We received so many condolence cards and even some flowers when Lucy passed. That really touched me. Everyone on our street loved her. She was always out on our front lawn with my husband and kids. She was friendly to everybody. I don't even want to be outside anymore, because outside was where Lucy loved to be. We walked her everywhere...to Starbucks, the park with the kids...all of those places seem sad to me now.

We told my 3 year old son that Lucy was up in heaven...in the sky. Now he is worried that she will "fall out of the sky." I keep telling him that won't happen. Our family still seems so off balance. It is hard to believe it has been just one week. It seems like it has been so much longer since I held her and talked to her. She was such a wonderful, sweet girl. I think about her all of the time.

Caroline

Lucy 4-9-99 to 2-4-05

[CheriAnn]

Dear Caroline,

It's hard to believe it has now been a week since you helped sweet Lucy cross over that bridge. I know it's very difficult, but you've already made it throough the first week. That first week was the very roughest for me! You are now one week closer towards healing. That's the only way to look at it and stay sane.

I think it is wonderful that you got so many nice condolences!
It "validates" that your precious Lucy was a big part of your family and people understand how big of a loss it is for you and your family. When I lost my dear Rachael I was overwhelmed by the amount of support and sympathy I got. Like you, I received flower deliveries and cards. The most touching was when my co-workers (including my boss) made contributions for Rachael's grave stone. I must have cried for hours! It felt SO good that other people understood Rachael was my family!

I think Denise has a great idea about writing a journal. I never did do that, although I meant to. Instead I concentrated on making her a nice memorial, one that she deserved. I'm sure you will find an outlet for your pain in time that will help bring you closer to healing. Although we NEVER EVER forget our furbabies or stop loving and missing them, the pain does eventually become bearable.

Hugs,
Cheri