Guilt, Grief Options

[Mike]

I am a 50 year old man and my 20 year old cat (Eeyore) is on her last legs with kidney disease.
She lives at my mothers the past 5 years because my wife is allergic to her. I try and see her every day, but I am afraid of her dying. I am afraid my emotions will be so horrendous and my thoughts! Donna is very understanding , we have been together for five years, even suggesting to bring her to live here. Funny, I feel closer to this cat than my wife. I cant explain it, shes been with me through alot.
Thanks pet support for letting me share this. I really appreciate this.
Love to all, Mike

[jillybromley]

Dear Mike

This must be such a difficult time for you ... my heart goes out to you. 19 years is such a long time to have had your precious Eeyore, clearly she is a very special little girl and means the world to you and it sounds as if you have been through a lot together. So much love and so many memories must have built up over all those years and I can understand why you feel you will be overwhelmed with your feelings when you finally lose her.

It must be doubly difficult for you with her not living in the same house with you. I'm sure she is very loved and cared for with your mother but I know how much you must want to be with your little treasure as much as possible when you know she hasn't got long to live.

Donna sounds such a kind caring person offering to have Eeyore with you both for her final days, weeks, months. Would that be better for you, to have her at home with you?, or would it unsettle her to move her now?

Mike, please continue to let us know how things are going with your precious Eeyore and also know that I will be thinking of you.

When the time finally comes and Eeyore has to go to rainbow bridge please do know that everyone here will be right here to support you in your loss.

Thinking of you and dear Eeyore
with love
jilly