Let Me Elaborate A Little... Options

[Romeo's_daddy]

I have not and will not single any members out with regard to my response to Baby Hannah's Mom. I feel bad that some members have been offering apologies. I do not know your personal situations. Part of me feels like maybe some of the people I've made reference to don't have anyone else in their lives. So when their babies die, they are truly alone. I am lucky. I don't have friends or a girlfriend, but I have my parents. Perhaps if I didn't have them, I would be one of the members that I recently made reference to. But what I also know is that a lot of good advice is given here. After Romeo died I remembered that advice and used it to help myself. I think maybe that some of these members may be getting caught up in their emotions and perhaps not giving enough thought to some of the advice they have received, and using that advice to help themselves heal. I don't know, I'm not in anyone else's head, but I know what's worked for me. Don't get me wrong. I'm not all better. I still cry, I still hurt, and I'll always miss Romeo. But I cannot allow his loss to rule my life, because that is not any kind of life at all and I know Romeo wouldn't want me to be a prisoner to my grief.

[Pamela]

First off, I love you all. You have been a God send to me. I am sad upon reading the part about counting the posts recieved....that changes the whole forum. We all have different makeups...some can say goodbye to thier animals some cant, some can write tributes, some cant. And because of ones personal makeup the levels of grief are different. WE CANNOT JUDGE THOSE THINGS hey, I only got 3 responses to Moose's tribute but I did'nt write it for that reason, I dont care if I got only one response I wrote it to honor him.
And if someone wants to wallow and you dont like it...dont respond, no matter how you deal with it, grief is awful....and the blessings that come from it should not be tainted. I hope I have not offended anyone...I am moving forward...it took awhile...it helped me to just be able to write my feelings...for some people writing them is easier than speaking them, so it may come across as wallowing...I dont post about Moose every day,,but I have days I just want to type something about him..not for response but to honor him. Pamela