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[Snapdragon]

Just this Tuesday, March 11, we lost our 16-yr old cat to lung cancer. She was getting old and I knew the day was coming that I'd lose her. We had her from a baby and she was just that--my "baby." We didn't know she had lung cancer until we took her to the vet because of a cough she'd developed, but turned out to be lung cancer and the vet said she had maybe a week to live. We decided to not let her suffer and just put her to sleep then and there. I am heartbroken beyond words. At this point in time I just really wish I could die too. And I'm not a "weak" person by any means, but this really feels like more than I can handle. I honestly can't imagine how I'll ever get over her. I think of the bezillion people who have lost loved ones (people and pets) who seem to get "over" it, get on with their lives, but honestly, right now, it seems an impossibility. All I can think is that I just wish I was dead. (and no, I'm not going to kill myself--but I wish I could) I feel like I'm just walking around in a fog right now, I couldn't care less about anything. And what does make it all the worse (if that's possible) is I just feel like no one understands.

[OnAMission]

I just saw your pics of Miss Molly Rose, Snapdragon...OMG...what a BEAUTIFUL kitty...I am so sad....YES, she and my Mission man would have been quite the pair together....

I am in tears....what a beauty...you were soooo blessed to have had her in your life, Snapdragon....

[Kaya's Companion]

Snapdragon,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It hurts so badly for sooooo long. I had to put my cat Kaya to sleep last July and I still cry a lot over her loss. The memorial idea is good. I'm glad you got a few. It took me over 6 months before I was ready to let her ashes be used to create a pendant. Now I actually enjoy having people notice my beautiful pendant. It gives me a chance to talk about her. I bought a glass one too and it came out more beautifully than I could have ever expected. I feel like the artist, Mark, really cared about me and my loss. He even requested photos and some stories about Kaya that he could read and focus on while creating her pendant. People like that, and the people here on this forum and other pet loss forums help make it easier. I don't want to advertise for Mark, but do want to share his link in case because he truly cared... http://psychecremationjewelry.com/about/pe...d=Ash_Memorials . I got the sunrise pendant because my cat would wake me up at odd hours licking my nose. Funny how you miss the thing most afterwards when they were slightly annoying at the time.

I hope your pain becomes manageable over time. It's hard and I hurt for you. I'm sorry you and anyone else ever has to go through an experience like this. Big hugs. Hang in there.

Kaya's Companion

[Snapdragon]

Snapdragon,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It hurts so badly for sooooo long. I had to put my cat Kaya to sleep last July and I still cry a lot over her loss. The memorial idea is good. I'm glad you got a few. It took me over 6 months before I was ready to let her ashes be used to create a pendant. Now I actually enjoy having people notice my beautiful pendant. It gives me a chance to talk about her. I bought a glass one too and it came out more beautifully than I could have ever expected. I feel like the artist, Mark, really cared about me and my loss. He even requested photos and some stories about Kaya that he could read and focus on while creating her pendant. People like that, and the people here on this forum and other pet loss forums help make it easier. I don't want to advertise for Mark, but do want to share his link in case because he truly cared... http://psychecremationjewelry.com/about/pe...d=Ash_Memorials . I got the sunrise pendant because my cat would wake me up at odd hours licking my nose. Funny how you miss the thing most afterwards when they were slightly annoying at the time.

I hope your pain becomes manageable over time. It's hard and I hurt for you. I'm sorry you and anyone else ever has to go through an experience like this. Big hugs. Hang in there.

Kaya's Companion

Hi Kaya's Companion, and thank you for writing and for your kind words. I am sorry, also, for your loss of Kaya last summer. I can well imagine that the pain still stings all these months later.

I will have to go over and take a look at Mark's work...I was interested in glass too, so I'm glad you included his address.

Yes, you're so right about missing the things that might have slightly annoyed us before. Molly's upstairs litter box, in the upstairs bathroom, of course she was always pushing litter outside of the box and now, well, I'd sooo love to see that litter all over the floor now! :-)

And yes, it is just such a deep, deep pain that seems to have a life of its own. And although I seem to be getting through my days "ok," there is this constant, every second, awareness of that deep, deep loss....and feeling like life is just not the same without Molly here. I just miss her so, SO much.

So, thank you for your again for your kind words and your support and encouragement. It means SO much to have others who understand to reach out to help. -Molly's mom