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post Mar 14 2014, 10:00 PM
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Just this Tuesday, March 11, we lost our 16-yr old cat to lung cancer. She was getting old and I knew the day was coming that I'd lose her. We had her from a baby and she was just that--my "baby." We didn't know she had lung cancer until we took her to the vet because of a cough she'd developed, but turned out to be lung cancer and the vet said she had maybe a week to live. We decided to not let her suffer and just put her to sleep then and there. I am heartbroken beyond words. At this point in time I just really wish I could die too. And I'm not a "weak" person by any means, but this really feels like more than I can handle. I honestly can't imagine how I'll ever get over her. I think of the bezillion people who have lost loved ones (people and pets) who seem to get "over" it, get on with their lives, but honestly, right now, it seems an impossibility. All I can think is that I just wish I was dead. (and no, I'm not going to kill myself--but I wish I could) I feel like I'm just walking around in a fog right now, I couldn't care less about anything. And what does make it all the worse (if that's possible) is I just feel like no one understands.
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post Mar 17 2014, 11:16 AM
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Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal deep grief. There is no shame or guilt in what you share with us: "I did not have this degree of pain when my mom died, which actually makes me feel guilty. And I loved my mom; she was a good, kind person, and wonderful mother. But I absolutely don't remember this level of pain with her passing."

When our companions come into our hearts our lives are changed for the better. They accept us for who we are unconditionally. They don't care about our financial wealth - - or lack thereof, what our social status is, where we live - - be it in a tent, under an expressway overpass, in a modest structure, or a mansion. They just love us for who we are, and we surrender ourselves to them without reservation or fear of rejection. Our relationships with our human family members and friends is on a completely different level. Our human relationships include societal expectations - - to strive toward financial wealth on whatever level that may be, to live in an "acceptable" type of housing structure, to have social contacts both personally as well as for business / employment purposes, etc.. When these expectations are achieved or receive approval in our human relationships, these relationships prosper. When we do not meet with the standards of expectations, depending on the strength of the relationship it can either not have an impact with the relationship continuing to thrive or it can cause a significant decline to the point that the relationship ceases to exist.

The love you have for your mom is in no way diminished with the love you have for your beloved Molly Rose. It simply means that they are on separate and different levels. There are some people who think that we have to "choose" between the two. Clinical professionals recognize that this is unnecessary and unrealistic, for having a beloved companion in our hearts and lives - - for those of us who truly embrace them into our hearts and lives - - can bring us closer to the human relationships in our lives.

It is difficult putting on the "public face" when our hearts are entrenched in deep sorrow, so I know from first hand experience how difficult it was for you to endure the evening out having dinner with your friends. This is one example of the "social expectations" we have in our human relationships.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Snapdragon, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Molly Rose's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


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In heaven's perfect garden there is no grief or pain, and all of God's creation join the angels' sweet refrain.

The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
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- Snapdragon   Numb   Mar 14 2014, 10:00 PM
- - DannysMom   Snapdragon, I am sorry for your loss. You will n...   Mar 15 2014, 10:49 AM
|- - Snapdragon   DannysMom - I just read your "story." Ph...   Mar 15 2014, 07:48 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, please permit me to add my sincere...   Mar 15 2014, 12:10 PM
|- - Snapdragon   Thank you, moon beam, for you so very kind thought...   Mar 15 2014, 06:57 PM
|- - jaspersmom   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 15 2014, 07:57 PM...   Mar 16 2014, 05:25 PM
|- - Snapdragon   Thank you, Jaspersmom. I can't even imagine go...   Mar 17 2014, 12:55 AM
- - DannysMom   Snapdragon, thanks for reading about my Tina and D...   Mar 16 2014, 09:03 AM
|- - Snapdragon   Thanks, DannysMom, for your sweet comments about M...   Mar 17 2014, 01:11 AM
||- - kk0711   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 17 2014, 01:11 AM...   Mar 17 2014, 11:12 PM
||- - Snapdragon   Every time I have loved a cat and lost it, the cat...   Mar 18 2014, 03:13 AM
||- - kk0711   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 18 2014, 03:13 AM...   Mar 18 2014, 09:32 PM
||- - Snapdragon   Thanks, kk! Yes, it is “inconsolable griefâ€...   Mar 19 2014, 07:17 PM
|- - Pamela S.   QUOTE (DannysMom @ Mar 16 2014, 07:03 AM)...   Apr 2 2014, 08:47 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 16 2014, 12:56 PM
- - Snapdragon   Thanks you, all, for your OH so kind love and supp...   Mar 16 2014, 04:23 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 17 2014, 11:16 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 18 2014, 01:18 PM
- - Snapdragon   Ten days. Today a friend, who is out of town trave...   Mar 20 2014, 08:46 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 21 2014, 03:43 PM
- - puppy   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 14 2014, 10:00 PM...   Mar 24 2014, 03:04 PM
|- - puppy   I really feel your pain and all I can say is that ...   Mar 24 2014, 03:24 PM
|- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (puppy @ Mar 24 2014, 01:24 PM) I r...   Mar 24 2014, 09:42 PM
- - Snapdragon   Two weeks tomorrow. I look at the clothes I was we...   Mar 24 2014, 09:48 PM
|- - my George   Dear Molly's mum, I, too, have not worn the d...   Mar 25 2014, 02:39 AM
|- - Snapdragon   George's mum, Thanks, George's mum! Y...   Mar 25 2014, 04:12 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 25 2014, 12:29 PM
- - Snapdragon   Thanks Moon Beam. I wonder who you are. How you ke...   Mar 25 2014, 06:38 PM
- - Snapdragon   Two weeks. It feels like yesterday, and it also fe...   Mar 26 2014, 03:21 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Mar 26 2014, 11:14 AM
- - OnAMission   Hi - This forum caught my eye - and especially you...   Mar 27 2014, 08:38 AM
|- - Snapdragon   OnAMission, Your story is heartbreaking! I am...   Mar 27 2014, 10:01 PM
- - Snapdragon   A friend had been after me to meet her for coffee....   Mar 27 2014, 10:29 PM
|- - kk0711   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 27 2014, 10:29 PM...   Apr 1 2014, 01:01 AM
|- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (kk0711 @ Mar 31 2014, 11:01 PM) He...   Apr 1 2014, 03:45 AM
- - Snapdragon   Am having a particularly hard time of it right now...   Mar 30 2014, 10:33 PM
- - OnAMission   Snapdragon, my friend, it's Mission's Mom....   Mar 31 2014, 08:10 AM
|- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (OnAMission @ Mar 31 2014, 06:10 AM...   Mar 31 2014, 05:48 PM
|- - OnAMission   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Mar 31 2014, 06:48 PM...   Mar 31 2014, 07:39 PM
- - OnAMission   I just saw your pics of Miss Molly Rose, Snapdrago...   Apr 1 2014, 08:32 PM
|- - Kaya's Companion   Snapdragon, I'm so sorry to hear of your los...   Apr 2 2014, 01:53 AM
|- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (Kaya's Companion @ Apr 1 2014, 11...   Apr 2 2014, 02:42 AM
- - Snapdragon   Right now....I am feeling like I NEVER want to get...   Apr 2 2014, 07:14 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Snapdragon, thank you so much for sharing with...   Apr 3 2014, 10:22 AM
- - Snapdragon   It's been over three weeks now. For me it...   Apr 4 2014, 04:25 PM
- - OnAMission   Snapdragon...please know I am thinking of you, and...   Apr 4 2014, 07:39 PM
|- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (OnAMission @ Apr 4 2014, 05:39 PM)...   Apr 4 2014, 10:53 PM
- - Snapdragon   Well, I am now in my second month of mourning Moll...   Apr 13 2014, 02:42 PM
- - Miss you Sydney   QUOTE (Snapdragon @ Apr 14 2014, 05:42 AM...   Apr 14 2014, 08:47 AM
- - Snapdragon   QUOTE (Miss you Sydney @ Apr 14 2014, 06...   Apr 14 2014, 03:57 PM
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