Lost My Second Baby Monday Morning 1/27 Options

[Firehawk]

I am totally distraught. I just lost my second and final dog Monday around 1am.

I adopted 2 lab/keshond mixes in 2004, just after I moved out of my mothers and into a new home. They were 4 months old when i got them from a rescue place. I fell in love with them immediately. I also remember thinking (and periodically) that I would lose them one day. And those days have now come and gone. They were sisters. Ruby and Diamond.

I lost Ruby on Dec 20, 2012 just before Christmas, completely unexpectedly. It was about 7am, I was on christmas vacation. My wife had already gone to work (she's a teacher, it was her second to last day of school). I got up and found Ruby laying in the walk-in closet, which was very strange. I said "come on Ruby let's go eat". Her sister Diamond jumped up, but Ruby didn't move, just wagged her taiil slightly. I went over and helped her get up, thinking maybe she was just teasing me or her legs were hurting or something. She stood up, stumbled down the hall, then fell over.

I panicked. I got her in the car, and the nearest ER vet is 15 minutes drive. About half way there, she died in the car. She had a bowel movement and I knew she was gone. I was DEVASTATED. The vet couldn't really say what happened, but think a mass of some kind maybe burst, or a heart attack. She was healthy, not overweight, so I don't know. But she was my first to go.

But I had Diamond still, so she got double the love. I became very overprotective of her and the next day I called to get her in for a full checkup just to be cautious. On the examination, a small growth was found near her front teeth. The vet said it looked benign but wanted to send it out anyways just in case. It came back malignant malinoma. Again, DEVASTATED. So i got her into the oncologist vet. They did a CT scan of her jaw, and gave her 3-6 months to live, even if I did a jaw surgery and put her on a malignoma vaccine. They did'nt know if it had spread but they said we caught it very early, normally it's not caught that early.

So I opted to drop the 10,000 and do all of this. They cut out a small part of her upper jaw, she lost the canine tooth up front and the 4 insicors or whatever, but otherwise you coudln't really tell she had surgery. They got good margins. They also took out her lymphnode on that side and it came back negative, so no cancer had spread. They wouldn't say she was cured, but I believe she was. I put her on a cancer diet anyways, and kept her on the expensive vaccine (booster every 6 months 600 bucks each). I cooked every meal for 7 or 8 months, chicken, sweet potatoes primarily, olive oil...etc. She loved it.

She had just been to the vet for a skin infection which she would commonly get. she was suspectible to allergies and such, ear infections most of her life. So it wasn't shocking to have these issues. But about 3-4 weeks ago she wa at the vet. No problems.

Since my first dog had died, I had grown those 'parental ears' that hear everything at night. If my dog was licking i'd wake up. Anything.

January 27 at around 1am both my wife and I woke up to her breathing really shallow and fast. It wasn't normal at all. We peaked to see her laying on her side eyes wide open, breathing like that. I immediately panicked. It brought back bad memories from my first one dying. Diamond had also pooped, which scared me because I took it as a sign of death coming. My wife is a trained professional to handle crisis situations so she did'nt panic, she just said "ok let's just get her going to the vet". Of course it's a blizzard out, 1am, nothing plowed (thanks God), and 15 minutes to the nearest emergency vet (in good weather). We hurried as fast as possible. I sat in the back with her on the way, and she was alive, her head on my lap. I just kept telling her to hold on and that i love her.

We got her there, and I rushed her into the vet. Put her on the table, and walked out. A minute or two later the vet came out and said that her heart had stopped and asked if I wanted them to do CPR. I said YES of course. Did'nt know what was going on. Another minute or two later the vet came back out and said that she's showing signs that she's gone, and they could continue but there is a lot of fluid in her abdnomen and they believe she had a mass on her spleen rupture, which is fairly common. I chose to let her go. Heartbroken.

I had her cremated and they brought her to me yesterday, in a really nice marble urn. It matches what I got for Ruby. This morning was the hardest morning of my life, becuase my routine was different. Diamond would always get up with me and sit against the chair watching me make breakfast. She'd always stay up until I left, then she would go back to bed. I don't know how to deal with this.

I am devastated, and I don't want to accept it. When I was having a major panic attack during this ordeal, I wanted to die. I wanted to go with her into death. They were my life. And I know that sounds bad because I have a wife but I had these dogs before i met my wife. 10 years. They went through alot with me over 10 years.

My wife and I don't even want to think about getting another pet. We both feel this is way too hard. Life has a way of making you accept things. Right now I don't want to accept it.

I'm in Michigan and there is still a lot of snow on the ground. I can still see Diamond's paw prints in the snow out back. We've cleaned up all of her stuff. I threw out all her meds that I had for her, we are giving the remaining food to the local shelter, and giving her beds away to family and friends. It is SOOOO hard to deal with this.

Dave

[Firehawk]

It's been a long week. I know we will look back on this week and smile, but these puppies are a FULL TIME job. The boy Dudley gets into EVERYTHING. He grabbed one of my wife's dress boots and started running around the house with it. It was funny but it was also like "come on dude". This morning I had the worst thing happen.

The snow is starting to melt here, and Dudley and Darla are starting to jump over the snow walls I built and they started running toward the privacy fence. The fence has a big enough gap in some places that they could squirt easily under it. I hvae to put some chicken fence around the entire yard at some point. But anyway, this morning it was icy, and they both managed to get over the 'snow wall' i made and I had to catch both of them quickly. As I hvae both in my hand, I stepped back over the snow wall onto the patio, slipped, and dropped Darla from about a height of 3 feet. She cried for about 30 seconds straight. It was something daddy didn't want to hear! I started to panic, thinking I just killed her or seriously injured her. But after a few minutes she started to play again. I watched close to see if she had any limps or anything but she didn't. My wife checked her pupils to make sure they dilated. She fell on the patio on her side, and came down pretty flat. I think i twas the shock of it that scared her so much, but I never want to hear her cry like that again.

I thought I seroiusly had hurt her. I cried on the way into work. I was worried ALL DAY. My wife called me every half hour for the next 2 hours and told me she was playing and didn't seem hurt. She was very active all day and seems happy. I swear if I ever did anything that hurt these dogs seriously I would not be able to live with myself. I still feel so bad about it. I know it was an accident, but gee wizz. I thought "oh my god we have had them for 5 days and I already killed one".

At lunch today i bought a bunch of chicken wire and built a pen for them around the patio with some grass area so they can have some room to run, but can't get out into the main yard and risk getting under the privacy fence. In the spring I will need to get some shorter chicken wire and put it all the way around the privacy fence, then they can have full run of the yard.

Darla seems to have picked up a cold or something. She has been sneezing since 2 nights ago. We took her into the vet and they said she seems to be checking out ok, but put her on an antiboitic in case it's the start of kennel cough, or just a cold she picked up. I am not taking ANY risks with her.

ALl I need is to lose another animal in a span of 14 months. My wife told me that most babies roll off something at some point, or fall, or whatever, and animals/humans are resiliant, so not to worry.

But I do worry. They're my kids.