When Does The Crying Stop Options

[Caseysmom10]

My Dog, Tango died on Tuesday, February 4. I done little but cry since. I can't go out, had to cancel a doctors appointment, can't do the grocery store, etc. this is the third time we have gone through this in the last 15 or 20 years and it does NOT get easier. I wish I could have given him some of my time.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Laura, thank you so much for sharing with us how you and your husband are doing. I truly am so very sorry about the loss of your pictures. I do understand how heartbreaking this is. The good news is that you do have some pictures of your beloved Ari still with you, and I know this helps to comfort your heart.

Please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal when you share with us: "I have lost loved human family members and I find this just as painful.....in some ways more so . . " Our companions give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and we in turn surrender ourselves to them without hesitation or fear of rejection. The relationships with our human family members and friends is on a different level, for with human relationships there are expectations and fears and concerns and disappointments, etc.. This does not mean that we love our human family members and friends less - - it simply means that our companions deeply accept us for who we are. The only thing they ask in return is that we love them and take care of them to the best of our ability accordingly. They don't care if we live in a tent, under an expressway overpass, in a modest house, or a mansion. They don't care about our financial wealth - - or lack thereof, or our social status. Our companions literally become the center of our universe because they are totally dependent upon us for their every physical, medical, and emotional need every day. When they precede us to the angels, we are left with an incredibly difficult task of "re-inventing" our lives with a "new normal" that now no longer includes the physical needs of our beloved companion. This is an adjustment that can only be made one day at a time, sometimes one moment at a time.

I assure you, Laura, that you will be reunited with your beloved Tango in eternal joy at your appropriate time. Until then, you are his living legacy and witness of his sweet Living Spirit, and we are blessed to share him with you as you share your beloved Tango with us here in this forum.

I hope today is treating you and your husband kindly, Laura, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Tango's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam