So Small, So Sweet, So Soon Options

[jaspersmom]

I can't believe that it has been only 11 days since I said goodbye to my beloved cat Jasper, it feels like so much longer, the days and nights go by so slowly without him here. I feel as though I am just going through the motions, putting one foot in front of the other, and it really does seem sometimes as though all of the color has gone out of my world. Yesterday it snowed, and I remember how he used to love to sit on the windowsill and watch the flakes fall, many times he would reach out his little paw and rest it on my arm, just to be connected to me, oh how I miss that. I still can't believe that he is not here, taken from me at such a young age. I just keep thinking about how young and healthy he was, how there was no time to prepare, how there was no time to say goodbye. It is just so hard to wrap my mind around the fact that he is no longer here with me in this physical realm, and the suddeness of it all is still so hard to deal with it. I have read about the stages of grief and I seem to go from one to the other in such random order, not sure which one I am in now, but it doesn't really matter, all I know is that it hurts, but I have learned from moon_beam's insightful words that our grief is very individual and can never be clinically categorized, it is such a personal journey, and there are no limits of time or depth of feeling to this journey. There have been times lately when I have thought of my sweet Jasper, and intermixed with the sadness and tears is a bit of a smile, so maybe the healing of my heart is beginning, I sure hope so. I know he would not want to see me so sad and I do want to one day be able to embrace the joy and love he gave me and still gives me, but I know this is going to take some time. I so miss awakening to those sweet little meows in the morning and that dear little paw on my shoulder, I don't like this new normal, it will never be normal without him.

[moon_beam]

Hi, jaspersmom, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. Particularly during the deep grief our minutes, days, weeks, months are measured by our thoughts "this time yesterday, last week, last month, last year" when our beloved companion was physically with us. It is a very difficult, and painful, transition to make in our relationship with them when they precede us to the angels, for we still exist in the physical world where our focus is governed by our physical senses - - and our physical senses are yearning to see, touch, smell, and hear our beloved companions just one more minute, one more hour, one more day - - one more lifetime. Our earthly journey with our beloved companions is never long enough, and our sorrow is added to when our companion's earthly journey is shorter in years than what we expected. I know your deepest sorrow about losing your beloved Jasper at a young and tender age of 7 years. Two of my beloved feline companions joined the angels at 6 years of age due to end stage cancers - - one with Lymphoma (December 2006) and one with Fibrosarcoma (March 2010).

Like your precious Jingles, my precious Noah grieved deeply for his housemates, too. Because of my age my precious Noah, who will be 11 years old in 3 months, will be my last companion.

I hope today is treating you kindly, jaspersmom, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Jasper's sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you and your precious Jingles are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam