I Miss My Best Friend Options

[Derrick]

I lost the best friend I've ever known just 3 days ago. My cat Versache. His death was very unexpected and traumatic for him, me and my partner. After many tears, processing of info from the dr. and exploring every viable option, we had to choose to put him to sleep. I'm at peace with the decision to end his suffering, but that doesn't make it easier to live with. I've never felt a loss or pain like this ever before and am just lost, alone and can't express the hurt. I simply want him back and wish my hurt would end. He gave me joy, love and so much comfort. Followed me endlessly and rarely gave me a moment's peace as he wanted to be by my side all of the time. I enjoyed his unconditional love for 14 years. He made me feel special as I saw us both as outcasts in one way or another...like a team. Had I not felt as though he loved me every bit as much as I love him, this wouldn't be so hard. Its only been 3 days, so I know my future holds more sorrow and "firsts" without him.

I just confirmed his final arrangements. Thinking of him out there, without me with him, just cuts so deep.

This post makes a step on the path to grieving in a healthy way. And makes it all real, while I still feel like I'm in a dream.

I know there are no words that can return my buddy to me. Nor words that can end my sorrow and feeling of immense loss. But any wisdom anyone can provide as to how I can best begin healing would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you,

Derrick

[moon_beam]

Hi, Derrick, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Versache. Losing a companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Derrick, as our forum friends have so compassionately shared with you, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences you will know on this side of eternity. There is no "getting over" the sorrow that is in our hearts when our beloved companions precede us to the angels. Rather, this grief journey is one of "adjustment to" their physical absence, and this is a very painful adjustment both emotionally and physically. And as our forum friends reassure you, you do not travel this grief journey alone. You are among friends here who truly do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

As painful as this grief journey is, there is one thing that will never change - - the eternal love bond you and your beloved Versache share. Love is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Versache's sweet Living Spirit continues to share your earthly journey as he always has and always will - - for he always and forever a part of your heart and memories, Derrick - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you.

I do know all too well from first hand experience that when our hearts are entrenched in deep grief there are no adequate words in any language that can soothe the seering pain of sorrow. Still, I hope the words I share with you will offer you some measure of comfort, support, encouragement, and hope as you travel your grief adjustment journey.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Versache with us, Derrick. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture of him with us - - but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thougths and prayers, Derrick, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam