Poe Options

[snrein1016]

Hi All,

I don't have much to add from what has already been said. My heart is totally broken, and the pain is overwhelming. I actually can't believe how much it hurts, how much pain people can take and still survive.



Love and blessings to anyone else who is experiencing this.

Suzanne

[Aaron]

Hi Suzanne - that is my mom's name

While I know the exact pain you are going through now, I can tell you that over time it does ease and you learn to cope with the loss of Poe. Everybody "heals" at different speeds and in different ways, there is no right or wrong way. We are all individuals and we cope differently. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve and mourn the loss of Poe one day at a time and not think about how long you will feel that way. Each time you cry or share a special memory with someone else is one small step closer toward being "better". Do we ever forget our fur balls? NO WAY! But we are eventually able to think about them and smile at all the joy and happiness they brought us rather than feel sadness from their passing. At that point you know you have made great strides. I think about my cat Reggie everyday and it's been 2.5 years since he passed, but I can today think about him and how special and loving he was and not feel sad. I cannot even remember how long it took to get to that point since it was a gradual process. But I found that sharing stories, looking at pictures and not trying to erase the memories was a huge part of getting to a point of being able to accept his passing. I always remember how happy he made me and my family and remind myself that that joy was many, many times greater than the sadness we felt from his passing. We never want that happiness to end, but sadly we rarely ever outlive our furballs. They come into our lives for a reason, whether it be to help cope with another loss or just be a friend when you don't have one. They could be with us for 20 years (some are!) but it still wouldn't be long enough.

Just keep talking to others about your Poe and don't be afraid to cry and know that some days will be better and worse than others. But you will be able to eventually look back and only smile at the memories you have of Poe. Hang in there