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[Bayleigh's Mummy]

I lost my baby on monday 14th of january 2013, It was awful circumstances, i was told she had kennel cough, a month before she died, i paid out money to treat her with aintibiotics and advocat, she was ok but the week before she died she went downhill, she stopped wanting to go out or eat and was constantly coughing so i carried her to the vets on the monday she was given three injections and i got sent to the main vets to have her chest x-rayed, i had to leave her there and wait for them to call which was heart breaking, then at half 1 i got a call from the vets to say she had tumours all over her left lung which were squashing her windpipe making it difficult for her to breath, and there was and there was nothing that could be done and she died in my arms from euthanasia 4 hours later, i am truly heartbroken, she was everything to me my whole world infact and it was always just me, her and the cat, now its just me and the cat who is also finding this very difficult, i honestly thought my dog had kennel cough not lung cancer and i feel awful that because the vet thought this too, my poor dog on all three occasions (one of which was for over an hour) was made to wait outside with me in the cold, for the vet to see her incase she gave her kennel cough to another dog. I am just completely lost and to make matters worse it hasn't even been two weeks since i lost her and my mum is already telling me that she understands but i should try to move on and stop writing how im feeling on my posts on facebook incase people get sick of me talking about it, im trying so hard to get on with my life and stop being depressed i even tried talking about my sadness yesterday to my mum and she just changed the subject like she was pissed off me talking about it, I just decided bottling it up really doesn't help i just sink further into depression so i thought it might be a good idea to talk to people who are going through the same as me, its comforting to know your not alone. and lastly but most importantly R.I.P Bayleigh Baby 18/11/2004 - 14/01/2013 ***x mummy loves your forever ***x

[Gizy's Mom]

Hi Bayleigh's Mummy,

I am so truly sorry about your loss.
I know how hard it is to lose your furry baby. I know you saw my posts and I constantly get on there and talk to my Gizy, tell him about my day and how much I miss and love him. Try doing the same, talk to your baby girl because she became a little angel and is always with you to protect you.

As far as people who tell you to get over your pain... ignore them. Their behavior is only making it harder for you. Don't tell them how you feel and how hard and heart breaking it is to not have your baby girl around. Instead just come on here and talk to us, we will understand and support you through your grieving process.

And please take your time to grieve, don't let any one tell you that you need to move on quickly. I couldn't eat, sleep, or leave the house for a week.
I was crying and staring at my baby's pictures... Then, thanks to my boyfriend, he started getting me out (no make up, dressed in sweat pants and sweat shirt), he wasn't embarrassed to bring me to a restaurant for a nice dinner. He definitely helped me a lot.
One other friend of mine would come by and stay with me for some time. See if any of your friends can just come over to watch movies with you (that's what we did).

Unfortunately there are many people in this world who have no connection to their or any pets whatsoever. They will never understand your pain. Try to stay away form them at least for now while this is all new and raw to you. And don't try to understand why they are that way, it's just their nature.

Little by little, your pain will ease. But please take your time and cry as much as you feel like you need to.
My best wishes to you darling.

Rest in Peace Bayleigh. When you are on the bridge, I hope you and Gizy become really good friends. He is a sweet little energy bunny and I think you will enjoy having him around.

Love,

Gizy's Mom


P. S. I am looking at Bayleigh's picture and thinking what a beautiful girl she is, look at those gorgeous eyes.