I Still Hurt So Much.... Options

[LillyGreyshipp]

It sounds so stupid and cleche but I have a hole in my heart.

I'll be forward with this, I have depression/anxiety issues. When things would get bad, I could look at my cat and keep living. We loved each other and I didn't trust his care to anyone else.

Now he's gone.

I got another cat from the shelter. He's not a bad cat, but we don't have a connection. He'd rather hang out in the living room then in my room with me. He wants to cuddle for five minutes a day, and that's it.

I miss my cat. And further more, I miss the bond we had.

I could be wrong, but I think it would help me a lot if I could have that bond again. But I don't know how to get it.

I need a lap cat, but I don't know how to get one. Supposing I could get one, would it help?

[moon_beam]

Hi, Lilly, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. If I may try to offer you some comforting encouragement with your new companion: The bond we form with our precious companions during their earthly journey with us takes work - - it is formed every moment of every hour of every day. Like our relationships with our human family members and friends, we also need to encourage our companions to let them know they are the most important to us. Establishing this bond with a new companion after losing the physical presence of a beloved companion takes time, and it seems harder because our hearts are still adjusting to the phyiscal absence of a relationship that we know we could always count on. We can still count on our relationship with our beloved companions who are now with the angels for their sweet Living Spirits are always with us. But it is not the same as having the comfort of a sweet physical body snuggled next to us.

It is important that you give your new companion some "space" and time to become accustomed to his new surroundings and his new human family. At the same time, it is up to you to encourage him to know that YOU want a loving, special bond with him and you can do this by frequently seeking him when he leaves your room to hold and tell him you love him and that you want to be his very special friend, and taking him back to your room when you want to rest and have the comfort of his physical body next to you. A new connection with a new companion takes time and effort - - it may take several weeks or months before you begin to see your new kitty respond to your individual affections for him, but it will be worth the effort as you continue to share your earthly journey together.

I hope what I have shared with you helps, Lilly. This grief adjustment journey takes time, and sometimes we can begin to feel like the deep sorrow in our hearts will never ease. But I promise you with time it will.

Once again, Lilly, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. I hope today is treating you and your new companion kindly. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Lilly, and please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[LillyGreyshipp]

Moon_beam

Thank you for your words. They helped and were what I needed to hear that night. I've had more patience with my new companion and things are going better with him. I would still really like to mother a tiny kitten, but only when that opportunity comes along.