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Sad parent
post Sep 28 2012, 11:00 PM
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My darling boy is gone. His cremation was today. I decided to observe the cremation. I was nervous, but I am glad I did this. It was a last chance to touch his soft fur. I am still struggling to move on. Everything I look at reminds me of him and then I feel so sad and empty. I am crying less now than I did a week ago, which is when my boy died. I have been reaching out for support, which is not easy for me. I even attended a pet loss grief support group.
How do I ever get another cat, when I will always compare that cat to my perfect Snugs, I can't imagine how I can be a good parent to another cat. I also don't want to go though this again.
My boy Snugs was beautiful, intelligent, and had a great personality.
Since he used to sleep with me, I am still having trouble sleeping. I know I took good care of Him, but there are times when I am filled with guilt, wishing I gave him more attention. I took him to his vet for regular exams, but I didn't know how important it was to have his blood pressure checked as he grew older. His regular vet never brought it up until it was too late. With vision problems and kidney problems, he bravely continued on a couple of more years, I wish I could go back in time and check his blood pressure before he had problems.
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Sad parent
post Oct 27 2012, 05:11 PM
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Missing Snugs. After so many years together, he became a major part of my life. He was the perfect cat. I don't know if I will eventually work out new patterns in my life and figure out how to go on without my Snugs. I hope so.
I still can so easily become overwhelmed with guilt and sadness. I went with a friend to a vet in my area that specializes in cats. She seemed so knowledgeable. I then start to think I should have taken Snugs to her. Maybe she would have prevented problems or had a treatment plan that was superior. I kick myself for not doing that.
I think back on a year ago. I had Snugs then. I didn't realize how lucky I was. He died Sept. 21, 2012.
I have been sick this past week. Probably too many nights of not sleeping and too many days lived in my darkness.
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- Sad parent   Snugs Is Gone- And I Am Struggling To Cope   Sep 28 2012, 11:00 PM
- - DannysMom   Dear sad parent, I hope today is treating you kin...   Sep 29 2012, 01:53 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Sep 29 2012, 03:31 PM
- - Sad parent   QUOTE (Sad parent @ Sep 28 2012, 09:00 PM...   Sep 30 2012, 02:13 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Sep 30 2012, 05:49 PM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Sep 30 2012, 03:49 PM)...   Sep 30 2012, 10:44 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Oct 1 2012, 10:54 AM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Oct 1 2012, 08:54 AM) ...   Oct 1 2012, 10:26 PM
- - DannysMom   Sad parent, thanks so much for sharing this pictur...   Oct 1 2012, 10:03 PM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (DannysMom @ Oct 1 2012, 08:03 PM) ...   Oct 1 2012, 10:28 PM
|- - DannysMom   QUOTE (Sad parent @ Oct 1 2012, 11:28 PM)...   Oct 2 2012, 06:20 PM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (DannysMom @ Oct 2 2012, 04:20 PM) ...   Oct 3 2012, 01:24 AM
|- - DannysMom   QUOTE (Sad parent @ Oct 3 2012, 02:24 AM)...   Oct 3 2012, 06:54 PM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (DannysMom @ Oct 3 2012, 04:54 PM) ...   Oct 3 2012, 11:32 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Oct 2 2012, 10:36 AM
- - Jake'sGrandpa   Sad parent, you did the right thing by ending Snug...   Oct 3 2012, 07:25 AM
- - Sad parent   I am so sad, missing my boy Snugs. It is still so...   Oct 9 2012, 09:19 PM
|- - gsnap75   QUOTE (Sad parent @ Oct 9 2012, 09:19 PM)...   Oct 10 2012, 09:23 AM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (gsnap75 @ Oct 10 2012, 07:23 AM) H...   Oct 11 2012, 04:00 PM
- - Lindsey   Sad Parent, I just wanted you to know you aren...   Oct 9 2012, 09:50 PM
|- - Sad parent   QUOTE (Lindsey @ Oct 9 2012, 07:50 PM) Sa...   Oct 11 2012, 03:45 PM
- - Sad parent   You have been gone 3 weeks now. I miss you consta...   Oct 12 2012, 09:56 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Oct 12 2012, 01:51 PM
- - missingmygranny   I agree. It's so hard to know what to feel, w...   Oct 13 2012, 04:23 PM
- - Sad parent   Thanks for the support. I am still trying to figu...   Oct 15 2012, 12:43 PM
|- - gsnap75   QUOTE (Sad parent @ Oct 15 2012, 12:43 PM...   Oct 15 2012, 04:55 PM
- - mollycat   I understand completely. I have lost two kitties ...   Oct 15 2012, 05:12 PM
- - Sad parent   Thanks so much for all of the support. It means a...   Oct 17 2012, 12:49 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Oct 18 2012, 10:44 AM
- - Sad parent   I received a paw print in the mail today from his ...   Oct 18 2012, 10:56 PM
- - Sad parent   It is a raining today. Snugs liked to snuggle up ...   Oct 22 2012, 11:45 AM
- - Sad parent   Missing Snugs. After so many years together, he ...   Oct 27 2012, 05:11 PM
- - Jake'sGrandpa   I know how you feel, Sad parent. It's been abo...   Oct 28 2012, 11:44 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with...   Oct 28 2012, 11:45 AM
- - Sad parent   Thanks so much for the support and kind wishes. I...   Oct 29 2012, 11:19 PM
- - Sad parent   I am still sick. This is unusual for me. I alm...   Nov 1 2012, 08:13 PM
- - Kellyt   I'm so very sorry for your loss, Sad parent. I...   Nov 1 2012, 10:07 PM
- - gravessa   Hi Just read your post I hope your remembering the...   Mar 3 2013, 10:57 AM


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