Snugs Is Gone- And I Am Struggling To Cope, What now? Options

[Sad parent]

My darling boy is gone. His cremation was today. I decided to observe the cremation. I was nervous, but I am glad I did this. It was a last chance to touch his soft fur. I am still struggling to move on. Everything I look at reminds me of him and then I feel so sad and empty. I am crying less now than I did a week ago, which is when my boy died. I have been reaching out for support, which is not easy for me. I even attended a pet loss grief support group.
How do I ever get another cat, when I will always compare that cat to my perfect Snugs, I can't imagine how I can be a good parent to another cat. I also don't want to go though this again.
My boy Snugs was beautiful, intelligent, and had a great personality.
Since he used to sleep with me, I am still having trouble sleeping. I know I took good care of Him, but there are times when I am filled with guilt, wishing I gave him more attention. I took him to his vet for regular exams, but I didn't know how important it was to have his blood pressure checked as he grew older. His regular vet never brought it up until it was too late. With vision problems and kidney problems, he bravely continued on a couple of more years, I wish I could go back in time and check his blood pressure before he had problems.

[Sad parent]

Missing Snugs. After so many years together, he became a major part of my life. He was the perfect cat. I don't know if I will eventually work out new patterns in my life and figure out how to go on without my Snugs. I hope so.
I still can so easily become overwhelmed with guilt and sadness. I went with a friend to a vet in my area that specializes in cats. She seemed so knowledgeable. I then start to think I should have taken Snugs to her. Maybe she would have prevented problems or had a treatment plan that was superior. I kick myself for not doing that.
I think back on a year ago. I had Snugs then. I didn't realize how lucky I was. He died Sept. 21, 2012.
I have been sick this past week. Probably too many nights of not sleeping and too many days lived in my darkness.