Snugs Is Gone- And I Am Struggling To Cope, What now? Options

[Sad parent]

My darling boy is gone. His cremation was today. I decided to observe the cremation. I was nervous, but I am glad I did this. It was a last chance to touch his soft fur. I am still struggling to move on. Everything I look at reminds me of him and then I feel so sad and empty. I am crying less now than I did a week ago, which is when my boy died. I have been reaching out for support, which is not easy for me. I even attended a pet loss grief support group.
How do I ever get another cat, when I will always compare that cat to my perfect Snugs, I can't imagine how I can be a good parent to another cat. I also don't want to go though this again.
My boy Snugs was beautiful, intelligent, and had a great personality.
Since he used to sleep with me, I am still having trouble sleeping. I know I took good care of Him, but there are times when I am filled with guilt, wishing I gave him more attention. I took him to his vet for regular exams, but I didn't know how important it was to have his blood pressure checked as he grew older. His regular vet never brought it up until it was too late. With vision problems and kidney problems, he bravely continued on a couple of more years, I wish I could go back in time and check his blood pressure before he had problems.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Sad parent, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. DannysMom has very comfortingly shared with you what is also in my heart. The love bond you share with your beloved Snugs is eternal. But as DannysMom has shared with you this does not mean you cannot embrace a new companion into your heart and life again - - when or if you should want to. The grief pain we experience when our companions precede us to the angels is definitely life changing - - there is no doubt about that. Fortunately embracing a new companion into your heart and life is not a decision you need to make today or anytime in the near future. For now just take one day at a time. Your beloved Snugs' sweet Living Spirit is forever with you in your heart and your memories - - he is always and forever a heartbeat close to you. Perhaps someday he will guide a new companion in your direction and you will know he / she is a gift to you from him - - and there will be no doubt in your heart that you can love this new companion completely.

I hope today is treating you kindly, Sad parent, and that you will have a peaceful evening blessed with your beloved Snugs' sweet Living Spirit to comfort you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam