Mourning My Loving Snugs, Seeking help, support, advice Options

[Sad parent]

My wonderful, lovable cat, Snugs, died Friday Sept. 21. He was my therapist and friend. I can't imagine my life without him. I can't stop crying. I know he was a cat, not a person, but he meant so much to me.
Can anyone tell ,e what to expect. When does it get any better? What helps?

[Lindsey]

Snugs parent,

I made the decision to put my sweet Penny girl to sleep on August 30th. She was not quite as old as your boy but was in her teens. We were never sure how old she was. She began having seizures and for a few weeks (although horrifying for me to watch) came back from each within a few minutes. That morning she suffered a grand mal seizure and never really seemed to be herself so we took her in. I've gone through a huge range of emotions from feeling like it was the best thing, the loving thing, to even feeling like I literally murdered her. I like you, took on a lot more in the way of care taking the past few weeks and I think that made it even harder for me. She was with me through college, marriage and my first child.

It has gotten easier. I can make it through most days without breaking down crying. The first week was horrible. I felt like I was walking around in a horrible nightmare and that if I could just wake up she would be home. The second week was much of the same but with an awful emptiness in my life. This week seems to be my denial week. I know some day I will be able to look at her photos and smile but for me this has not helped (yet.)

I did want to say that it does get easier. Some days are still a challenge. Other days I feel like I know at some point I will be able to move forward. Right now I've been trying to honor her in any way that I can.

Your sweet boy would not want you to grieve. He knew how very much you loved him. When they go, they take a huge piece of our heart but I really believe that they fill that hole with a piece of theirs to keep forever.

Thinking of you through this difficult time!

[Sad parent]

Snugs parent,

I made the decision to put my sweet Penny girl to sleep on August 30th. She was not quite as old as your boy but was in her teens. We were never sure how old she was. She began having seizures and for a few weeks (although horrifying for me to watch) came back from each within a few minutes. That morning she suffered a grand mal seizure and never really seemed to be herself so we took her in. I've gone through a huge range of emotions from feeling like it was the best thing, the loving thing, to even feeling like I literally murdered her. I like you, took on a lot more in the way of care taking the past few weeks and I think that made it even harder for me. She was with me through college, marriage and my first child.

It has gotten easier. I can make it through most days without breaking down crying. The first week was horrible. I felt like I was walking around in a horrible nightmare and that if I could just wake up she would be home. The second week was much of the same but with an awful emptiness in my life. This week seems to be my denial week. I know some day I will be able to look at her photos and smile but for me this has not helped (yet.)

I did want to say that it does get easier. Some days are still a challenge. Other days I feel like I know at some point I will be able to move forward. Right now I've been trying to honor her in any way that I can.

Your sweet boy would not want you to grieve. He knew how very much you loved him. When they go, they take a huge piece of our heart but I really believe that they fill that hole with a piece of theirs to keep forever.

Thinking of you through this difficult time!