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Ann H
post Dec 29 2004, 10:12 PM
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I am just so mad I could scream. My dad just called to see how I was tonight and I told him I am still heartbroken and sad and missing my Snookie so much. He told me "You better just snap out of it, it's not like a human died". I told him she has only been gone since Sunday that it's only been 3 days.

He said that is plenty of time and I better turn all my attention on to Schnitzel and forget about Snookie. He carried on how Schnitzel will mean every bit as much to me as Snookie did.

He said he wishes I would give him Schnitzel that he thinks she is the best he has ever seen. He wanted her the day my sister brought her to me. No thanks he would only give her dirty looks and unkind words like he did all his other dogs he has ever owned.

He knows I do love Schnitzel too but thinks a day of grieving is enough for anyone and she should make everything all right. Well it's not alright my baby is gone and I miss her and always will.

3 days, crap, that makes me so mad that he thinks I should be fine. Well I find it painful to think he believes I can forget about my precious Snookie.
Ann


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My girls went to the Rainbow Bridge 6 weeks and 3 days apart.
Snookie had cushing's disease, and later developed diabetes. Both had cancer, Snookie had cancer of the liver, and Chili Bean had cancer of the pallet. Chili Bean was our son's chihuahua but we kept her often throughout her life and she stayed with us for the last 9 months of her life. Chili Bean also had asthma and heart failure. We will see you in Heaven my precious darlings.


Snookie Lynn Howard
2-04-94 - 12-26-04


Senorita Chili Bean Bubbles Howard
11-05-94 - 11-11-04
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BabyHannahsMom
post Dec 30 2004, 11:26 AM
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Abby's Mommy,
So very well said! Thank you so much.

Dear Ann and everyone,
I know there was not one response here, nor have I seen one anywhere else on this Board, that was not posted with the very best of intentions. All good people here, no doubt. But right now, no matter what, Ann needs everyone's support here to do what she needs to do, and that is to grieve every single minute of every single night and day if that is what she feels in her heart and soul. She has been so strong, so brave, so helpful to everyone here, to her family, her children, and all of her "animal grandchildren," and she is STILL doing so right at this devastating time in her life. I know she is exhausted. It is Ann's time right now to grieve for all of her losses. Ann is a strong person, but now is the time for her to not be strong. She has that right. She needs that right. Some of us here -- a lot of us here-- were "basket cases" for quite some time, and that IS OKAY. As Abby's Mommy said, every good grief counselor will tell you that. I don't think any of us here is a licensed "counselor," but we speak from our own very personal experiences. That is what we are here for -- in this time of unbearable loss and devastation, to reassure each other that our feelings -- no matter what they are -- deserve and need to be felt until we can really, truly resolve them in our hearts and our minds because these feelings will NOT just go away. They will return if they are not acknowledged at the time they are ready to be felt, and that is what becomes unhealthy. Not getting out of bed, not dressing, not even showering, crying, anything anyone feels at this stage, is OKAY. The only other thing anyone NEEDS to do at this time is to try to eat, try to rest, and try to take care of themselves. These things too are difficult at best.

I realize not everyone feels this way and/or agrees, and everyone is entitled to their own thoughts about it obviously. I am not saying that. But I will say, if you are denying your own grief and feeling you need to be over it "soon," maybe you are under the influence of a society that does not give us permission to grieve over the loss of a "pet." The grief does need to be felt, acknowledged and talked about and whatever else because it will not go away on its own. If it does go away on its own, it is because those feelings have been "stuffed" way down inside. We never "get over" this loss, but we can accept it and move on with our lives when the time is right for us. Time does not heal the wounds. It IS, as lots of you have said, what we do with the time, that helps us heal. And then we can live with the loss. The loss is there. It is real. It will never go away. A piece of us is gone forever. But we will live again. We will love again. But never, ever in the same way. But that is okay too. Because of the deep love we felt for these "children" and the unconditional love we received from these "children," we have been truly blessed, and we will go on with our lives when the time is right.

I want to reiterate, I know everyone here is good and kind and wants only the best for everyone here. That's what I want too. This is a place where each of us is allowed, encouraged and needs to express our own true feelings, and it has been, and I believe it is, a safe place to do that. So, please, let's try not to get offended or decide we are going to leave if someone doesn't agree with us. I have done that myself a couple of times in the past, but I intend not to do that again. This site and the people here are too important to me. I want to thank Abby's Mommy for being so courageous because had she not made her wonderful post, my post would have been different -- maybe not so outspoken and I would have waited so I could try to "get it just right." Thank you, Abby's Mommy.
Love to all,
Marcia
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