My Kitty Bella Is Gone Options

[BellasRainbow]

I lost my companion of twelve years last Thursday. She was a beautiful black and white Turkish Van. The illnesses took her within two weeks; she was in kidney failure and liver failure as well as suffering from bladder stones. Due to her multiple illnesses, she was unable to recover from the bladder surgery. She was no longer eating or drinking, and she was hiding from us, which was totally out of character for her. My husband and I were forced to make the difficult decision to euthanize her. I can't believe she is gone.

She was my best buddy, my constant companion. I have such guilt over the euthanasia. We were present, and my face was the last thing that she saw. I have such a hard time believing that the procedure wasn't painful for her, even though I have read multiple sites that detail the procedure. My brain knows that she was suffering, and that we did the humane thing, my heart just doesn't want to believe it. I am so lonely now, and I miss her so much. My husband and I are expecting our first child in October, and I really wanted Bella to meet the baby. She was such a friendly cat, everyone loved her, and I know she would have loved the baby. Honestly, I am at a total loss. I have so many things to do, but I just don't really want to do any of them. I feel like a have a hole in my heart big enough to drive through.

[DannysMom]

BellasRainbow, please accept my sincere sympathies on the loss of your precious Bella. I am very sorry for your loss. Turkish Vans are beautiful cats, and I've heard they like water and even take a swim sometimes. Your Bella is now safe in the company of the angels as moon_beam (the mother of us all on this board) would say. I am a poor substitute for moon_beam's soothing words of comfort, but I will try to fill in as best I can.

I am sorry that you lost Bella at a time like this, when you are expecting a baby, which is really a very happy event. I am sure that Bella would have loved the baby. You must truly be an animal lover, as some people would give up their cats when they are expecting a baby. This must be so hard for you, and I wish I had the right words to say. Please take good care of yourself and get plenty of rest, because grief wears a person down.

I have lost two cats within the past 6 months, and I know how painful it is. Please let me reassure you about the euthanasia procedure. It really is quite painless for them. They simply slip quietly away, and it is fairly quick. I held my Tina in my arms when the vet injected her and she went very quickly.

BellasRainbow, you said you have so many things to do and now you don't know really want to do any of them. That is what grief does. It slows us down tremendously. Be very gentle with yourself and do not take on too much at this time. Try to rest as much as possible.

Hugs,
DannysMom