Tucker Deserves The Best In Life And In Heaven Options

[WAdoglover]

I have started writing this several times, each with a heartfelt justification of why I love Tucker. I am going to put that aside for the moment. I, like everyone else on this site, joined out of a deep love, perhaps beyond many pet owners (just the term pet owner makes me shudder as if they are just property). I feel such a lonely devestation as if no one else could possibly understand what I am going through. I know that is not the case, but few people show in public or verbalize how devastated they are over their animals.

Tucker is still with me, but on borrowed time. This borrowed time even has extended beyond what has been fair to my fur child. He is suffering from larangeal paralysis and degenerative nerve damage. Surgery is out of the question. Some days I wish that God would make the umbearable decision for me and take him to the rainbow bridge since I am having a difficult time making the right decision. Truth is, my children are in the middle of finals and my oldest who is a Junior and on the verge of a 4.0. Really??? Am I really making a decision for him to hang on so that my kid can get a 4.0? Or am I just using this as an excuse to have more time with him? Am I avoiding the issue because I do not want my children to feel the pain I am currently experiencing? I spend my days laying down with him keeping him calm. I know we cannot keep on this path, and I know Tucker deserves better.

Perhaps the real issue for some of us who experience this type of grief is the depression that goes with it. Is it really reasonable to think that I can make a decision when experiencing the depression that goes with it? I am not ashamed of the deep love I have for my dog but at the moment it feels like a curse.

[Bobbie]

Dear WA and Tucker,

There are some very good books for and about children and pet loss out there now. You may have to do a bit of digging, but if you have the chance to google something like "pet loss and children" you may find some titles that would be at your local library or Amazon ships really fast. Good luck, my friend. Burn everything you can into that brain of yours (I did) and then write it down ASAP. That will make a huge difference in the future.
Also, most folks think this is just too wierd, but there are many, many people on this site that have done the same thing: get a decent sample of Tucker's fur/hair. I don't know if he is short, medium or long haired, but I've done that for several of my boys and they are beyond precious keepsakes now. I even have a locket with a bit of Trevor's hair around my neck 24/7. Touching it makes me feel closer to him.

Enough "advice" - go and be with your Tucker. And please be sure to tell him how many people also love him and how many beloved companions are waiting to greet him when it's his turn to cross the Rainbow Bridge into the Perfect World (Heaven).

Peace and blessings to you both, this afternoon. (on top of all the other blessings)

XOXOxoxo
Bobbie