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[Maggie's Mommy]

I am heartbroken! I put my Maggie to sleep on Sunday. I know it's not even been a week but I have never felt this kind of pain before. I don't have children and I am a single person so Maggie was my family. I felt that with her I was a mommy. Now she is gone and my house and heart seems empty. I am now physically ill which I believe is due to lack of sleep and eating. I am not able to work and have called in sick a few days. My job is ok with it so far, partly because I am so physically ill but also because I have been at my company for years and I don't call in. Everyone says this is normal and it will pass but I am not sure I want it to. I don't want to not think of her and I feel guilty when I think of moving on. I just feel as though my heart doesn't beat the same without her.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Maggie's Mommy, please permit me to add my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Maggie. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company. Euthanasia is the last gift of love we can give to our companions on this side of eternity at great sacrifice to ourselves so that they can be restored to their former youthfulness in the company of the angels.

Maggie's Mommy, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences you will know on this side of eternity. Clinical professionals now recognize that the physical loss of a beloved companion is as hard as, if not more so, as the physical loss of a human family member or friend. So please let me try to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal - - very painful, yes - - both physically and emotionally - - but still very normal. Grieving takes a lot of energy, and the stress of grief does take a toll on your immune system. It is very important that you try to keep the stress levels at a minimum as much as possible especially during the deep grief. It is also very important that you keep yourself hydrated for the stress of grief can lead to dehydration and other physical challenges. If you are not able to eat please be sure to drink plenty of fluids - - water, broth, - - etc.. The symptoms of nauseau, insomnia, depression, etc., are all a part of the deep grief, Maggie's Mommy. In time these symptoms will ease, but it just takes time - - and it is important that you take extra special care of yourself during this physical and emotional vulnerable time in your life.

Another important thing for you to understand is that this grief journey is not about "moving on" or "forgetting" your beloved Maggie. It is a journey of adjustment to the phsyical absence of your beloved Maggie - - which is a very difficult and painful physical and emotional adjustment. The love bond you and your beloved Maggie have is eternal - - it is not dependent upon the physical laws of time and space. Your beloved Maggie's sweet Living Spirit is forever with you in your heart and memories. She continues to share your earthly journey just as she always has and always will. NOTHING - - no matter how much time passes nor the dimming of your mind with age (and I promise you this as I am a senior citizen) - - will ever take your beloved Maggie away from you.

This grief journey can only be traveled one day at a time in your own way and in your own time. One of the many things you need to remember is that you are not alone in your grief journey - - not ever. Each of us here do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Maggie's Mommy, I know there are no adequate words in any language that can begin to soothe the seering pain in your heart. I can only hope that the words I have shared with you will bring some comfort, encouragement, support, and hope to you as you travel your grief journey. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to sharing a picture(s) of your beloved Maggie with us - -but only when / if you want to. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Maggie's Mommy, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam