Lack Of Support From Friends Options

[lucky01]

Hello-

I recently had to put down my dog, Lucky, on Saturday night. It was a horrible decision to have to make. Besides the loss that I feel, what really surprised me was how little some of my friends seem to care. So I guess I'm venting a bit here.

I use Facebook quite a bit and have always prided myself on being as supportive as possible when my friends experience loss or a hardship. I also learned that one should never try to marginalize or minimize any loss no matter how I may feel about it. After all, it's not for me to decide. What's important is that you respect what the person who experienced the loss is feeling and do your best to comfort them and be of help.

Some of my friends did really step up, others didn't. Perhaps I just angry and am over-&%^yzing the whole thing. Perhaps people just don't know what to do or how to respond. All I know is that I handle things much differently than many of my friends.

...and if I hear the old, "it's just a dog" thing, they better step back about 5 feet from me

BTW, thanks to all forum members and the creator of this website for creating this special place.

[Cheryl83]

It sounds pretty 'normal' to me. You've been through an awful lot in a short space of time, and you're probably walking around in a daze, still trying to process things. It all probably hasn't fully sank in yet. It's takes time for the reality to set in, so that our bodies can cope with the shock. You will notice that you'll experience a full range of emotions, grief really is a roller-coaster ride.

Grief can physically effect us too, so if you're experiencing a 'fuzziness' in your head, it could be down to this. Make sure you drink plenty of water, your body needs to be fully hydrated to cope with the emotions you're going through.

Take each moment as it comes. We're here with you the whole way

Cheryl x