The Captain Options

[Cappy]

Hello, I just joined the forum, I had to put my beautiful chocolate lab down on Monday. I just have started feeling a little better, but I have my moments. The last 5 days have been really tougher than even human relatives dying. I finally left my house (after staying at my moms on monday night) and am going to pick my girlfiend up from the airport. I will probably not be on here too much this weekend, but wanted to say "Hi" and hope I can talk with some nice people when Im not having such a great moment. He was truely a gift from God, and the house is very quiet. : (.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Cappy, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the physical loss of your beloved Captain. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we are blessed with the privilege of their company.

"The last 5 days have been really tougher than even human relatives dying."

Clinical professionals now recognize that the physical loss of a beloved companion is as devastating, if not more so, as the physical loss of a human family member or friend. Our precious companions give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and in turn, we surrender ourselves to them without reservation. This is one of the many reasons why it is so very painful - - both emotionally and physically - - when they precede us to the angels.

This grief journey is one of adjustment to the physical absence of our beloved companions. There is no way we can ever "move on" or "get over" them - - or even find "closure." These terms were developed in the very early beginnings of hospice in this country, and in my opinion, are very inaccurate. The love bond we share with our beloved companions is eternal - - it is not restricted to the physical laws of time and space. While our earthly journey continues, our beloved companions also continue to share our journey just as they always have and always will - - for they are always a part of us - - they are always a heartbeat close to us.

Cappy, this grief adjustment journey has many emotions of ups and downs, twists and turns, and turnarounds. It is frequently referred to as a "horror roller coaster ride." Please know you are among friends here who truly do understand what you are going through, and we are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Thank you so much for sharing your beloved Captain with us. Perhaps sometime you will feel up to posting picture(s) of him - - but only if / when you are ready. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Cappy, and look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam