How To Cope With Sudden Loss? Options

[hollymonster]

Hi all

2 days ago I lost my beautiful 9 month old russian blue cat. I've never known a character like him, he truly was one of a kind and gave me so much unconditional love. I left him purring on my bed in the morning and 10 hours later he was found dead in horrific circumstances - he was found hanging from a tree with wire round his neck, he had strangled himself. When I found out I nearly fainted, I couldn't believe it. I have been through so many stages of grief. Denial, pure devastation, guilt, and complete shock.

The thing I am finding hardest is not knowing what his last moments were - whether or not he suffered a long and painful death. I'm sure it is the same for people who's pets are run over, or any other tragic accident. I just can't bear it, I've had nightmares. I can only hope the grief and worry will subside in time. Of course many people don't understand, and a few have said 'just get another one'. Some people really don't understand that animal lovers know each and every pet has his/her own personality! I can't imagine being able to give my love or attention to another little cutie EVER let alone straight away. He truly was my little baby.

Does anyone have any advice or coping strategies, or has anyone else experienced sudden loss?

Thanks for reading x

[cowboy]

Hi Hollymonster. Im so sorry for the loss of your kitty. I wish I had some magic words to offer you to comfort you. As raerae said my dog passed suddenly. The friends I have made on here have helped tremendously. Ive taken comfort myself by knowing that I gave cowboy everything I had. I made sure his every need and want was taken care of. We do everything we can and thats the best we can do. We cannot beat ourselves up for not being able to be there for every moment of their life. I found it best to deal with the guilt feelings as quickly as I could. I cant take them away but know that Its not your fault. We have to take care of our lives to be able to take care of theirs. And your kitty knows this. Please keep coming back and letting us know how your doing. Everyone on here is here for you including myself if you need to talk. I know your kitty is in good hands with cowboy and all the others now. I hope you have a peaceful night and a good day tomorrow.