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olivia
post Apr 16 2011, 05:46 AM
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Bobbie
post May 23 2011, 10:45 PM
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Dear Olivia,

I am so very sorry that the huge monster known as Guilt is torturing you so much. Please know, from all of us on this site, that we are here to help you carry anything that is or seems too much to bear alone. Any time and every time. One thing I have learned about guilt and forgiveness is that the former can be conquered and the latter embraced. Sometimes only tiny steps work, like thinking of just one happy moment with your beloved companion. Maybe that memory is the only one you can focus on, but it's enough. Until the next moment arrives with a different little memory. Now there are two. One day there will be three good memories. Another time there will be four. Sometimes we have to make ourselves think of something "happy", but every single memory is there in your heart, aching to come out.

Another way to conquer the monster is by reading and rereading the messages you have received, on this site, perhaps other sites and everything you received on paper. These, surely, validate that the final gift you gave to the love of your life was the absolute pinnacle of love for him/her. It doesn't come easy at first, but it WILL come. It may even surprise you, probably will. But it is coming. And the Spirit that is sending the validation is the one you are missing the most right now.

You don't have to forgive yourself because there is nothing to forgive. You gave of your complete self in the most loving, compassionate, selfless act there is: releasing your buddy from pain, fear, suffering, lingering into a world of peace, love, health, freedom and joy. What better gift can any of us give to another living creature (human and otherwise)?

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Try a bit of tenderness on yourself.

Blessings.......
Bobbie
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- olivia   I Just Can't Cope   Apr 16 2011, 05:46 AM
- - Bobbie   Oliva, please, please know that your beloved dog ...   Apr 16 2011, 10:11 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Olivia, please permit me to offer you my since...   Apr 16 2011, 11:09 AM
- - Peggy's Human   Dear Olivia, I am so sorry about the passing of y...   Apr 17 2011, 01:01 AM
- - Juturna   Dear Olivia, Please accept my sincerest condolenc...   Apr 17 2011, 11:18 AM
- - olivia   Thank you so much for the replies. I'm sorry ...   Apr 29 2011, 03:31 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Olivia, it is so good to hear from you. Pleas...   Apr 29 2011, 03:34 PM
- - Gretta's Mom   Dear Olivia, I am SO sorry about the passing of y...   Apr 30 2011, 06:05 PM
- - olivia   Hi, I'm sorry I haven't replied to the res...   May 20 2011, 06:31 AM
|- - Peggy's Human   Dear Olivia, I am so sorry that your heart is sti...   May 21 2011, 12:08 AM
|- - Peggy's Human   Dearest Olivia, Just wanted you to know that I...   May 23 2011, 12:51 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Olivia, this grief journey is very hard to dea...   May 20 2011, 02:10 PM
- - Gretta's Mom   Hello Olivia I know what you mean when you say yo...   May 20 2011, 09:25 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Olivia, I am so very sorry that the huge mon...   May 23 2011, 10:45 PM
- - Bobbie   Hi Olivia! I have to tell you, right away, th...   May 24 2011, 11:07 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Olivia, I hope that you are finding some pea...   May 25 2011, 11:02 PM
- - Gretta's Mom   Hello Olivia My heart is with you on another day ...   May 26 2011, 07:08 AM
- - Bobbie   Olivia, I am with Gretta's mom in offering my...   May 26 2011, 11:34 AM
- - olivia   Hi, thank you so very much for the extra replies, ...   May 26 2011, 05:48 PM
- - Bobbie   Hi Olivia! I am so glad that you are OK. And...   May 26 2011, 07:07 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Olivia, thank you so very much for sharing wit...   May 27 2011, 11:14 AM
- - Gretta's Mom   Hello Olivia Just want you to know that my though...   May 29 2011, 08:58 AM
- - my lovley sammy   hello olivia I have only been on this site a few d...   May 29 2011, 09:57 AM
- - olivia   sorry, I just read it all back and it's such a...   Aug 19 2011, 06:48 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Olivia, thank you so very much for sharing wit...   Aug 19 2011, 04:50 PM
- - olivia   Thank you very much for your reply moon_beam, it m...   Aug 20 2011, 06:53 AM
- - Gretta's Mom   Hello Olivia Something Moonbeam quoted from one o...   Aug 20 2011, 03:31 PM


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