Afraid Of Not Being Able To Manage The Loss Options

[Michelle2]

Post 1

[moon_beam]

Hi, Michelle, thank you so much for sharing with us how you're doing. What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Our beloved companions do fill a part of us that no one else can reach - - because they give to us their unconditional love and undivided attention. They accept us for who we are, and we, in turn, surrender ourselves to them completely without reservation - - knowing there is no fear of rejection or having to "live up" to some unreachable "expectation" - - be it in a social setting or with other human relationships. And this is one of the many reasons why it is so very painful for us - - both emotionally and physically - - when our beloved companions precede us to the angels.

Michelle, I wish there were some magical words I could say to you that would take away this excruciating grief you are feeling, but I know there are no words in any language that can do that. The only thing I can offer you is my sincerest friendship hoping that somehow as you read the words I write to you that they will be able to bring some comfort to you. I hope you can feel me reaching out to you across the cyber miles holding you as you cry these healing tears. It is important that you allow yourself the opportunity to grieve, Michelle. Please know this is a place where you can come and share whatever is in your heart - - there is no need for a "public face" here.

Clinical professionals are just beginning to understand that the physical loss of a beloved companion is as painful as, if not more so, as the physical loss of a human family member or friend. This is a fairly new component to the counseling field, and not every counselor has the additional training to assist in this area. I hope your counselor is compassionate and is able to offer comfort and encouragement to you in your grief journey.

Michelle, this grief journey is a one day at a time journey, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. It is ofen referred to as a horror roller coaster ride because the grief emotions can be so overwhelming and can consume us all at one time. Sometimes we can begin to feel like we just don't know which way is up, and that the deepest grief will never ease. Unfortunately there is no "fast forward" button, no "delete" button we can press that can speed up the process. There is no "put A tab in slot B" - - no diagram or instruction manual - - to follow that will make this most painful experience we can ever know on this side of eternity end in "X" number of hours or days or weeks or months. But I assure you, dear Michelle, that eventually your deep grief will ease - - perhaps when you least expect it. But until that time arrives for you, Michelle, please know we are here for you, with you, and beside you every step of your journey. This is a journey only you can travel in your own time and in your own way. There is no "expiration date" here.

Michelle, I hope you will find some comfort in the words I have written to you. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam