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Bobbie
post Apr 16 2011, 08:53 AM
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My Trevor is slowly dying from a bunch of neurologic problems. Most of the time his pain is controlled by medication given every 3 hours. But then there are the nights that he and I are up for hours. Trevor is pacing, digging into the carpet, shaking his head and whimpering with pain. I give him many extra doses of pain medication, antihistamines and sedatives and then wait for them to "kick in". This can take up to another half-hour. He does not like to be touched at all during these episodes and, since he's almost deaf, he cannot hear soothing words. So I either sit or lie with him on the floor. When he does, finally, fall asleep, I cover him with his blanket and lie down beside him, covering his paw with my hand. That seems to be comforting to Trevor.
Trevor's neurologist says that Trevor will not die of the neuro problems. It will be a quality of life issue. Oh, great.
My problem is this: with each of my other ##er Spaniels, I knew exactly when it was time. This time I have no idea. I do NOT want Trevor to suffer, but there are times when he is doing just that. And yet, afternoons and evenings are decent times for him. And my heart just breaks when I think of him not being here (with me). Then I feel selfish, then I feel scared, etc. etc. etc.

Is there anyone who might be willing to share any advice they have?

I love Trevor with all my heart and soul. He is a 12 year old rescue dog that we've had to almost 2 years. He is such a good boy, even with all his "issues" and I want only the VERY BEST for him.
Thanks so much!
Trevor's very sad mom
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Bobbie
post Apr 26 2011, 11:12 PM
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Dear Peggy and Moon Beam,

Well, it had to come to an end didn't it? Trevor didn't have a very good night last night. The meds just didn't seem to "take" and Trevor had a pretty restless night. Finally, I just gave him a lttle bit of everything, sat up on the floor with him and he finally fell into a deep sleep. This morning, for the first time, Trevor leaked urine while sleeping. I knew right away because he was sleeping on the puppy pads. I'm hoping it was simply because he hadn't peed since 10 pm last night.

The rest of the day was fair. I had several things to do around the house and that kept Trevor awake more than usual - he follows me everywhere. He can't have me out of his sight. (good on my ego) Finally we lay down and Trevor went to sleep. And that's when I saw them - the dark color around the outside of Trevor's eyes. It makes Trevor look like he is so exhausted, so tired, in so much pain (which I don't think he is right now) that I just want to cry. And hold him tight and tell him I'll protect you and mommy will take care of you always. It just makes me so sad. I'm sure it's just pigmentation due to age, excess tear production or something like that. But it doesn't look that way to me. Help!

We did go outside for a few minutes right around sunset. It was still warm, but breezy and we stayed in the shade of a big maple tree. We no longer go for walks, we go for meanders. Trevor found some really good dandelions that had messages from several different dogs. He was happy, almost pushing his nose right into the ground. I thought he was going to roll, but he didn't. whew

Evening was a bit rough because our air conditioning duct system is really BAD and it's hot in the house. But eventually, Trevor relaxed on his blanket and fell asleep until it was time to come upstairs. Trevor is sleeping and I'm going to, also. Let's hope for a good night.

And a good night to you, also! Again, thank you for all you have given and done for me!

XOXOxo
Bobbie
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- Bobbie   How Do You Know When It's Time?   Apr 16 2011, 08:53 AM
- - janika   Dear Bobbie and Trevor I am so sorry for what you...   Apr 16 2011, 10:46 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, just want to add my sincerest sympathi...   Apr 16 2011, 11:24 AM
- - Bobbie   Dear Jan and Pixie, Thank you so much for your ...   Apr 16 2011, 11:48 AM
- - Bobbie   Dear moon_beam, thank you sooooooooooooooooo m...   Apr 16 2011, 11:51 AM
- - Bobbie   Trevor's day was pretty good. He is deathly a...   Apr 16 2011, 09:28 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Dear Bobbie, I'm so sorry you're faced wi...   Apr 16 2011, 11:21 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 10:04 AM
- - Bobbie   [size="3"][/size]Dear Peggy's Human ...   Apr 17 2011, 12:40 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Thank you for posting an update so qui...   Apr 17 2011, 02:16 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 03:47 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 03:47 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear, dear Peggy and Moon Beam, Words cannot begi...   Apr 17 2011, 10:16 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Just wanted to let you know I'm th...   Apr 18 2011, 11:31 AM
- - Bobbie   Hi Peggy! You are a beacon of sunshine in my ...   Apr 18 2011, 02:18 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hey Bobbie, I hope this evening finds you and Tre...   Apr 18 2011, 10:46 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 18 2011, 05:56 PM
- - Bobbie   [size="3"][/size] Dear Moon Beam, Thank...   Apr 18 2011, 09:45 PM
- - Bobbie   Good Morning, Peggy! My best friend's nam...   Apr 19 2011, 07:06 AM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, What a sad story about your friend Peg...   Apr 20 2011, 10:57 AM
- - Bobbie   Well, tomorrow (4/20) we are going to add one fina...   Apr 19 2011, 10:45 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, It's been a hectic day and time ha...   Apr 20 2011, 01:27 AM
- - Bobbie   Hey Peggy, Trevor's day was pretty good again...   Apr 20 2011, 09:26 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   QUOTE (Bobbie @ Apr 20 2011, 10:26 PM) He...   Apr 21 2011, 07:48 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   Apr 21 2011, 12:34 PM
- - Bobbie   Thank you so very, very much Moon Beam and Peggy...   Apr 21 2011, 09:17 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for the update on Tr...   Apr 22 2011, 11:34 AM
- - Bobbie   You are amazing, Moon Beam! Always there with...   Apr 22 2011, 09:01 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Thinking of you and Trevor today and h...   Apr 24 2011, 08:55 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing your pre...   Apr 23 2011, 10:39 AM
- - Bobbie   Well, Easter Day is almost over and Trevor is soun...   Apr 24 2011, 09:44 PM
- - LoveMyMickey   Dear Bobbie, Sounds like you all had a pleasant E...   Apr 25 2011, 12:46 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   Apr 25 2011, 03:09 PM
- - Bobbie   Trevor got right up this morning, peed on the pads...   Apr 25 2011, 09:22 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hey Bobbie, I'm so glad you've had a grea...   Apr 26 2011, 01:25 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thanks so much for letting us know how...   Apr 26 2011, 03:25 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Peggy and Moon Beam, Well, it had to come to...   Apr 26 2011, 11:12 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hello, my sweet friend, I am so sorry that the pa...   Apr 27 2011, 12:40 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, unfortunately, eventually the medicati...   Apr 27 2011, 04:17 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Moon Beam & Peggy, Last night I had to s...   Apr 28 2011, 09:43 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, I feel your spirit S O A R I N G as y...   Apr 29 2011, 04:00 PM
- - Bobbie   I think we are on a roll....................Trevor...   Apr 30 2011, 10:58 PM
- - janika   Thats great Bobbie. So happy that you and Trevor a...   May 1 2011, 10:08 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, just want to add my elation with Jan...   May 1 2011, 10:16 AM
- - Bobbie   I said to Trevor this evening, as Stan and I were ...   May 1 2011, 11:17 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, bless your heart. So many people woul...   May 2 2011, 03:53 PM
- - Bobbie   Hi Moon Beam! Thank you for your message...   May 3 2011, 10:15 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, I hope you are doing well and that Tre...   May 7 2011, 01:56 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   May 4 2011, 02:55 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, like Peggy I'm just stopping by to...   May 7 2011, 03:16 PM
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