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Bobbie
post Apr 16 2011, 08:53 AM
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My Trevor is slowly dying from a bunch of neurologic problems. Most of the time his pain is controlled by medication given every 3 hours. But then there are the nights that he and I are up for hours. Trevor is pacing, digging into the carpet, shaking his head and whimpering with pain. I give him many extra doses of pain medication, antihistamines and sedatives and then wait for them to "kick in". This can take up to another half-hour. He does not like to be touched at all during these episodes and, since he's almost deaf, he cannot hear soothing words. So I either sit or lie with him on the floor. When he does, finally, fall asleep, I cover him with his blanket and lie down beside him, covering his paw with my hand. That seems to be comforting to Trevor.
Trevor's neurologist says that Trevor will not die of the neuro problems. It will be a quality of life issue. Oh, great.
My problem is this: with each of my other ##er Spaniels, I knew exactly when it was time. This time I have no idea. I do NOT want Trevor to suffer, but there are times when he is doing just that. And yet, afternoons and evenings are decent times for him. And my heart just breaks when I think of him not being here (with me). Then I feel selfish, then I feel scared, etc. etc. etc.

Is there anyone who might be willing to share any advice they have?

I love Trevor with all my heart and soul. He is a 12 year old rescue dog that we've had to almost 2 years. He is such a good boy, even with all his "issues" and I want only the VERY BEST for him.
Thanks so much!
Trevor's very sad mom
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Bobbie
post Apr 17 2011, 12:40 PM
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[size="3"][/size]Dear Peggy's Human and Moon Beam,

I am so very grateful for your consoling, encouraging and supportive words! You both have given me the insight and courage to go forward with Trevor. His "new" vet owns a mobile clinic now and really does like and respect Trevor. In addition he has given me advice over the phone many times - at no cost to me and no trauma for Trevor. I have also found another Vet Hospital that does sedation grooming, so those challenges are off the front burner for now.

Trevor had a bad night starting around 12 midnight. This time I nailed him with everything at one time, instead of waiting to see what might be working. You know, I have no qualms if I should accidentally overdose him (I would NEVER do it on purpose) because he would go so very peacefully, in his home, with mommy and daddy sleeping right next to him. Trevor did fall fast asleep in abut 20 minutes and made it through the rest of the night and well past 10:00 am! He would wake up just enough to take his pills, in a dog food "ball" and go right back to sleep.

Trevor looks so peacefull and secure when he is sleeping. He knows he is safe and that mommy is with him. At least I hope he knows that. When he's awake he follows me everywhere in the house. Even into the bathroom where his Cheerio's are waiting (he gets 4). Matter of fact, if he is in a deep sleep, in the living room, and I quietly get up to leave the room, he immediately wakes up and tries to find me. He'll even try to come up the stairs if I leave that gate open. He is mommy's boy. And such a wonderful boy!

Trevor used to BITE us when we first got him and we did things he didn't like. We thought he was just an aggressive dog. We weren't used to that in ##er Spaniels because none of our other boys ever did that. It took us several months to go up to University of PA Vet School and there we found out what his real problem was: severe hydrocephalus, Chiari malformation and sphyngomyelia. We found out that these conditions made Trevor extremely claustrophobic, affected his sight and depth perception and his hearing. Trevor also hated to be picked up. So from then on, we didn't do anything that Trevor didn't like and he hasn't even nipped at us since!

Again, I thank you wonderful supporters, for allowing me to lean on you and tell you all about my boy. May you be blessed with love, happiness and contentment every day of your lives!

Gratefully,
Bobbie (Trevor's mom)

PS: yes, expect more tonight. smile.gif
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- Bobbie   How Do You Know When It's Time?   Apr 16 2011, 08:53 AM
- - janika   Dear Bobbie and Trevor I am so sorry for what you...   Apr 16 2011, 10:46 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, just want to add my sincerest sympathi...   Apr 16 2011, 11:24 AM
- - Bobbie   Dear Jan and Pixie, Thank you so much for your ...   Apr 16 2011, 11:48 AM
- - Bobbie   Dear moon_beam, thank you sooooooooooooooooo m...   Apr 16 2011, 11:51 AM
- - Bobbie   Trevor's day was pretty good. He is deathly a...   Apr 16 2011, 09:28 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Dear Bobbie, I'm so sorry you're faced wi...   Apr 16 2011, 11:21 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 10:04 AM
- - Bobbie   [size="3"][/size]Dear Peggy's Human ...   Apr 17 2011, 12:40 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Thank you for posting an update so qui...   Apr 17 2011, 02:16 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 03:47 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 17 2011, 03:47 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear, dear Peggy and Moon Beam, Words cannot begi...   Apr 17 2011, 10:16 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Just wanted to let you know I'm th...   Apr 18 2011, 11:31 AM
- - Bobbie   Hi Peggy! You are a beacon of sunshine in my ...   Apr 18 2011, 02:18 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hey Bobbie, I hope this evening finds you and Tre...   Apr 18 2011, 10:46 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing with us ...   Apr 18 2011, 05:56 PM
- - Bobbie   [size="3"][/size] Dear Moon Beam, Thank...   Apr 18 2011, 09:45 PM
- - Bobbie   Good Morning, Peggy! My best friend's nam...   Apr 19 2011, 07:06 AM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, What a sad story about your friend Peg...   Apr 20 2011, 10:57 AM
- - Bobbie   Well, tomorrow (4/20) we are going to add one fina...   Apr 19 2011, 10:45 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, It's been a hectic day and time ha...   Apr 20 2011, 01:27 AM
- - Bobbie   Hey Peggy, Trevor's day was pretty good again...   Apr 20 2011, 09:26 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   QUOTE (Bobbie @ Apr 20 2011, 10:26 PM) He...   Apr 21 2011, 07:48 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   Apr 21 2011, 12:34 PM
- - Bobbie   Thank you so very, very much Moon Beam and Peggy...   Apr 21 2011, 09:17 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for the update on Tr...   Apr 22 2011, 11:34 AM
- - Bobbie   You are amazing, Moon Beam! Always there with...   Apr 22 2011, 09:01 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, Thinking of you and Trevor today and h...   Apr 24 2011, 08:55 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for sharing your pre...   Apr 23 2011, 10:39 AM
- - Bobbie   Well, Easter Day is almost over and Trevor is soun...   Apr 24 2011, 09:44 PM
- - LoveMyMickey   Dear Bobbie, Sounds like you all had a pleasant E...   Apr 25 2011, 12:46 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   Apr 25 2011, 03:09 PM
- - Bobbie   Trevor got right up this morning, peed on the pads...   Apr 25 2011, 09:22 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hey Bobbie, I'm so glad you've had a grea...   Apr 26 2011, 01:25 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thanks so much for letting us know how...   Apr 26 2011, 03:25 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Peggy and Moon Beam, Well, it had to come to...   Apr 26 2011, 11:12 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hello, my sweet friend, I am so sorry that the pa...   Apr 27 2011, 12:40 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, unfortunately, eventually the medicati...   Apr 27 2011, 04:17 PM
- - Bobbie   Dear Moon Beam & Peggy, Last night I had to s...   Apr 28 2011, 09:43 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, I feel your spirit S O A R I N G as y...   Apr 29 2011, 04:00 PM
- - Bobbie   I think we are on a roll....................Trevor...   Apr 30 2011, 10:58 PM
- - janika   Thats great Bobbie. So happy that you and Trevor a...   May 1 2011, 10:08 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, just want to add my elation with Jan...   May 1 2011, 10:16 AM
- - Bobbie   I said to Trevor this evening, as Stan and I were ...   May 1 2011, 11:17 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, bless your heart. So many people woul...   May 2 2011, 03:53 PM
- - Bobbie   Hi Moon Beam! Thank you for your message...   May 3 2011, 10:15 PM
|- - Peggy's Human   Hi Bobbie, I hope you are doing well and that Tre...   May 7 2011, 01:56 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, thank you so much for letting us know ...   May 4 2011, 02:55 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Bobbie, like Peggy I'm just stopping by to...   May 7 2011, 03:16 PM
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