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Ohev
post Feb 16 2011, 06:51 PM
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A couple of weeks ago my brother-in-law died. We took our Golden Retriever to the Kennel to be boarded. The funeral was in Alabama and I live in Illinois. The morning we left I gave Shadow a hug, told him I loved him and as usual he smiled and extended his paw to show affection. About 2 hours from our destination I received a call from the kennel saying that Shadow wasn't eating and was not getting up. I gave the permission to take him to the ER Clinic and had a friend meet them at the clinic. 20 miles from my destination I got a call from the clinic and was told that they did an Xray and there was s "mass" which was probably cancer and that Shadow was dying. I was given the optionof having them do exploratory surgery which would have cost between $3k and 4k. and that the dog may not have survived and it could effect his quality of life etc.... My friend who was there was a dog lover and I trusted her judgement. She thought it was best that Shadow be euthanized. I wanted to turn around and return home, but by the time I would have returned he would have suffered and not been alive. My wife and I agreed to euthanize. I had my friend hold the dog and put the cell phone to hid ear during the process. My friend said as soon as he heard my voice, he relaxed. I gave thanks to Shadow for being my best friend and shared my love and good byes. He died while I spoke with him. I got through my Brother-in law, funeral and returned home in a couple of days to an empty house. I wish I could have been there when Shadow died. He was always there for me. It was not meant to be. It is so hard to be my house. I love my wife, but I still struggle. We have had a dog for the last twenty seven years. Our two kids are grown and live a distance away. Not having Shadow is just so difficult. He was always near me and would follow me around the house. Every AM at 6AM he would wake us up. I hope I will recover from this loss. We plan on getting another Golden in a few months. I guess at some level I don't want to portray that I can get another dog to "replace" Shadow.
It is helpful for me to write this note. I am letting those who have lost a friend know that you are not alone.
Ohev
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moon_beam
post Mar 6 2011, 12:19 PM
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Hi, Ohev, yes grieving the loss of a beloved companion can trigger clinical depression. The stress of the grief can literally alter the chemical balances in our brains to the point where it cannot compensate with the "good" endorphins, etc.. Sometimes it does require temporary medicinal intervention to get the chemical balances back in good order.

If you suspect that you are experiencing depression please do not hesitate to contact your doctor to make an appointment to go see him / her. Please know this is not a negative reflection on you in any way, shape, or form. It has nothing to do with not being "strong enough" or having "enough faith" to struggle through this grief journey on your own power and strength. It is important that you seek professional assistance so that your body - - all of your body including your brain - - will be able to cope with this grief journey in a healthy way.

Ohev, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and will look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
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- Ohev   I Am So Sad   Feb 16 2011, 06:51 PM
- - fcbruno   Hi Ohev I'm so sorry to learn of your loss of...   Feb 16 2011, 08:03 PM
- - JoanneL   Dear Ohev, I also want to add my condolences on t...   Feb 16 2011, 09:07 PM
- - Juturna   Dear Ohev, Please accept my sincere condolences o...   Feb 17 2011, 12:23 AM
- - Ohev   Thank you for your responses. Ohev   Feb 17 2011, 08:51 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Ohev, please permit me to add my sincerest sym...   Feb 17 2011, 06:13 PM
- - corinnajane   I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your b...   Feb 18 2011, 09:19 AM
- - Ohev   Thank you all for your support. I will try to post...   Feb 18 2011, 03:28 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Ohev, thank you so much for sharing with us ho...   Feb 18 2011, 04:47 PM
- - Juturna   Dear Ohev, What a beautiful experience seeing and...   Feb 18 2011, 05:07 PM
- - merlin96   Ohev, I wanted to add my condolences to those alr...   Feb 18 2011, 05:34 PM
- - Ohev   Hi, I had to reduce the size of this picture to u...   Feb 19 2011, 12:54 AM
- - Ohev   Hello again, Well my wife and I went to this very...   Feb 20 2011, 01:43 PM
|- - Sallywest   QUOTE (Ohev @ Feb 20 2011, 01:43 PM) Hell...   Feb 20 2011, 02:55 PM
||- - Ohev   QUOTE (Sallywest @ Feb 20 2011, 03:55 PM)...   Feb 20 2011, 06:37 PM
|- - Rhapsedy   Hi Ohev, I'm so sorry about the loss of Shado...   Mar 7 2011, 01:20 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Ohev, thank you so o o much for sharing a pic...   Feb 20 2011, 04:25 PM
- - Juturna   Dear Phev, Thank you for posting the pic of your ...   Feb 20 2011, 09:57 PM
- - Ohev   Hi I still have my ups and downs, but feel somewha...   Feb 24 2011, 05:35 PM
|- - Rhapsedy   Kudos to you for reporting them. )) I do think tha...   Mar 7 2011, 01:34 PM
- - Juturna   Shadow would be very proud of you!!!...   Feb 24 2011, 11:24 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Ohev, thank you so much for sharing with us ho...   Feb 25 2011, 04:44 PM
- - Ohev   Hello, I continue to have bad days. It just seems...   Mar 6 2011, 10:30 AM
|- - Rhapsedy   Hi Ohev, I had severe depression after the death ...   Mar 7 2011, 01:22 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Ohev, yes grieving the loss of a beloved compa...   Mar 6 2011, 12:19 PM
|- - Ohev   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Mar 6 2011, 01:19 PM) ...   Mar 6 2011, 07:26 PM
- - rainbohdi   hi ohev what a beautiful picture of your beautifu...   Mar 7 2011, 12:09 PM


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